I wonder if you have discovered a phenomenon. That is why fewer and fewer elderly people knock on the door in previous years? In the past, many elderly people went to their friends to play with each other and less often, especially when they were older, they valued their feelings. Since we say that we value relationships so seriously, why are there fewer and fewer elderly people visiting each other? Why don’t the elderly visit each other? Why is this happening? Let’s take a look at this video together. After watching it, you will know why the elderly have visited each other. I also hope to remind all the elderly through this case. A 74-year-old man cried: People cannot visit each other in their old age, otherwise they will harm others and themselves, which is reality.
case story sharing person,
74-year-old Mr. Lin:
Speaking of this, I think I am the most qualified to share, because this thing really happened to me. Don’t think I’m joking, and don’t think I’m lying to you, what I’m saying is true. Just say that, what are the benefits of what I lie to you? If I lie to you, will you treat me to a meal?
No, I'm not going to lie to you, there's no benefit in lying to you, so I'm definitely not lying to you, I just hope that through my affairs, all the elderly can pay attention. People really cannot visit each other in their old age, otherwise the consequences will be unimaginable, just like I am now. Although I have a monthly pension of more than 4,000 yuan, I still have to ask my children for money to live.
Many people think that it is because I spend money well, so my pension is not enough. What I want to say is that it is not like this at all. Four or five thousand yuan a month is enough, and sometimes there is even a lot of money left. But this is all the past, and it is not enough to spend now. It is because I have to give 5,000 yuan to an old friend every month. If I don’t give the money to an old friend, my old friend will tell my child about this matter, and may even call the police or sue me in court.
If that happens, it will not only harm myself, but also harm my children nowadays. So forget it, I can only ask my children for money. My children told me that it is not easy for us to make money. If you can spend less, try to spend as little as possible, don’t spend so much. If we have money, we will definitely give it to you, but our money is not much. You should try to spend as little as possible. If there is, we will give it to you. If there is no, we will use it.
I told my child that I understand. If I can spend less, I will try to spend less. I know that it is not easy for you to make money. Then I asked them every month for 2,000 yuan. I also paid millions of dollars to my pension for 2,000 yuan, and then raised 5,000 yuan to my good friend Lao Zhang. Who can blame this?
If you want to blame me, I blame myself. This matter should start two years ago. You don’t know how I survived it in the past two years. Two years ago, something happened to Lao Zhang at my house. To be honest, I never thought that such a thing would happen to me. In the past, I thought that such a thing would not happen to me. My relationship with Lao Zhang is so good, even if something happens, I won’t make things difficult for me. But after something happened later. I only realized that there is a gap between ideals and reality.
Ideally, we have a good relationship, and even if something happens, it won’t happen. After all, we are good friends, and we can even say that there is a little bit of relatives and things happen. We are still a family and good friends, and we won’t care so much. But after something happens, I find that people are reality after all.
After something happened, Lao Zhang really asked me for money. Lao Zhang asked me to compensate me. In the future, his child would also cause trouble for me, so I had to compromise. Lao Zhang and I are good friends, and we have been separated for many years. We finally met in our later years, so I often go to his house to play, and sometimes Lao Zhang will come to his house to play or spend the night in it.
I know many elderly people who are like this. They cherish their feelings before, and they have no material things. Then your good friends can treat you so well. What does it mean? It shows that your relationship is really good friends. And now that I am older, I want to say something bad. Maybe one day you will leave this world. For friends, you can only meet you less. The more you want to interact with friends, the more you are like this, and you have such feelings before menstruation, so you often go to friends to play, and friends often come to your house to play. Share with your good friends as soon as possible.
At that time, I treated my good friends like this. To me, Lao Zhang is more important than my children. When I met Lao Zhang, my children didn’t know where my children were. Over the years, I had a good relationship with Lao Zhang. Now that I am old, I have less time to meet, so I cherish my relationship with Lao Zhang even more. Sometimes I even let Lao Zhang have dinner at home, and my child bought me a lot of delicious food.
I can’t eat that much by myself, and I also want to share a little with Lao Zhang, so I will tell Lao Zhang about this. I called Lao Zhang. I told Lao Zhang when will you come to my house? I have good things in my house. Come and have dinner. Lao Zhang hurried over after hearing about me. Lao Zhang treated me the same way. His child would tell me what good things he bought for him, or wherever he saw something good things, or would share them with me.
That day I made a bottle of good wine in it. This was given to me by my child. I couldn't bear to drink it alone. Then Lao Zhang also likes drinking, so I called Lao Zhang again. I told Lao Zhang when will you be free? If you have time, come here, I have something good here, you will definitely like it. This thing is much better than the one you last time.
Hearing me say this, Lao Zhang excitedly told me, "What kind of good thing is it?" I haven't had any time recently. I have to take care of the children. Tell me what it is. If it is a good thing, I will go there immediately. If it can't wait, I will talk about it then." I told the boss that when did I cheat you? I said it was a good thing, it must be a good thing. Don’t you like drinking a lot?
