Old Li's wife lying on the street, and it was amazing. The people in the village surrounded him. Old Li was working outside. When he heard that his wife had a car accident, he was about to explode. He was so angry that he ran to the street where something happened. He opened the crowd and saw his four children pounced on his wife and cried to death. Old Li's eyes turned black and he almost stopped.
people call Lao Li, but in fact Lao Li is only in his forties. Lao Li has a happy family. He and his wife have a son, three daughters, and four children.
Now his wife died in a car accident. His eldest son and eldest daughter are only a little over ten years old, and his younger daughter is only five or six years old.
Lao Li was heartbroken and lay in bed without eating or drinking. His son and daughter pulled Lao Li's corner of the quilt and shouted hungry.
Lao Li tried his best to get up and take care of the children. Looking at these half-aged and small children, Lao Li pulled his brother and sister together and gave thoughtful instructions.
Lao Li said: You have no mother anymore. Dad, I still have to work and do farm work. I don’t have much time to take care of you. You brothers and sisters must be united. If you have food, please give in to each other. If you have good clothes, please give in to each other. If you have something to do, you brothers and sisters must also help each other.
From then on, the four brothers and sisters, regardless of their size, were helping their families do farm work and harvest rice fields. The brother and elder sister did a lot, and although the second sister and younger sister were weak, they were not idle.
The second sister took her younger sister to pick up snails , and then took it to the county town to sell it for money. The second sister was quiet and delicate, and always suffered losses among a group of children who picked up snails. It was not a big deal. However, when these children who picked up snails gathered together to sell snails, they were jumping around, fighting and joking, pushing and shoving, and the second sister was not as flexible as the younger sister.
Once, the second sister took her younger sister and followed a group of children selling snails to a loft on the roof to rest. She said it was a rest, and no child would squint her eyes and quiet for a while. They were all laughing and shoving. Seeing the two boys fighting, they were about to fall on their second sister, the younger sister quickly pulled her to her side, but the attic was too small, and there was a long staircase behind her. The younger sister staggered and her feet were empty. The younger sister's small body rolled down the stairs with the younger sister's "ah".
When the second sister ran to the younger sister, the younger sister curled her body, holding her little feet in her two little hands, and her face was twisted by the pain.
The little girl had a broken ankle and was covered with plaster. She couldn't pick up snails, and she couldn't sell snails, and she couldn't go to school.
The second sister walked past her little schoolbag with her back and looked at her lovingly. The younger sister was wearing plaster and sat on the ridge of the field where her father Lao Li worked. She looked at her second sister with pity and envy and beautiful eyes, so cute and lovely going to school.
The second sister felt very uncomfortable. She was thrown because her younger sister took care of her.
Dad Lao Li is also a sentimental person. He told his second sister that he knows how to be grateful. If the younger sister has difficulties in life because of this fall, she must do her best to help her.
The second sister flashed her kind and lively eyes and nodded solemnly.
In the blink of an eye, more than ten years have passed, and Lao Li’s children have grown up and started a family and career. They are all the pride of Lao Li.
Especially the second sister, who has a graceful and elegant face with thick eyebrows and big eyes, and a fair face.
The second sister also married a good family living in the city, with her parents-in-law and her eldest sister-in-law, and her husband Xiao Wu is like the only child in the family, enjoying the great love of her parents-in-law.
The second sister's husband Xiao Wu was knowledgeable, so he took his second sister to Guangzhou to work hard. The second sister did not disappoint everyone and gave birth to a cute and healthy child.
The second sister has a child, and she is much more happy, but the expenses are also greater.
The second sister is not willing to be content with the status quo. She also wants to make money. After all, she needs to prove her ability, and more importantly, she also has a lot of responsibilities. For example, the eldest brother and sister of her parents' family are both farming in their hometown, and the second sister needs to take responsibility with her financial strength.
The second sister sent the child to her hometown and was taken care of by her parents-in-law.
