Introduction:
Old husband and young wife, old cows eat young grass. If this man is still married in the second marriage and the young wife is married in the first marriage, it is even more enviable. I think this man is so lucky.
Zhao Kai married Yan Qiu, who was 30 years younger than him in the second marriage. The other party was not only young and beautiful, but also his first marriage. Because of this marriage, he became the object of envy of others, and he once satisfied his vanity.
But after marriage, the little wife lived a happy life and became more and more beautiful, but Zhao Kai felt that life was miserable and the nightmare began.
01
My name is Zhao Kai, I am 56 years old this year, and I run a building materials company by myself. I am not yet 60 years old, but I already have some white hair on my temples. It’s really timeless.
Since I had white hair, my wife always liked to joke with me, "Haha, you are really an old man now. When we go out, people must think it is my daughter, and maybe I am a granddaughter."
I didn't feel sad because of my wife's words. She said this correctly. I am just an old man now, with many traces of time on my face.
My wife is Yan Qiu. She is my current wife and the second wife. She is 30 years apart, and she is a real two generations.
Even though we have been married for 5 years, until now, there are still people who say that I am an old cow and eat young grass. I envy me for being lucky and marry a young and beautiful little beauty.
But if I could start over, I would rather not have such a blessing. After marrying Yan Qiu, she lived a happy life, but I think this was the beginning of my nightmare.
02
My first marriage ended at the age of 48 and I have no feelings for my ex-wife. Anyway, my son was 22 years old at that time and he grew up. His parents' divorce had no effect on him, so he divorced.
Divorce is not my own idea, and my ex-wife doesn't want to live with me anymore. She doesn't like me smoking and drinking, and she also complains about me not caring about my family all day long.
But, she didn't think about why I smoked and drank, why I always walked out, and I wasn't having to socialize. How can I make money if I don’t go out for social engagements? Can the family drink the northwest wind?
I only know the hardships of a poor boy from a building materials company. My ex-wife doesn't understand me, she can only complain.
When I had no money, my ex-wife complained about me and scolded me. She was so angry that she even called me a coward. When she gets rich, she will only use the money to go to the beauty salon to get her face and buy those expensive clothes.
So, in fact, I have no regrets about divorce from my ex-wife, but instead feel it is a relief.
After divorced my ex-wife, I think if I get married for the second time, I must find someone who knows the cold, the hot and the tactful one. If I can’t find it, I would rather live alone. Anyway, my son is old, and I will be a grandfather in a few years.
03
I met my current wife Yan Qiu 5 years ago. I was 51 years old and had been divorced for 3 years.
Yan Qiu and I met at the barbecue stall. That night I was drinking with a few good brothers, and she and a few good sisters were having barbecue. She called me Brother Zhao, her voice was gentle and she was young and beautiful, so I was moved. I didn't finish the barbecue and left each other's phone numbers. On the third day after I met
, I had a practical relationship with Yan Qiu and naturally became boyfriend and girlfriend.
On the 15th day of my understanding, I drove for 5 hours, filled with gifts in the trunk, and went back to her hometown with Yan Qiu to meet my parents.
Yan Qiu's father is 3 years younger than me, and her mother is 5 years younger than me. When I met for the first time, I was called Xiao Zhao by my future parents-in-law. Although I was over fifty years old and had seen many scenes, I was still a little embarrassed, but my inner pride arose.
Yan Qiu is the eldest in the family. She also has a sister who is in high school and two younger brothers who are in junior high school.
I know the basic situation of their family. Before leaving, I gave her parents 800,000 yuan in cash, which is also considered a bride price.
When I met Yan Qiu's parents, I took her to meet my mother, son and brother's family.
The son is older than Yan Qiu. He felt a little embarrassed, but he didn't say anything against him. He has always been like this, and is an understanding child.
just my mother told me privately, "If you remarry, find someone who is reliable. You are younger than your son and so beautiful. Can you live with you with peace of mind? It's not for your money."
