As the saying goes: children avoid mothers, daughters avoid fathers, and immediate relatives need to pay attention to avoid suspicion, so relatives who are not related by blood need to avoid suspicion. Especially many married women live with their parents-in-law, and the father-in-law should pay special attention to keeping the distance between the opposite sex.
Although as elders and relatives, I believe that almost all father-in-law treat their daughter-in-law as their daughters, even so, lives under the same roof, and both parties still need to pay attention to the details of their interactions in life, otherwise unnecessary embarrassment will arise due to abruptness.
Elders respect the privacy space of younger generations, which is actually leaving a way out for themselves. The younger generation will also respect the elders. Only elders who truly think about problems from the other party's perspective will make the younger generation respect them from the heart.
Dong Manman (pseudonym) has been married into the Zhou family for almost 2 years. She lives with her husband and in-laws. Her husband works and her mother-in-law does housework. Her father-in-law does odd jobs from time to time. Dong Manman wants to have a child after marriage, so she has never been to work. She also helps her mother-in-law work together on weekdays.
One morning, her husband got up early and went out to work. Not long after her husband left, Dong Manman was about to get up. Just as she was about to change her close-fitting clothes, her father-in-law Zhou Dami (pseudonym) suddenly opened the door of the void and broke in. The scene was very awkward at one time, and Dong Manman was so scared that he screamed: "Dad, why are you doing this? This is my room. Why don't you know to knock on the door when you come in?"
When he saw his daughter-in-law's sensitive and strong reaction, he saw that he was so sensitive and strong. , I thought my father-in-law Zhou Dami would apologize, but my father-in-law not only did not apologize, but just turned his head with disdain. said angrily: "I am your father. Why do I knock on the door at my own house? Besides, it's all the family who needs to be so out of the blue? Do you blame me if you don't close the door tightly?"
father-in-law Zhou Dami's retort made Dong Manman speechless and could only turn around. Quickly put on your close-fitting clothes, then walked out of the bedroom and said to your father-in-law sitting on the sofa: "Dad, no matter what, that is my privacy space. Please ask you to take something and cough or knock on the door next time you enter. I either don't let you in, but I hope you pay attention."
Zhou Dami, who was sitting on the sofa with an angry look on his face, still disagreed: " My son didn't say anything about me, you have a lot of truths to say, will share your mine now. When I get old, I can’t expect you to take care of me. I guess I need to be equipped with a gas mask and gloves when I wash my clothes, right?”
Zhou Dami’s sarcastic retort made his daughter-in-law Dong Manman speechless. After all, my father-in-law is an elder, and even more so if I continue to communicate like this, it is possible to intensify the conflict between the father-in-law and daughter-in-law. Dong Manman could only stop arguing helplessly and said that he was going to go out to buy vegetables and come back to make lunch after breakfast.
Just as Dong Manman went shopping for vegetables and passed the small road in the village, she saw her father-in-law sitting together and chatting with another old man in the same village. She saw her father-in-law looking excited and said in a squirting manner. From a distance, she could vaguely hear her father-in-law’s chat.
Father-in-law Zhou Dami not only tells the story of what happened in the morning, but also complains that his daughter-in-law Dong Manman has been married for two years and has no movement in her stomach. She also eats and is lazy at home without working all day long.
Zhou Dami even said that he didn't like the housework at all. When he was excited, Zhou Dami kept asking the other party to comment on himself: "It's really bad for marrying such a daughter-in-law to enter the house for eight lifetimes, do you think so?"
When he heard his father-in-law gossiping with other old people at the entrance of the village, Dong Manman was extremely annoyed. Out of respect and avoiding the intensification of the conflict, he could only cough from a distance. His father-in-law and another old man stopped discussing after hearing the coughing . Dong Manman was so angry that he quickly walked past the two old men, and didn't even shout "Dad" to his father-in-law.
Although the father-in-law is the elder of the daughter-in-law, he is also another kind of father without blood ties. Even the biological father-in-law needs to keep an appropriate distance, not to mention that the father-in-law without blood ties obviously needs to maintain a reasonable degree of the opposite sex.
Daughter-in-law Dong Manman dresses up or changes his bedroom. No one except her husband has the right to enter directly without saying hello. There is a traditional human emotion between the father-in-law and daughter-in-law. Living under the same roof together requires especially to avoid suspicion. This is the enlightenment that the father-in-law should have as an elder.
Both parties should not blur the gender boundaries. As younger generations, daughters-in-law should respect their parents-in-law and even be filial to their parents-in-law. On the contrary, as elders, in-laws should also respect their daughter-in-law's privacy space. The respect between family members of comes from the understanding between both parties. If the elders understand their thoughts, then the younger generation will respect and be filial to their elders.
The harmony between family members cannot be separated from each other's understanding, and even more so from the perspective of others. Only by truly starting from the other's interests can we abandon our stubbornness. To put it bluntly, what is family harmony in ? In fact, you understand my appeal, I understand your dissatisfaction, let go of each other's obsession, and take a step back will make the sky wide.
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