Second sister has more time. In Guangzhou, a prosperous big city, time is money, and she cannot waste her youth in vain.
The second sister did not forget what her father told her to her brother and sister.
Now is the time for their brother and sister to have a big fight.
The second sister seized the clothing market in Guangzhou and called the elder brother and sister. The four brothers and sisters joined forces to rent the store, and the prosperous clothing store opened.
Just as the brother and sister were having fun, someone was unhappy.
He is Xiao Wu, the husband of his second sister. In Xiao Wu's view, since his wife's second sister's brothers and sisters came to Guangzhou, the second sister has revolved around her mother's brothers and sisters in addition to business matters.
And he, Xiao Wu, has become an outsider.
You see, because the eldest brother, the eldest sister and the younger sister are both doing business with the second sister, their brothers and sisters have a common topic, and the second sister’s husband Xiao Wu is an office worker, so they can’t tell each other.
After all, the distance between you is like a mountain, and the second sister's husband Xiao Wu is an amateur.
However, what made the second sister’s husband Xiao Wu the most unhappy was that the second sister took good care of her younger sister.
The little sister took off her clothes and her second sister still needs to wash them.
The husband Xiao Wu saw it and was angry in his heart, and blamed him: My little sister is thirty years old, why do you still wash her clothes? Could she not wash clothes by herself?
My wife's second sister said: My little sister is busy with the store business every day and is a little tired, so I will help her wash it.
The husband Xiao Wu stared at him and said: You are not tired! Look at how many months you have been pregnant with your second child, and my little sister is so ignorant.
My wife's second sister said: My sister didn't ask me to wash clothes either, but I'm too fat. It's hot in Guangzhou, so my sister will sweat all over when she washes clothes. I just want to help her. Why do you have to worry about it?
The second sister of his wife spoke tactfully, but her husband Xiao Wu was bored with hearing it. His original intention was to feel sorry for his pregnant wife, second sister, and told her not to be too busy, but the second sister repeatedly explained that it was within her ability.
The couple disagree. Her husband Xiao Wu believed that her second sister was Gu's family. Since her second sister didn't care about her body, her husband Xiao Wu also took off a bunch of clothes and asked his wife's second sister to wash it.
However, the second sister thought it was her husband Xiao Wu who was making trouble for nothing and was angry when she was looking for trouble.
So the second sister washed her younger sister's clothes and washed her own clothes. She was angry about her husband Xiao Wu's clothes and left her aside without caring about it.
When the husband Xiao Wu got off work, he saw that his dirty clothes were staying honestly in the corner of the laundry room, and he was angry and he couldn't help but blame his wife's second sister.
The second sister and his wife are not on the same channel, so this anger naturally gathers in their hearts. The conflict between the second sister and her husband Xiao Wu is getting deeper and deeper.
The second sister and her husband Xiao Wu Cold-war . Xiao Wu was angry alone, but the second sister had her parents' brothers and sisters chatting and laughing.
The husband Xiao Wu and his second sister have deep and shallow relationship.
The second sister is going to give birth to a second child. Although the second sister has taken care of her for a while, in the end, the second child, like the older child, was also given to her parents-in-law in her hometown to take care of her.
Second sister's parents-in-law has been taken care of since then. Both children have followed their parents-in-law to school. From dressing and eating to tutoring their children's homework, it is all their affairs. As a mother, the second sister has always been a hand-off boss.
But for my mother's family, my second sister is very particular. She not only washes clothes for her younger sister, but also provides financial support.
Since husband Xiao Wu has had any objections to his wife's second sister, he has also paid attention to the interaction between his second sister and his mother's brothers and sisters.
Xiao Wu has multiple transfer records on his wife's second sister's mobile phone, each time it costs several thousand yuan, and they are all transferred to the younger sister.
How should I explain it?
second sister said: The younger sister has a heart problem. The younger sister’s husband has to take care of their children and pay the mortgage. He can’t afford to treat her younger sister. She is the second sister and cannot ignore her when she is sick. Besides, the older brother and sister have given her financial help to her younger sister, and she should also help her younger sister. Not only does she help her younger sister financially, but she should also be responsible for her sister.
