People who are most afraid of being either black or white when dealing with things. People who are prone to extremes will not only be overwhelmed by emotions, but are also easily used by others and become a tool for public opinion for others.
The relationship between people is actually even more so. Going too close requires precipitation, testing, time and patience, otherwise you will be disregarded by a simple and profound conversation, and being used by villains and being slandered by evil people, you will lose your own social image and easily lose some very valuable social resources. If you go too far, it will easily make people feel difficult to get close, or it may cause some misunderstandings and prejudice caused by too far.
So, in this relationship between "one white and one black", that is, most people's social understanding of most people, we often use a popular saying to describe it, that is the face relationship.
is related because of face.
face relationship, commonly speaking, is superficial relationship. Although the friendship is shallow, it is still friendship.
In today's society where people know each other's warmth, complex interests and changing relationship positions have made many people feel disgusted in the matter of communication.
They dare not tell the truth or express themselves, because these true behaviors will arouse the paranoids of those who are paranoids, those who are malicious, and more importantly, among the majority who seem to remain neutral, there will always be some guys hiding in the dark, waiting for your flaws in an opportunity.
Friends who have experienced social setbacks will have an experience that although the relationship between people is very complicated, this complexity itself has a kind of absurd purity.
Some people are pure evil, just hope that you will suffer losses and that you will be worse than yourself. Only by being trampled by yourself can their evil be realized.
Some people are purely bad. They play tricks on right and wrong and instigate their positions. Their badness is straightforwardness hidden in the complexity.
Some people are pure stupid, messing up many things but not knowing it. As long as you get too close to them, you will inevitably get into all kinds of troubles.
This kind of purity is often hidden in the complexity. It is difficult to detect at first, but after discovering it, it is too late to regret it.
has no benefit and no reason to do everything well at all costs. These complicated and chaotic social relationships that have to be contacted have become burdens that many people cannot get rid of or can’t get rid of in their lives.
so, face-saving relationship becomes a natural choice.
face relationship means that everyone is smiling, doing things and talking, and the degree is a simple degree, and the principle is a laugh. No one is offended, no one is speculated, no relationship that must be enhanced, and no shirk that must be accepted.
Face relationship is simple and direct, efficient and funny.
However, it is not that simple and pure to truly manage its face relationship.
For example, there are some false interactions between you and me, which is one of the basis for maintaining a face-saving relationship. Moderate show of kindness, moderate "heart-to-heart talk", moderate, appropriateness is appropriate. With such interaction, we can better determine this communication between each other.
is a communication that takes face but not heart-to-heart.
Human relationship society, human relationships are divided into thin and thick. It is hard to say how thick it is, but thin is also necessary. The so-called face relationship means thin intentions, thin intentions, and the value of face. For example, when you help a word, have news, and remind, you can think of such a person. Among the groups, the disposable positions become some positions, and the black and white discussions also have a In the gray spectator area, everyone laughed and hid their emotions in their hearts. In the seemingly unconscious, you come and go,
you see the sinister side of people's hearts,
you see the shadow of right and wrong,
you also began to gradually realize that human nature seems to be complex,
actually, it is simple and terrible,
is also commonly sad.