I have a bottle of good wine here that my child got back from outside, which probably accounts for several thousand yuan. My child told me that if I can't drink it, I will ask me to sell it quickly. I can't bear to sell it. You are my good friend, and I want to try it too, so I think it's better to let you come and share it with my good friends. Lao Zhang was even more moved when he heard me say this.
Then Lao Zhang also brought his wine and food. We both drank and chatted and sighed that life was, time passed so fast, in the blink of an eye, decades ago were reluctant to eat and wear, but now we have everything, but we are old and old, why does time pass so fast? I still want to have fun, but now I am old and can't go anywhere. Last time I wanted to go to the snow mountain, but I can't walk when I get older, and I'm very scared to not go.
while talking about this, and suddenly, why did Lao Zhang get stuck in his throat? What happened, I quickly asked Lao Zhang to eat more food. My idea was to let Lao Zhang swallow the thing stuck in his throat. This idea is not a big problem. I was like this when I was a child. I accidentally got stuck in my throat after eating those bones.
Then I will eat a big bite of food and press the bone on it. It's okay, but Lao Zhang can't swallow it now. Then Lao Zhang told me to get me wine quickly and see if I can swallow the thing stuck in my throat. The result was that the wings of the test were not suppressed, but the more serious the matter was made, Lao Zhang was bleeding and had to be sent to the hospital.
After being sent to the hospital, the doctor told us that we were messing around ourselves. Now the consequences are serious and we have to undergo surgery. It cost more than 80,000 yuan during the operation, and then stayed in ICU for two days and spent more than 60,000 yuan. I spent nearly 150,000 yuan, and I still need to pay about 100,000 yuan in the later stage. How can I get that much money? Lao Zhang's child also came over and they asked me to give money, saying that this happened in my family. How should I refuse this?
I couldn't refuse this incident at all. And I originally thought this incident didn't matter much, but now I realized that I couldn't get out of it. At that time, I naively thought that my relationship with Lao Zhang was so good, so I wouldn't be responsible, and this matter was not what I thought. But people are like this. In reality, people who involve money will become more than 200,000 yuan, which is not caused by strong winds. Do you think they will not let you take responsibility?
People will definitely let you be responsible. If you are not allowed to take responsibility, will it cost more than 200,000 yuan to be paid out of your own pocket? This is impossible. If it is a few dozen yuan, nothing should be done, but more than 200,000 yuan is not a joke. Some young people only save more than 200,000 to 30,000 yuan a year, and when will they save it? So they have to be realistic. I don’t have that much money. I took the initiative to tell them that I will bear half of it at most, and I will lose even a little more.
This is the only thing I can do. I don’t have that much money. If I have money, I want to improve my life. After all, it’s more than 200,000 yuan, not more than 20 yuan. But they had no choice at all and kept forcing me. Even Lao Zhang told me about this and said something good friend. Now he has become very realistic when he receives money.
Hal Zhang told me that I have no choice, and I have no choice. If you don’t want you to give the money, who will give me the money? I went to your house for dinner, so this happened, so in the final analysis, you gave it to me. If it weren't for you, would this happen? I didn't want to visit you, but you had to come to me and then I would like to talk to you, so I went to visit you. And you asked me to go there. If you asked me to go there, would this happen?
so I think you should be responsible for this matter, there should be no big problem. Now this matter has caused me to get in a dilemma. When I have so much money, they asked me to give them 5,000 yuan a month. If it is 5,000 yuan a month, it will not take many years to pay back the money. In the past, my child didn’t visit me at Lao Zhang, but now I know why my child didn’t visit me.
I originally thought this would not happen to me, but it was very realistic that anyone would be in charge once something happened. So if you don’t have the trick, try not to go as far as possible. This is why not give it to the elderly. Once something happens, it is very realistic that anyone would be in charge. So if you don’t have the opportunity to visit, try not to go as far as possible. This is also the fundamental reason why you don’t have the opportunity to visit the elderly or say that the elderly don’t have the opportunity to visit.
Conclusion:
is indeed the truth and it is indeed the case. Many elderly people do not visit each other because they are afraid of something happening. Once something happens, people will become very realistic. To put it bluntly, what if something happens to someone else’s home and spends hundreds of thousands of dollars, do you think you will let others be responsible?
If you don’t let others take responsibility for you, who will give you this money or your children will give it. Ordinary families can’t afford that much money. You can’t, and you don’t want this matter to harm your children and yourself. So you will also let others be responsible for you. This is human nature.So don’t go to work anymore. Once something happens, the consequences will be unimaginable. Although you don’t want to do this, do you know which one will come faster than tomorrow?
Once an accident occurs, it is like this in the article. Don’t regret it at that time. What’s the use of regretting it? You can’t go back if you regret it. So it’s better not to visit your family. If you don’t visit your family, you will solve the problem from the bottom of the board. Do you understand?