Husband Xiao Wu Zhenzhen said: My younger sister has a husband, isn’t it okay for her husband to take care of his wife? Why do you need to take care of the little girl's lumbar disc herniation?
The second sister is not willing to be outdone and wants to argue. Her husband Xiao Wu doesn't give the second sister a chance to explain. Maybe the second sister's reason is that brothers and sisters should take care of it. What is natural to worry about? Xiao Wu has heard enough of these reasons long ago.
In order to convince the second sister, Xiao Wu gave an example.
The second sister was also ill and had an operation. As a result, the brothers and sisters of my mother came empty-handed when they came. A few greetings from her second sister, the supplements and fruits she wanted were all bought by her husband Xiao Wu with money and effort.
Xiao Wu, who was already worried and careful, finally found the one who complained to his wife's second sister about his family.
But my second sister asked indifferently: You are my man, husband, isn’t it natural for you to buy me supplements, nutritional supplements and fruits? What's there to complain about?
The second sister's retort seemed to be justified, leaving the clumsy-mouthed Xiao Wu speechless.
But Xiao Wu was not convinced. He carefully captured the shortcomings of his second sister's family.
Xiao Wu is going to work and cannot take care of his wife and second sister anytime and anywhere. This time, the younger sister is brought in handy.
But when the younger sister came, the second sister said that she had just had an operation and didn't want to eat or drink, so she just asked her to buy a bowl of porridge for herself and bring it to drink.
Xiao Wu came home from get off work and found that his wife drank a bowl of porridge. The younger sister listened to her second sister and bought only one bowl of porridge, and she didn't even buy a fruit peel for her second sister.
Mr. Xiao Wu found another complaining about the second sister's family, accusing her of being ignorant and lazy. She used to spoil her younger sister for being ignorant and lazy. She used to spoil her younger sister many times. She would sleep after get off work, and her second sister made food and bought clothes, and even washed her clothes for her to lay them flat.
When my second sister was sick, my younger sister bought a bowl of porridge for her to give her to me.
But the second sister still has sufficient reasons to shut up her husband Xiao Wu.
The second sister said: I didn’t just take care of me. I went to a clothing store and sent express delivery to customers. I was very tired. Besides, I just had surgery and didn’t want to eat too much food. It was she who asked me to buy only one bowl of porridge. There was nothing wrong with me.
Xiao Wu couldn't tell his second sister that he was stupid and clumsy, so he broke out something that he couldn't accept. What exactly is
? What makes Xiao Wu stop talking?
It turns out that the second sister's father, Lao Li, is in his seventies and has been unable to take care of himself for more than ten years. He is always taken care of by his parents' elder sister-in-law. Now Lao Li's condition is getting worse and worse. He always asks his daughter-in-law to take care of his father-in-law. The second sister can't bear it and always wants to take his father Lao Li to take care of him and be his daughter's filial piety.
The current climate is about to enter cold winter, and the weather in Guangzhou is warm, and the second sister's heart is imminent to meet her father.
But her husband Xiao Wu built a dam and said he didn't agree.
Xiao Wu’s reason is very simple, that is, his parents-in-law, that is, his second sister’s parents-in-law are older than his father-in-law, Lao Li. Even if the second sister wants to be filial, she should bring her parents to be filial first.
Besides, my parents-in-law has been taking care of their two children. My second sister should first respect my parents-in-law.
This time Xiao Wu was really angry. The second sister dared not mention taking her father Lao Li to Guangzhou to enjoy her happiness. Xiao Wu got angry and Lao Li would not be happy either, but it would aggravate her condition.
The couple's ideas and opinions are completely different when it comes to caring for their families, and the conflict cannot be resolved for a long time.
