people will meet all kinds of people in their lives and interact with different people.
Some people will leave a lot of memories in our lives, while others just pass by us.
But not everyone should stay in your circle.
Some people can bring you more emotional value; some people will only consume you.
Some people have received your favor and know how to be grateful and know how to give for you; there are also some people who just enjoy the fruits of their lives and never know how to be grateful.
There are also some people who "shoulder one thing on the surface and one thing behind the scenes". They look very kind, but they are actually cruel people.
They are used to talking about these words.
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"I do this for your own good." Is this sentence
familiar?
I actually heard someone say:
"You are too unkind. I do this for your own good, but you don't appreciate it."
"Don't be ungrateful. What people who have experienced it tell you will have experience, and it's right."
"Don't be ungrateful. 4
"You should do what I ask"
"Can't you do something meaningful? Is it boring to live like this every day?"
They are used to standing on the moral high ground under various names, and pointing at you in the tone of experienced people.
There is a question on Zhihu: "What kind of people do you hate more in life?"
There is a highly praised answer saying: "It's good to be a teacher."
Indeed, they will use their thinking and experience to bind you, control your decisions, and try to control your life.
For example: some colleagues at work, some friends in social interactions, and even your parents and partners.
Everyone has their own way to go, and life between people is also different.
Your experience is not suitable for everyone;
The path others take has nothing to do with you.
No matter what, don’t impose your ideas on others, that is a constraint and disrespect.
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"You are doing so well, what's wrong with me?"
saw a story online.
Men rely on their own efforts to live and live in big cities; they walked out of a small village, without education, no connections, and no background, and struggled to build a big road by themselves.
opened a factory, became the boss, and when he returned to his hometown, everyone's faces changed.
Then, the relatives and neighbors in my hometown who looked down on him began to take their children to him.
Someone said, "Look at my child is so old, let's arrange some jobs in your factory."
Someone said, "Hey, I haven't seen you develop for so many years. I've just seen you since I was a child. If I make a lot of money, I can't invite us?"
Those who mocked him and looked down on him have now become people who please him.
At that moment, he had an illusion that he once thought he was dreaming.
When he rejected some people's requests, the other party said, "You are doing such a good life, what's wrong with helping me? You are too stingy."
In life, these people can be seen everywhere.
You are not doing well, they put down the wrongdoing, point fingers at you, mock and belittle you.
You are doing well, they all show a "we have a good relationship" attitude and ask you to give for them.
"No one is concerned about the poor in the downtown area, but rich in the deep mountains have distant relatives."
This is the eternal truth.
They take it for granted, showing their mercy;
They don’t regard themselves as outsiders, which is really ironic.
When you meet those who always take advantage of others, don’t know how to be grateful and take advantage of others, you must stay away from them.
"Bullying the lower side and beating the upper side" is their usual method.
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"Isn't it just a joke? You are too scrupulous."
No matter how good the relationship is, you should be moderate in joking.
Maybe in your eyes, it is just a joke; in the eyes of the other person, it hurts his self-esteem.
Everyone has different empathy and tolerance.
No matter how good the relationship is, when you say the wrong thing, it may ruin your friendship.
See a set of data online: 20 most mindful jokes.
The top three are:
"Don't mind, what's stingy? We didn't mean it, why are you friends making such a big furious?"
"You really can't make a joke"
"You're angry? I'm wrong, okay, you won't be so slim, right?"
Do you still remember a hot search on the Internet before?
Actor Will Smith rushed directly to the Oscars stage and punched the host.
The reason is that the host teased Will Smith's wife.
, and the host stood there and said, "Brother, this is just a joke."
In life, there are always some people who regard sarcastic as interesting, ignorant and ruthless as kindness, and treat hurting others as jokes.
"Sense of proportion" is very important in any relationship.
If you want to gain respect from others, you must first learn to respect others.
Not everyone can become friends with you. When you meet these people who consume you, you must stay away from them.
Today's topic:
Have you ever met these people?
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