Love is noble, love is cheap. Nobility lies in giving each other, treating each other sincerely, exchanging sincerity for sincerity, and moving forward together forever.
Love is cheap because everyone can have it, and everyone can easily abandon it. The more you give, the less valuable it is in the eyes of others.
In the early stage of love, you are prone to feel the other person’s goodness, and you even understand the other person’s ignorance of you. This is because your needs and desires are very low.
Even if the other person looks back and smiles at you, you will feel happy. For the other person, it is just an unintentional action, but you are moved so much that you feel that you have encountered love, which is cheap love.
There is nothing wrong with loving someone. The most important thing is everyone's right. Sacrifice yourself too much for love. Without self, you will find that you don't count in the eyes of others, turning beautiful love into cheap love.
There are some people who are in love, in order to win the hearts and lower their principles and bottom line, and to please someone completely. If they are too humble, they will appear cowardly and easily make women feel that you are a person who dares not rely on. This cheap love is fake love.
Even if you gain love humbly, it is probably short-lived, unhappy, and in the end you will be bruised.
Qian Jialin liked her classmate Chen Hu when she was in college. She got married and had children four years after graduation, but she was still divorced.
Chen Hu is nearly 1.8 meters tall, handsome, city-based, his parents are working-class, and his income is average. But because of her handsome appearance, many girls like it, including Chen Jialin.
Chen Hu had dated several female classmates, but he didn't have Qian Jialin. After graduation, he thought he would not have any social relationships anymore. Unexpectedly, three years later, Chen Hu took the initiative to find Qian Jialin. Everyone happened to be single again, and the seed of love in Qian Jialin's heart began to sprout.
Make up for the loss in my heart. Qian Jialin treated that relationship sincerely, treated it with sincerity regardless of past grudges, and even accommodated it, fearing loss.
And Chen Hu also cares about his well-being every day and shows a very caring look. They naturally got together. A year later, they got married and soon had a child. However, the child was only three years old, and Qian Jialin was divorced.
From love to marriage, Chen Hu didn't work much, and he asked his parents for money to spend it, thanks to his ability to speak. The income is not high but the consumption is not low. Enter and exit bars, Internet cafes and other entertainment venues.
After being with Chen Jialin, he also took Qian Jialin there, saying it was romantic and decompression, but the payment was Qian Jialin.
Because of love and love, Qian Jialin doesn’t care about spending this way between two people together. Because Chen Hu did not have a stable job, Qian Jialin also used her savings of more than 100,000 yuan to let Chen Hu open a store and do some small business, and at least she had an income.
not only found that the savings were wafted, but also allowed Chen Hu to create a large green grassland for himself.
didn't care about the ones before he got married. After marrying me, he was not clean. He carried me on his back. He first talked to some of his former girlfriends from time to time, and then he used his "clever mouth" to date two women in depth when opening a store.
The love he treated sincerely was trampled on like this. The love between them could no longer be called love and disappeared. Chen Hu felt that he had a sense of superiority through his own skin. There was a conflict, and Qian Jialin was all about Chen Hu and putting herself in a humble state.
But Chen Hu did not give her sincere reward. Since she became pregnant, her attitude towards her has changed, and the contradictions have increased. She has become cold, but she still tried hard to accommodate and save her.
Now Chen Hu is getting worse, or he is too involved and doesn't notice Chen Hu's little moves, causing him to find out late and be hurt deeply, and he has not even had time to decide what to do, Chen Hu shows up: divorce, you have to date a rich woman. I didn't like you before, but I just dating you when I am lonely.
In love, the other party does not appreciate your efforts, and ignores your love, complains and accuses you. In fact, you think you are "cheap". Your love and efforts are cheap, and he will not cherish them.
Women who pay back will not be valued
In most places, when getting married, the woman usually needs to receive a certain amount of bride gift, more or less, and even buy a house even if it is jointly invested.
Some people think that if they don’t accept bride gifts, they won’t be valued, and they seem cheap, which actually makes sense.
In love, there are many women who are willing to pay for this man because they love this man, convince their parents not to accept bride gifts, and even give some money to subsidize.
Even if you are prepared to sacrifice for love, failure will hurt your vitality. Things that are too easy to get are often not easily cherished, and even if you get it, you think you are a frivolous person, casual person.
Your efforts are actually meaningless, except for leaving yourself with all your injuries. Your blind efforts may become his own choice and he does not care about any of your efforts.
paste does not mean respecting
"Reciting and communicating" is a necessary condition for our social activities and is also a common human nature for people to deal with. It is also suitable for men and women dating in love.
Leo Tolstoy : "We love each other equally because we understand each other and respect each other."
fully reflects the equal relationship between people. With mutual respect, the meaning of love is found. It is based on an unbalanced grassroots level and will collapse one day. The phenomenon of
back-posting is actually an unequal relationship, which reflects one party’s hard work and trying hard to gain the other party’s recognition.
One party is giving, and the other party just cares about the harvest situation, love becomes deformed and cheap, and even becomes a kind of harm.
Don’t think that your continuous efforts will eventually gain rewards, but reality is often cruel. You are moved by the sky and the earth, touched yourself, but you have not gained good results.
Don’t lose yourself, respect yourself, have your own principles, let men know your bottom line, and respect yourself is easier to gain respect.
Everyone expects beautiful love, and everyone yearns for ideal love, but they cannot be separated from reality, and they cannot indulge themselves, let themselves lower their bottom line and gain the recognition and respect of men, which will only make men look down on themselves even more.
The ideal love in your heart is often hard to come by. You must also judge what you want and what you can bear, reject cheap love, treat love cautiously, learn to leave a way out for yourself, and avoid the consequences that you cannot bear from love.