Today sat in the mediation seat of Jiangxi TV " Gold Medal Mediation ". The second sister is still beautiful and firmly sitting in Mount Tai. In fact, the second sister has a clear mind and never realizes that she is wrong. The second sister believes that helping each other is great love, which is definitely not a mistake.
The husband Xiao Wu was excited and said nothing, and in anger he even said bluntly that his wife and second sister were almost dispensable in the family.
Xiao Wu explained: He and his wife's second sister have been married for 13 years. The second sister has never been in her in-laws' family, let alone in the small family they formed.
Now although my parents are nearly eighty years old, their children have been taken care of by their parents since they were born. Now the children almost never look for their mothers, because grandparents handle their children's affairs properly.
My wife and second sister’s heart is all about her mother’s family.
This time, I came to mediate to let my second sister make changes and adjustments, otherwise, the couple will part ways.
In the mouth of husband Xiao Wu, the second wife and sister are obviously absent from being a wife or a mother.
And in his opinion, the root of all this is because his wife's thoughts are given to her family.
My wife and second sister were also puzzled: husband Xiao Wu always thinks that I have paid a lot to my parents' family and always care about my parents' family, but I feel very wronged.
As soon as the second sister opened her mouth, she was filled with bitterness.
The second sister said: In fact, their parents-in-law had been taken to Guangzhou by them, but they did not live with them. Their two children were still taken care of by their parents-in-law to school. Indeed, I should be very grateful to my parents-in-law for this.
However, although her parents-in-law are old, they are in good health and do not need special care from their husbands. What they need to take care of is her father Lao Li, who is filial to the point of not waiting for anyone. She is indeed having a very unhappy relationship with her husband Xiao Wu in taking care of her father.
Besides, my husband Xiao Wu always said that she took care of her mother's family, which made her parents-in-law think the same.
The current clothing store has been given a share of four brothers and sisters, each of which has been given 400,000 yuan. However, the second sister has not seen any of the 400,000 yuan.
So where did the 400,000 yuan go?
The second sister explained that her husband Xiao Wu lied to her and said she wanted to buy a school district house for her child, so she took the money away. The house was also visited by her mother-in-law, and she had to be seen by her mother-in-law before she could buy it. She said that her mother-in-law bought it with money, but her husband Xiao Wu took 400,000 yuan to return her mother-in-law's money, and she lost her money.
Host Zhang Ting was surprised: Then you have a house!
The second sister was so amused and crying: There is a house there! My mother-in-law was deceived by the person who sold the house and said it was a school district house, but there was actually no school at all. Later, her husband Xiao Wu and her parents-in-law knew that the house they bought had been fooled, so they discussed buying the house.
Honey Xiao Wu quickly took over the conversation: Why are we discussing selling the house? Didn’t you sign the letter?
The second sister said: Xiao Wu coaxed and cheated me and took back the money he bought and did business for me. Who knew that the house was sold, and the money was still kept by my mother-in-law.
Mr. Xiao Wu did not hide it anymore and said bluntly: My mother said that my second sister cares about her parents' family and has not let her family spend less money. This time my mother saved the money.
The second sister looked at the host and observer aggrievedly: Look at what life I live, I don’t save the money I earn, and my mother-in-law still has to take care of my money.
The husband Xiao Wu couldn't understand the grievances of his second sister. Xiao Wu still told the wrongs of the second sister: just a few days ago, the second sister's nephew had a car accident again. The second sister, far away in Guangzhou, kept contacting her brothers and sisters, and asked everyone to contribute money and efforts. Tell me, my nephew has a father and a mother, and my nephew is not young anymore, so how could I let my second sister have such a big thought?
Second sister still disagreed: Isn’t this supposed to be?
Although I am a married girl, my brother and sister have no mother since childhood. We are suffering and burdened and supported us to grow up together. We are brothers and sisters who suffer and suffer.
My little sister fell down the stairs and broke her ankle because she saved me. Later, my little sister caused her endocrine disorder due to taking medicine. My little sister was fat because of that accident.
