[Author Profile] Nuan Yang Zai Xin, Hongdan Partner, Psychological Counselor, Life Education Tutor. A lifelong grown-up who loves learning, family and life. In life, we often see those excellent speakers perfectly completing a wonderful speech, those excellent athletes have achie

[Author Profile] Nuan Yang Zai Xin, Hongdan Partner, Psychological Counselor, Life Education Tutor. A lifelong grown-up who loves learning, family and life.

In life, we often see those excellent speakers perfectly completing a wonderful speech, those excellent athletes have achieved one competition after another that satisfy everyone, and the excellent actors have performed one wonderful role after another for everyone.

So, as a little person, do you often miss valuable love because of your pursuit of perfection? Have you lost many opportunities for demanding perfection? Do you want perfection and stop moving forward?

In fact, which of the perfect results we see is not obtained after countless modifications or years of repeated practice?

Have we ever thought that in the process of realizing our dreams, is bravery and perfection more important?

In this book "Brave is not perfect", the author believes: " Every woman should say goodbye to the 'perfect girl', embrace her true and brave selves, seize opportunities, and practice bravely."

The author Rashma Sajani is the founder and CEO of the non-profit organization "Programming Girl" in the United States, and a famous TEO speaker. As an active social activist, Sajani is the first Indian-American woman to run for US Congress. She was selected as one of the "40 Elites Under 40" by Fortune magazine, and was also selected as "one of the deeply influential women who changed the world" by Forbes magazine, and won the 2014 Wall Street Journal Innovation Award.

"Brave rather than perfect" mainly shares the stories of her and many excellent women who bravely change the world, thereby inspiring more girls to get rid of the trap of perfection, bravely take a step forward, reshape themselves, and pursue a more exciting life.

We can see how those women who present perfect results use their lives to interpret . "Real courage is to abandon the pursuit of perfection, take a step forward, and truly realize their own value."

01 Brave means bravely moving forward in the face of reality setbacks and move forward

"Courage cannot guarantee that everything will make us happy, but it can make us stand firm and continue to move forward when facing the setbacks and hardships of life."

Musk is not only the mother of "technology maniac" Elon Musk, but also a "mother who rides the wind and waves."

Meyer Musk tells her life experience in her autobiography "Life by Me":

High enough life experience and obesity make her feel very unconfident. So she hurriedly accepted her ex-husband's marriage request and entered the marriage.

In this marriage, Meyer Musk's life was extremely miserable. His ex-husband not only hit her, but also ignored her body. He didn't ask her to rest even when he was about to give birth. His attitude towards her was both cold and cruel. Later, due to property issues, his ex-husband's attitude towards Meyer became even worse.

In South Africa, Mayer Musk made up his mind to divorce his ex-husband.

During the divorce process, she didn't want any property and left only a house where the child could live.

Afterwards, Meyer Musk devoted himself to his career and started his work as a model.

In the following decade, the ex-husband kept trying to regain the custody of the child and kept suing her, which made Meyer spend all his savings, but Meyer gritted his teeth and held on without any retreat.

Meyer Musk said in the book: "We don't need to live in lies. It's meaningless to pretend to be comfortable. In fact, life is not easy, reality is always cruel and ruthless. But when suffering happens, please let yourself climb out of the mud no matter what. Remember, the faster you break free, the better."

02 Take brave actions again and again to eliminate fear

" If you want to 'be brave', there is no fixed way to follow. You can only take action again and again to enhance your courage and eliminate fear. "

"Reconstruction of Life", author Louis Hai. In her early life experience in , she was almost on the verge of collapse when she was divorced by her parents, raped by a man, abandoned by her husband after marriage, and was almost on the verge of collapse, but she did not give up on herself because of this.

She visited a church in New York and became a qualified consultant for church certification.

After returning to New York, Louis Hai started her own "miracle training program".

In her spare time, she wrote the book "Healing Your Body", which established Louis Sea as an expert.

Later, Louis Sea was diagnosed with cancer, and she began to practice the idea of ​​overall recovery in herself. In the end, she got rid of cancer and recovered completely.

She always uses positive and positive words to make her body and mind appear in a state of positive change, such as: "Starting to agree and accept yourself now is the key to positive change. ”, “I have the special power to create myself, which allows us to create as we wish. " These words were written in the book by her, which influenced more people to complete the "reconstruction of life".

Louis Hai said in the book: " Everyone believes that they are 'I am not good enough'. This is just a thought, it can be changed by . "

Through this sentence, Louis Sea lets people know that people help themselves become more and more perfect by taking positive actions.

03 No fear of others' evaluations and persistent pursuit of their dreams

" Once you free yourself and no longer always want to please others, then all those who understand you will agree with you more. At the same time, you must learn to say "no", learn to put forward your own requirements, learn to persist and not retreat, and clearly express your attitude. This is also the biggest challenge we face on the road to courage. "

Yang Lan is not only a Chinese TV show host, media person, philanthropist, but also a chairman of Sunshine Media Group and chairman of Sunshine Culture Foundation.

In her book "Big Girl", there is an article - "Please change the ambition into a lofty ideal", which tells in detail about Yang Lan when she hosted "Zhengda Variety Show" on CCTV, because she was not satisfied with just memorizing the words written by others, she wrote the script by herself with the encouragement of her partners and teachers, and boldly expressed her views, which was praised by the audience and the industry.

When Yang Lan was full of confidence and wanted to show her a lot, a supervisor commented on her: "The creativity is still good. But Yang Lan wants to be a producer himself? Do you think it’s not a glorious enough to be a host? Have ambitions. "

Later, Yang Lan looked up the word "ambition" - it cannot be tamed or has a rebellious heart, is uneasy, and has excessive greed for power, fame and fortune.

Yang Lan said in the book: " I believe that although I can't say everything I want to say, I can never say what I don't want to say;

I believe that there are not only 'why' in this world, but also 'why not' self-questioning.

I also believe that women should also be allowed to try things they have not done before, be allowed to make mistakes for their dreams, or even fail miserably. "

written at the end

Brave does not always mean doing the most sensational, boldest, and most deviant things.

Being the real self, not doing what others expect you to do, but rather being braver.

Because courage gives us a kind of strength, let us make our voices, throw away the things that make us unhappy, and look for the sparks shining in our souls.

It allows us to see that those real self that is constantly troubled and that Xia Yu meets each other is actually the true definition of "perfection".