The old lady is just worried about nothing and thinks too much. In the face of love, age is not a problem, height is not a distance, and whether money is not a problem, it is mainly because two people can get together. Yan Qiu likes me, and I like her too. She brings me happiness. We are willing to live together, that's all.
04
I once thought that after marrying Yan Qiu, I would live a happy life. My wife was in my arms and had two more children, and my life would be happy. But, I didn't expect this was the beginning of the nightmare.
Yan Qiu quit his job after marrying me, and she asked me to open a cafe for 500,000 yuan.
My mother disagreed, saying that she is young and has no experience in starting a business, and 500,000 is not a small amount, so don’t waste it at that time. If you really don’t want to go to work, then stay at home, and the family is not short of money anyway.
Because of his mother's objection to this matter, Yan Qiu was unwilling to live together. She said that since ancient times, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is not easy to get along with, and if you want a good relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, you must keep a distance.
She gave me two suggestions: one: let my mother move to my brother's house, and two: buy my mother a small house and let her move out.
I disagree. My mother has suffered a lot in her life and finally enjoys her younger son. How can she drive her out? Isn’t this making me an unfilial son?
Because I disagree, Yan Qiu said that I didn’t understand her and didn’t love her, so he ran out to play with his friends and didn’t go home for more than a week.
I called her, but she didn't answer. Her friend called me and said she was very uncomfortable and cried all day long. At that time, I was really in a dilemma.
05
Later, my mother made the concession and moved to her brother's house because Yan Qiu was pregnant.
The elderly want to have more children and have more blessings. She told me, "You are older than her, please give in, do you know? I'll come back and see you when my grandchildren are born."
Mom went to my brother's house, and Yan Qiu finally stopped making trouble with me and took care of her baby at home. Her good sisters often come to accompany her, but they are quite tactful and they all leave before I come back.
Yan Qiu is really worried. She is pregnant and still wants to open a cafe. I told her, "You are pregnant, don't be so tired. It's bad for your health. Let's talk about it after giving birth."
Yan Qiu said, "Just give it money, but the cafe may not be run by me. I will take care of my father. He has run a fast food restaurant before. Let my parents come and take care of the cafe. Mom will come and make delicious food for me, and help me take care of the baby in the future."
At Yan Qiu's request, I spent more than 600,000 to open a 300-square-meter cafe for her, and transferred it from a friend I knew. The equipment and personnel materials are ready-made and can be opened after buying them.
As Yan Qiu asked, his father-in-law came to manage the store, and his mother-in-law came to prepare delicious food for her. This is fine, and it finally stopped. After a few months, it was Yan Qiu's production period. She was young and in good health, and she gave birth quickly. She was in more than three hours and the child came out. She was a boy, eight pounds and three ounces.
The child is chubby and he is really a veritable fat boy. I am so happy to be old.
With my younger son, I did not forget my eldest son, but instead felt a little owed to him. When I had my eldest son, my family was poor. I ran around for life. When he was born, I was not at home. He has been 5 months old when I go back for the Chinese New Year.
Thinking of this, I transferred 100,000 yuan to my son and asked him to buy some food and fun for his grandson. By the way, tell him that he has a younger brother.
It was originally a happy thing to have children, but Yan Qiu quarreled with me on the fifth day of confinement. When she was using my phone to check her whereabouts, she saw the transfer record I had to my eldest son.
Yan Qiu didn't want me to give my eldest son money. She said that it was the joint property of the couple and it had to be approved by her consent.
I am very disappointed with Yan Qiu. Before getting married, she was obviously a considerate, gentle, and understanding girl. How could she become unreasonable and philanthropic after getting married?
I had a quarrel with Yan Qiu, and my mother-in-law complained that I didn’t know how to feel sorry for my wife. She felt that no matter who is right or wrong at this time, I should not care about it, otherwise the child would not have any milk to drink.
When my mother-in-law said this, I also realized my mistake. In order to make Yan Qiu happy, I gave her a red envelope of 200,000 yuan and a 50,000 yuan hard work fee for her mother-in-law.