When I was in love, my second sister felt sorry for my younger sister, and I remembered the scene of my younger sister sitting on the ridge of the field, envious of my second sister going to school.
At that time, the second sister's father, Lao Li, came over to explain to the second sister: If your sister has any impact in the future, you must take more care of it.
host Zhangting Question: Second sister, what did you think at that time?
The second sister said firmly: At that time, I wanted to help my younger sister for the rest of my life. As long as my younger sister asks me for something, I will do my best to support me.
Husband Xiao Wu asked back: You gave your father all your thoughts, your brother, sister, sister, sister, nieces, nieces and nieces, what about our children? Are you not responsible for being a mother?
Because you put your mind on your mother's family, our children can only be taken care of by my parents. If you have time to take care of your children, my parents can also spend their old age and enjoy family happiness.
The husband Xiao Wu was very polite, but the second sister was unmoved and still thought it was reasonable and natural to help her family. Why bother to be petty and make a big move?
The second sister also explained to herself: I have only given my parents-in-law 6,000 yuan to respect the elderly!
Xiao Wu turned around and wanted to argue, but then took his breath.
Xiao Wu took out the evidence to the host Zhang Ting to check: razors, walnuts, hair clippers, sandals, cauliflower, trolley case, Tang suit , Salvia miltiorrhiza powder, Panax notoginseng powder, black sesame, and other daily necessities and nutritional products. These are all screenshots from his wife's second sister's mobile phone, and these are bought by the second sister for her family.
The second sister smiled bitterly and shook her head: Her husband Xiao Wu has been in a good family since childhood, with a father, mother and sister loves her. I will never know how their children without mothers grew up together.
Honey Xiao Wu can’t understand the heart of his wife’s second sister, and the second sister can’t figure out that helping each other can make her husband Xiao Wu hate her.
The second sister’s heart will naturally be more inclined to the point where she needs care and she has a clear conscience.
Regarding the marriage problem of Xiao Wu and his second sister, observers feel that the couple should be allowed to figure out the reasons for their respective psychology.
Lawyer Xu Yixin started asking questions to her husband Xiao Wu.
observer Xu Yixin asked: How many brothers and sisters are there in your family?
Xiao Wu replied: Sister and me.
Xu Yixin asked again: If her wife and second sister discuss everything with you, it is about her parents' family, will you help her parents' family?
Xiao Wu replied: I won’t be willing to help her parents’ family in everything.
Xu Yixin asked again: Whether you printed so many WeChat transfer records or chatting, is this agreed with my wife's second sister?
Mr. Xiao Wu replied: No, I printed it secretly.
Based on Xiao Wu's answer, Xu Yixin expressed his unique views.
Observer Xu Yixin said: Mr. Wu, you have an extreme imbalance in your heart. Your imbalance is manifested in the fact that your second sister only takes care of her parents, but does not take care of your parents' feelings.
The second one, the second sister would rather give her sister an adult, she is in her 30s, and you still wash clothes for her, but you don’t even wash your husband Xiao Wu’s clothes. Xiao Wu, you have the second sister’s thought that she doesn’t care about you.
The second sister’s money and salary are given to you, or buying a house. Such large expenses are under your control. You still feel that the second sister is not wholeheartedly in your family. This is the unbalanced part of your heart.
You only have one sister, and the second sister has more brothers and sisters. You have ignored one thing, there is no completely similar family. You can only love this person when you love her family. The family does not have a complete balance.
The demand level of family is different. The so-called demand level is very related to your original family. For example, your parents are alive, and the second sister lost her mother since she was a child, so the second sister hopes that my father can live well, and I give more love to my father. This is the first place to go.
The second one is that my second sister's father is now paralyzed, and although your parents are old, your parents can still take care of themselves.
The third one is that the second sister's sister has a heart problem. Moreover, when she was a child, she fell down because of her second sister, which caused her to blame herself, thinking that she has the responsibility and more obligation to take care of her sister. This is the inequality between your families.
