A short week of military training ended. My daughter came back from school and talked about being selected by the teacher as the deputy class leader in the class. This is a good thing. However, she mentioned her confusion, which is the classmate's " moral kidnapping " she, for example, borrowing a pen, helping with cleaning, or other things she is reluctant to do. Ask me what I think?
Don't underestimate yourself
From the perspective of class cadres, if you clarify your own responsibilities, do your best to complete your work, help teachers manage the class well, cultivate students' sense of collective honor in the class, so that your collective can achieve corresponding results, and you can treat every student fairly and impartially at work. Then even if you don’t do the work that class cadres should do, your classmates can understand you and like you.
On the contrary, if you do these things, you don’t like, but you only need to do them in the “kidnapping” of others. If you are not happy, then the people you “help” may not be much grateful! So why do you need to do something thankless? If you continue to do it, you will fall into a dilemma.
Note that no matter what it is, it is related to "people". Only by doing yourself well and clarifying your inner preferences and dislikes can you do better and better. Only by doing your own well and having a clear personality can you establish yourself among the crowd so that those who like you and don’t like you can know what you are like? This way, more and more friends will be sure of. You should know that compromise and lower yourself cannot get real friendship and understanding.
1 Summary: Don’t underestimate yourself, be yourself well and make yourself important! This is a matter of principle!
Don't underestimate others
Clear your principles in dealing with things, and you also need to pay attention to the methods of dealing with things.
As a deputy class, it is necessary to help the class monitor and the class teacher manage the class, and it is inevitable that there will be conflicts with some classmates. Therefore, it is impossible to absolutely not offend a classmate. However, if you pay attention to some methods when speaking and doing things, you may offend less of your classmates, and you can still do it.
First, try to avoid public criticism and criticism of classmates . If a classmate is at fault, he will point out in private that he can feel your respect for him more than criticizing in public; on the contrary, it will make him feel that he is making a fool of himself in public. Even if he knows his mistakes, he may quarrel with you for "face". In this way, the mistake will not be resolved, but new conflicts will be added, and there will be a lack of communication channels between you and your classmates.
Second, try not to criticize condescendingly, and give more positive praise and praise. . You and your classmates are one because everyone is of similar age, and the other is that everyone has the same identity. If you are condescending and say arrogantly, "It's not right for you to do this", "It's all your fault, let the class do it", "Why do you do this?", then it will inevitably arouse students' disgust.
Put your heart in mind. If we like others to praise us and praise us, then the same should be true for others! Therefore, first, affirm the strengths and advantages of the students, and then based on this basis, saying "If... it would be better" to address their shortcomings may make the students better accept your opinions.
If the classmate of your relationship is better than you, we say, "If I had encountered such a thing, I might have..." Would it be better to turn criticism into an alternative heart-to-heart talk?
3, talk about your own mistakes and solutions when criticizing others. Can this better solve the problem? "No one can do without mistakes." As class cadres, we must also violate the class discipline and rules. It is not scary to make mistakes. Once you make mistakes, you must be brave to criticize and punish yourself, otherwise it will leave others with the impression that we are "double standards" or "leniency than discipline yourself and stricter than others".
In this way, when criticizing others, talking about your own mistakes may avoid giving people the impression that you are "just you are right", and it will also make the critic feel that you and him reflect on your mistakes and improve yourself.
Fourth, don’t report it, talk about your grievances and difficulties. is the right to report the situation to the teacher, but unless some things are related to the safety of the classmates, unless some things are really unsolvable, some things can be handled by yourself, so that you can not only exercise your ability, but also make your classmates less criticized (from the teacher's perspective, you can worry less, haha). So you can try to solve some small things yourself first. When solving them, talk about your own difficulties, such as "As a deputy class of management discipline, our class has poor academic discipline. The teacher said to me last time, and then, I can't say how it is you, so I can only talk to you privately. Help, classmate!"
combined with the third point to talk about "I sometimes want to talk to myself in evening study. How did I do it?" Similar words.
This point allows students to better accept us from a sentimental perspective!
Sincerely exchange for sincerity
has your own principles and your own way of doing things. Can it be done?
may not be!
Because there is a substantial problem here, why do you have to be a class cadre! Is it just that the teacher wants me to be? Is it that I want to exercise my abilities? Or is it another reason?
But for any reason? I am already in this class, and as a member of the class, I have become a class leader. I think there are two things we need to clarify. These are also the essence of the above methods.
, care about classmates! Whether it is between classmates or as class leaders, it is always good to be together. Maybe some students have difficulties in their studies, and we can better understand their learning problems in the process of helping them; maybe some students have urgent matters or are not feeling well, so we take the initiative to help them to make them feel the friendship between classmates;... When we treat others sincerely, I think people have the same heart and have such an emotional foundation, students will be more willing to cooperate with you and listen to you.
2, be strict with yourself! No matter who you are, everyone will always admire those who work hard and are strict with themselves. You are loose and have nothing to do with learning, and then you talk about how to abide by discipline and rules. No matter how beautiful you say, will anyone listen? You work hard and move forward step by step in your studies and life, and be strict with yourself. Even if the results are not satisfactory, I think everyone will see it. Confucius said, "If you are upright, you will act without orders." This is the reason.
3, tolerant and calm! I know that talking about this now requires too much attention from you. But "thousands of people and faces" we cannot decide who we can meet. We can only choose to be a little calmer and calmer when facing some embarrassment and embarrassment, and not punish others' mistakes, so that we lose our sense of responsibility in the face of anger.
And in junior high school, there are so many things to do and so many goals to achieve, and we have no time to worry, be jealous and get angry about other people's shortcomings and shortcomings.As mentioned above, other people have their own advantages and strengths, so surely, everyone will have their own shortcomings and weaknesses. Don’t just turn your attention to their shortcomings and weaknesses and look at others with tolerance. You must know that we are born with flaws, so we must make up for our shortcomings and grow ourselves through acquired learning!
Baby, in the middle of the night, I was nervous to type these words: I was nervous to my high requirements, because sometimes I couldn't do these things, although I understood these principles; I was nervous to see if you have any feelings, after all, there was a huge gap between us due to age and experience.
But anyway, I write down these and sincerely wish you! Come on and learn to achieve success!