07
The youngest son’s full moon wine was held in a 5-star hotel. There were 30 tables, and each table was priced at 10,000 yuan.
My son and daughter-in-law didn't say anything, and my mother and brother accused me. Even my sister-in-law didn't agree with my behavior and looked disappointed.
Mom said, "Your grandson's full moon wine is only 2,000 yuan per table, and your younger son's full moon wine is 10,000 yuan per table. The two children are more than one year apart. If you can't do this, it hurts my eldest grandson's heart." My brother was simple and clear, and told me not to be confused.
I didn't feel confused and felt helpless. Although I have a lot of wealth now, I have never liked to waste it when I have been through hard times.
: Yan Qiu asked, and he had to arrange a table of 10,000 yuan. It wasn't me who stopped her, she wanted to order something more expensive. She said she was a mother for the first time and just wanted to give her children better.
The child's full moon wine happened to be summer vacation. Yan Qiu's two younger brothers came, but after they came, they didn't leave and stayed here to study. They have always had this plan, and they have planned it from the day their parents-in-law come.
Two living rooms and four rooms, Yan Qiu and me and my child in the same room, parents-in-law in the same room, two brother-in-law in the same room, and nanny in the same room, and they were full of living.
Later, Yan Qiu's sister was admitted to the university in this city and often came to our house to play. Sometimes I don’t go back to school and have the same room as the nanny.
people, the house is messy, I have been busy for a day and I can’t get a good rest when I get home. Yan Qiu didn't care whether I was tired or not.
She was either quarreling with her brother or trying new clothes with her mother, and she was having a happy life every day. They are all very happy, and I am like an outsider in this home.
08
The third year of marriage, Yan Qiu became pregnant again. She felt that she lived in a crowded place, so in order to welcome the arrival of this child, I asked me to buy another house in the community.
This house was bought in the name of her parents. After buying it, the father-in-law, two brother-in-law, and sister-in-law moved in.
Yan Qiu said that she is the eldest in the family and should take care of her parents and younger siblings. Besides, her mother came to help take care of the children, and her father helped her manage the cafe. She had both credit and hard work, so she should buy it.
bought this house in full, more than two million yuan, and gave it to your parents-in-law. I didn't dare to tell my eldest son and my mother about this.
Yan Qiu gave birth to a daughter with her second child, six pounds and four ounces, and she looks very beautiful like her. I am also very happy to have a girl from old age and have a new life.
For special reasons, I did not hold a full moon banquet for my daughter in the hotel, but only cooked a sumptuous dish at home to celebrate.
Yan Qiu asked me to give her 300,000 yuan on the grounds that she did not hold a full moon banquet for her daughter in the hotel, and she would take care of her daughter. The incident of
made me disappointed with her. I am usually generous to her and good to her family, but she always does things that make me look down on her, and it’s all about money to speak out.
Now, I have been married to Yan Qiu for 5 years. She is getting more and more beautiful, but I don’t like her anymore and have no feelings for her.
If I hadn't had two children, I would have divorced her long ago. If a person is not of good quality and cultivation, no matter how beautiful he is, it is useless. It is just a body, without a soul, and is so disgusting that people in the world.
ending
Marriage is not a joke, second marriage should be more cautious.
says love at first sight, or age is not a problem in the face of love, these are all too ideal.
Dear is different from getting married. When you are in love, everything is good for the other party. After getting married, there are firewood, rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar and tea everywhere, full of fireworks. Slowly, the passion dissipates, and the shortcomings of both parties are revealed. If the couple is a match between the old and the young, then there will be more problems after marriage. Three years old is a generation gap. It is conceivable how difficult it is to understand and tolerate each other.
Therefore, when choosing a partner, you must see clearly, get along more and contact more before marriage. Especially for the elderly and young, you must be mentally prepared and ask yourself whether you can handle various problems that may arise after marriage. Otherwise, life will be a mess after the wedding, and it will be a big deal to think about it.