Actually, I think you should be very grateful. My second sister is so sensible, so filial, and so many brothers and sisters don’t care about gains and losses. This is also a reward. Such unity, in fact, you should understand my second sister more. I have such a good wife, my second sister unites my family so much, and my second sister’s efforts. When you have problems in the future, or when some situations occur, my second sister has this kindness, which is actually something you deserve to cherish, and you just lack this cherishment.
To my second sister, I just want to say one thing, you are very kind, but kindness is a bit lacking in direction. When you are kind and are all in your parents' home, you actually ignore your husband's feelings, show your enthusiasm for your parents' home, treat your mother-in-law, or treat your husband with some emotions. I think your kindness, Mr. Wu will understand.
According to the analysis of observer Xu Yixin, Xiao Wu and his second sister are actually different from their consciousness due to the situation of their original family. The two should see each other's strengths to better balance their life priorities.
Help each other with each other, and mutual friendship is irreproachable. The key is balance.
observer Li Xiaoyun gave her own point of view. In a family, there are roles, father, mother, son and daughter, and their respective obligations should be borne by each of them. However, the second sister has no mother, so naturally the role of mother is filled by the second sister.
I have two sentences to summarize the narrative of today. The first sentence is called character chaos, and the second sentence is called relationship offside.
What is character confusion? In fact, for our second sister, her identity is often an older sister, but in this family, the role she plays silently is the role of a mother. Whether her concern for her sister, care for her, or indulging indulgence, has exceeded the boundary of a younger sister. At the same time, her devotion to the family is not caring about her efforts, in fact, it is more like an elder scattering to the world, and the chaos in the role will lead to the chaos of relationships.
The second point I feel is relationship offside, what is relationship offside? After the chaos of this character occurred, okay, Xiao Wu tried to use his own strength to change the chaotic situation of Ms. Li's original family, so he stood up and complained, complained, restricted, and other methods.
In fact, Xiao Wu is you offside. Is it that easy to break the seemingly unreasonable but balanced and harmonious life that your second sister's family has formed over the past decades?
Their model has been formed for decades, how many years have you been with him? If you do this, the final result will only make you more like an outsider.
The second point of offside relationship can also be seen that in Xiao Wu's family, that is, the relationship between the second sister's mother-in-law and son Xiao Wu is very good and very close.
This is also a common pattern we see when strong mothers and relatively weak sons. Mother-in-law also wants to break the original pattern that has been formed in your family for decades, and mother-in-law can't do it.
In fact, in Xiao Wu's heart, you really want your wife and second sister to become your second mother, and she can always see you taking care of you. By your side, this is a big demand in your heart, but I’m sorry, my second sister seems to have always been the mother of the little sister and the mother of the family, but I can’t be your mother. This is the most uncomfortable thing about you.
It’s just that you can’t express this feeling in words, so both sides are dissatisfied with demands. You two may really think about the future.
In Li Xiaoyun's view, confusion in roles in family relationships will lead to confusion in relationships. Finding the right position in the marriage is the direction the couple should try to adjust in the future.
Mediator Hu Jianyun first threw the problem to Mr. Wu, Mr. Wu, you may have to be in a more open mind, because some things may indeed exceed your expectations. It is impossible for an elderly person to be sick as we imagined. As long as you are filial, you will be calm.
If we deal with the future of life with this mentality, dealing with everyone's future, including the future of the elderly, you will find that you will be in a passive state.
But filial piety is not that simple. Anyone with brothers and sisters, each with family, each with a family, and each with children, these complex relationships are not something we can just say don’t bother me with our eyes closed.
If this is the case, there is actually no family affection in the world.
To be fair, if you look back, is your wife kind? Super kind, so I think you need to distinguish the key points clearly, that is, are you afraid of trouble or are you solving problems seriously?
As a husband and son-in-law, if you have so much strength, you have to be tolerant in many cases. In fact, you have seen some problems. I think that is really a problem, but you just want to be different.
One is the overall situation, and the other is also her burden.
