I am Weicheng Chaoyu, express my attitude towards life in words .
Why some people become losers in life.
Chapter 1 Section 3: Social Emotion
From the examples mentioned in the previous sections, we can summarize the common characteristics of two "life meanings": error and correctness.
All the losers, such as mentally ill patients, criminals, alcoholics, problematic teenagers, suicides, depraved people, etc., are the reasons why they fail because they lack a sense of belonging and social interest.
When they face issues such as career, friendship and trust, they do not believe that the cooperation method is useful. They believe that the meaning of life belongs only to themselves, that is, in their eyes, no one can gain benefits from achieving their goals, and their interests only remain on themselves.
What they pursue is a false sense of personal superiority, and their success only makes sense to them. If you meet a murderer with a bottle of poison in his hand, he may feel the feeling of having power, but it is obvious that only he feels that he is important. For others, a bottle of poison does not increase his value.
In fact, the true meaning can only exist when interacting with others. The same is true for our goals and actions. Their only meaning is to create value to others.
Everyone strives to make themselves important, but if he cannot realize that the importance of human beings is to make a certain contribution to the lives of others, then he will definitely embark on the wrong path.
I once heard the story of a leader of a small religious group. One day, the leader summoned her fellow parishes and told them: Next Wednesday is the end of the world!
In shock and panic, the church members sold all their property, gave up the world's distracting thoughts, and nervously waited for the arrival of the end of the world. As a result, by Wednesday, nothing happened.
The next day, these church members gathered together and asked the leader for guilt: "Look at how bad our situation is now! We gave up all our guarantees and told everyone we met: the end of the world is coming, and when someone ridiculed us, we still said with confidence that our news is absolutely authoritative.
day 3, but Wednesday has passed, why is the world still safe and sound?"
On the fourth day, the female leader replied, "But my Wednesday is not your Wednesday!" It is obvious that the female leader is using her personal meaning as an excuse to escape other people's attacks.
Day 5, but in fact, the individual meaning cannot stand any test.
The true "meaning of life" has standards, and they all have common meanings. In other words, they are meanings that can be shared and are considered effective by others. If a method can solve the life problems faced by a person, then this method will inevitably solve similar problems for others. These successful methods have common significance for human beings and can be shared.
The so-called genius is those who are recognized by others with great significance. Therefore, we can summarize the meaning of life lies in contributing to the group.
Here, the contribution we are talking about does not refer to career motivation. We don’t care about our profession, we only focus on the achievements he has made. People who can successfully deal with various problems in human life will tell us with practical actions: the meaning of life lies in becoming interested in others and helping and cooperating with others.
His behavior will be affected by the preferences of his peers. When he encounters difficulties, he will avoid conflicts with the interests of others and find the most suitable way to resolve them.
Some people will wonder, the meaning we give to life is really: make your own contribution, become interested in others and help each other? Some people may ask: "What should we do for ourselves?
If a person always considers others and sacrifices himself for the interests of others, won't he feel pain? If a person wants to develop himself, he should always think about himself?
Shouldn't we learn how to protect our own interests or strengthen our own personality?" This view seems correct, but in fact it is ridiculous because the questions it raises are all illusory.
If a person believes that the meaning and goal of life are to contribute to others, he will naturally shape his personality into an ideal state that contributes to others and society. He will adjust himself according to his goals, train himself according to social feelings, and at the same time gain various abilities and skills from practice.
Once he recognizes the goal, it is very natural to learn the ability and skills to achieve the goal. He will constantly enrich himself in order to solve these three problems encountered in life, and the boundaries of his abilities will continue to expand. For example, when he faces love and marriage, if he loves his partner deeply, he will try to enrich his partner's life and will try every means to show his abilities and talents.
If he does not have the goal of dedication and is just thinking about his own development, then his so-called love is just pretending.
In addition, there is another thing that can be proved that dedication is the true meaning of life. When we look at the relics left to us by our ancestors, you will see that what our ancestors left to us is their contribution to human life.
We can see the land developed by our predecessors, and we can also see the roads and buildings built by our predecessors. Our traditional culture, philosophy, science, art and problem-solving skills are the results of our ancestors' exchange of life experiences. These achievements are left by ancestors who contributed to human happiness, and those who do not know how to cooperate and contribute, those who only ask "how should I escape life", have left no trace of themselves.
They have completely died, and their lives are so pale and powerless. Our earth seems to be saying to them: "We don't need you, you are not worthy of living at all. Your goals, struggles and values have no future to speak of.
Get out of here! No one is desirable! Disappear quickly!" For people who are not about cooperation but about dedication, our final conclusion is: "You are useless. No one needs you, please go away!"
Although, in modern culture, we can still see many imperfections; but after discovering these disadvantages, we should be committed to changing it. Of course, the premise of this change must be to seek more benefits for mankind.
People who understand this fact and hold this concept are everywhere in this world. They can deeply understand that the meaning of life lies in becoming interested in people and working with others to contribute to our world, and they are also working hard to develop an interest in love and society.
In various religious thoughts, we can see this kind of mind to save the world and save people. All the great movements in the world are the result of people's pursuit of social interests, and religion is the greatest force to work in this direction.
However, the true connotation of religion is often misinterpreted; unless they can be committed to the work more directly, their existing performance is difficult for us to believe again-religion can increase more social benefits.
Because science can greatly increase people's interest in others, it may increase social benefits more than other movements such as politics and religion, and also let humans understand the meaning of life better.
We discuss this issue from various perspectives, but our goal is to increase interest in others and society, promote cooperation, and contribute to mankind.
As long as we give life the right meaning, it will help our cause like a patron saint, but if we give life the wrong meaning, it will attach itself to us like a demon. Therefore, we must understand how the meaning of individuals is formed, what are their differences from each other, and how to correct them if they make major mistakes. These problems are very important and also fall into the category of psychological research.
The reason why psychology is different from physiology is that it can continuously improve human happiness by its "meaning" itself and the impact it has on us humans.
This article author: Chaoyu, a writer who keeps walking, has been on the road.