The second sister was helpless. What the second sister needed most was a husband who understood him, not a husband who taught her.
So what should my second sister consider?
The love of the second sister, but the love of the second sister has not drawn a good boundary.
Second sister! You are really a caring person, but no matter how close you are, you are your family, do we have to slowly draw some boundaries? Because the most troublesome thing is, sometimes excessive goodness will really encourage undeserved evil.
The weakness of human nature is whether your kindness to them will over-grow others' dependence? In fact, brothers and sisters should help each other, but they should pay attention to appropriateness and clear boundaries, so that help can better play a good role. So help and boundaries are not contradictory.
Xiao Wu wants his second sister to change his mind, and his second sister should indeed consider it, so that both of you have room to get closer to each other.
Regarding your family’s problem, it shows that you are missing the foundation. What is your family’s foundation?
Xiao Wu and second sister both want to run this family well and be kind. What is
end? It is economic losses, so-called grievances, and things that you don’t like. If these factors in the outside world are affected, they must be taken seriously, or even put aside. If
is an internal problem, it is a problem of concept adjustment. In fact, many things can be laughed out.
In Hu Jianyun's view, an appropriate sense of boundaries must be found. Don't fall into the marriage circle of missing the basics. Both husband and wife have directions to adjust, which is also the focus of mediation in secret rooms.
second sister followed observer Liao Xiyu to the secret room. As soon as observer Liao Xiyu sat down, second sister quickly explained: My efforts to my mother's family are really just an emergency.
Observer Liao Xiyu said: My second sister is to help you, which means you think the help to your parents’ family is not good enough.
But from Xiao Wu's point of view, Xiao Wu earned this money with hard work. You see, you bought so many things for your parents' home, and you didn't discuss it with him. His parents took care of two children, and his parents did not get the things you bought. Xiao Wu must have complained.
On the other hand, your little family can't be broken, you're noisy, fighting, and you'll run away from home in serious cases. Your little family is not done well, you're going to divorce for your dad. Will your dad feel comfortable when he sees you doing this?
Second sister said: Actually, I picked up my father, and I think the first thing is to open Xiao Wu’s heart knot and ask him to agree.
observer Liao Xiyu said: It is nothing wrong to take care of her mother's family, but if you go beyond your position, the effect may be greatly reduced. Especially now that my husband is dissatisfied, my second sister should think about this issue seriously.
Then it is your care for your younger sister, and you have crossed the line! My younger sister has a husband, she has her children, and someone has a husband’s family. Why do you have to take the lead in putting everything about my younger sister above the children and her husband?
Second sister! A person's energy is limited. You only care about taking care of your younger sister and your mother's family. Naturally, you will take care of less children and husband Xiao Wu.
It seems that observer Liao Xiyu is throwing a brick to tell Yu about his second sister's neglect of the family. It made my second sister deeply blame herself. On the other side of the secret room, Zhu Yongzhuo and her husband Xiao Wu were having a deep conversation.
Honey Xiao Wu, like his wife's second sister, thinks he is the right party.
Husband Xiao Wu said: The second sister gives her daughter three dollars to study. Once her daughter wants to buy something, she calls her second sister, and the second sister says wherever she has money, and you will get three dollars.
The second sister came home and saw that there was money on the table and blamed her daughter. If there was money here, you asked me for money!
And the second sister transferred 3,600 yuan to the younger sister six times when she was sick, but now the second sister doesn't admit it.
observer Zhu Yongzhuo analyzed: The problem with you couple is that they are both independent and only know how to maintain their relationship. First of all, I can understand your attitude towards your second sister. Your attitude towards your second sister’s father is because your relationship with your second sister collapsed.
The relationship between you and your second sister, although there are two families behind it, it can be seen that your relationship between you and your second sister is yours, I am mine, and the second sister’s concern is the father of the mother’s family, the eldest brother and sister, the younger sister, the nephew, etc.
And the people in her husband Xiao Wu’s heart are the interests of his parents and children.
Xiao Wu and his second sister are originally husband and wife, with common interests, consistent responsibilities and obligations, and working together.
Honey Xiao Wu nodded thoughtfully and said: He would discuss together with his father Lao Li, who was serving his second sister. His father-in-law was at their house for dozens of days and he was also taking care of him.
The second sister also made concessions: Regarding her sister, the second sister said that she would let go appropriately in the next step and no longer help in every detail, but the old father was a knot that she could not let go. Fortunately, the brothers and sisters were actively working hard to contribute money and efforts.
These sisters have discussed that in the first half of the year, they said that each person would get 600 or 800 yuan a month, or hire an aunt, or choose a sister to live in which family. Kenai and Xiao Wu have been resentful, and she didn't tell him.
observer Liao Xiyu agreed: Brothers and sisters will work together, and it will not affect your small family, nor will it affect your big family.
Xiao Wu also heard good news. It is gratifying that Xiao Wu has always said that he will not reject the care of his father-in-law. As long as his wife has needs, he can do his duty as a son-in-law.
Things are about to be happy, but Liao Xiyu made another request to her second sister.
Observer Liao Xiyu said: Second sister, you also have your parents-in-law. For your parents-in-law, you also have to serve them equally.
For so many years, your parents-in-law has really made no effort.
First, you and Xiao Wu are in Guangzhou, and the children are all taken by your parents-in-law, so you can rest assured!
If it weren’t for your parents-in-law, could you go hand in hand with Xiao Wu to make money in Guangzhou?
Second, if the mother-in-law doesn’t take care of the child with you, can you have the energy to take care of your mother’s family?
Second sister, while you are worried about your parents-in-law’s feelings, you must also care more about your parents-in-law.
The secret room progressed relatively smoothly, and the couple both expressed their understanding of each other. When the secret room came back, can the problem that the two had been struggling with for more than ten years be solved? Let's wait and see.
Xiao Wu first came to his second sister enthusiastically. The second sister stood up happily and hugged each other.
Xiao Wu said: I'm sorry, my wife, I didn't understand you before, but in fact, taking care of our parents is the responsibility that our children should fulfill. In the future, I understand you, and we will serve our older generation together.
Second sister responded: I think so too. Both parents-in-law and in-laws are the same.
Xiao Wu said: I understand your difficulties too.
Second sister said: Actually, I have many things that are wrong. Sometimes I have a very irritable temper. Sometimes I yell at you. Sometimes I can’t control myself. I will correct it in the future.
Let’s work together in the future, I love you.
Xiao Wu said: I love you too.
Xiao Wu and his second sister hugged each other and expressed their feelings. Only at this moment is love flowing.
Xiao Wu said: I found that my second sister is used to being heavy. In fact, I really hope she can relax because my second sister is really too tired.
This requires a virtuous person and a dedicated person. However, Xiao Wu, the second sister's husband, was a spoiled person since childhood. He has parents at home, so Xiao Wu has no worries about food and clothing.
Xiao Wu and his second sister live in completely different families, so they naturally have different sense of family responsibility.
Therefore, marriage cannot be said to be right and wrong. It can only be mutual understanding and not to act independently. Originally, the family of either party is in trouble, and the couple is maintained together. One person will fight alone and make the relationship between husband and wife collapse.
However, in the 13-year marriage with Xiao Wu, the second sister really thought little about her parents-in-law, especially for her two children. The second sister didn't mention a word. The most important thing she said was to have her parents-in-law take care of her, but she was about her parents-in-law! It is because they don’t need to worry too much about their health. If their husband Xiao Wu does not support her in close contact with her mother’s family, they will have a cold war.
So mediator Hu Jianyun reminded her second sister: At the same time, she should also devote more attention to her family, especially Xiao Wu, the person next to her, who also needs his wife's consideration and care.
For Mr. Wu, he stopped accusing his wife and turned into understanding of his wife. The two of them did their best, and the spring of their relationship came. I hope the couple would actively adjust and live a good life.
