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"Eight years of marriage, I found that my husband cheated on me because there was a 5,200 yuan expenditure in his bank card record, and the transfer date was still on Valentine's Day. That day, he dressed up and said he was going out to meet the customer. He came back very late that day. Now I think about it, I am very painful, like a fool, and I don't know what to do." Two days ago, a reader friend sent such a private message.
Seeing this private message, the author felt particularly distressed about the experience of this friend.
For this friend, no matter how painful she is now, she cannot lose her composure. She should remain calm and collect all evidence of the other party’s cheating to fight for the best interests for herself.
In reality, many people will think that the behavior of fighting for benefits between husband and wife is immoral. They should accept the other party’s apology, learn to forgive the other party, and then live a good life.
But in fact, for a woman who is cheated on, this is not a harm, it is just getting back what belongs to you.
In addition, it is not someone else who apologizes, we must forgive.
If apology is useful, what else should the law do? Almost all men who cheat on
cannot trust, because as long as there is a first time in cheating, there will be countless times in the future.
is like the cat that has stolen fishy food, and it will never forget the smell.
When your sixth sense tells you that a man doesn’t love you anymore, then he is very likely just not love you anymore.
In marriage, if a man gives you these three feelings, he may really cheat on
. You feel that he is extremely disgusted with your close contact.
When a man has a new love, he will forget his old love.
The main reason why most men choose their wife not to divorce after cheating is not because the man still loves his wife. It is not that the cost and loss of not choosing a wife are too great that they cannot bear.
If they choose to divorce, they may lose their property, reputation, or even children.
Therefore, all the choices a man has after cheating are actually a consideration of interests, and they will only choose the lowest cost option.
So they choose their wives, their families, and their children.
Because a wife can relieve her family's cumbersome burden, but the child is his offspring. That is the continuation of his genes, and he naturally does not want to lose it.
So they choose family.
Most men are rational, and they often see their gains and losses better than women.
For a cheating man, he may be able to pretend that he loves his wife very much.
But his body and emotions cannot deceive people. When they don’t love a woman, they will be particularly disgusted and rejected.
They will inexplicably choose to separate rooms and sleep in separate beds, and then do things that can stay away from you.
For those men who have cheated, because of the comparison between women outside, they will only hate their wives even more, so they will extremely dislike their intimate contact with their wives.
You feel that he is especially guarding against you at home.
all say: "Don't do bad things, don't be afraid of ghosts knocking on the door."
If a man is like an undercover agent at home, guarding against you everywhere, then this man must have a ghost in his heart.
The most common manifestation of them is that they always keep their phones away, and even bring their phones when taking a shower.
Their doing this can only mean that there is a secret in your phone that is hidden from you and I don’t want you to know.
For such men, if you have any doubts and doubts, they will be furious and then stand on the commanding heights of morality and blame you.
The reason why they are so abnormal is that men after cheating are often afraid of the things being exposed, so they are always in a state of high tension, afraid of showing clues.
can often stand by the river, so there is no way to wet your shoes
The more they are afraid of things being exposed, the more uncontrollable the situation is.
Because they live cautiously and nervously for a long time, their emotional fluctuations are often very severe.
Any suspicion of him may make them burst into tears.
Because they are afraid that things will be exposed, they will use anger and quarrel to divert the other party's attention.
makes the other party no longer focus on questioning his cheating!
For women, when you feel that a man is always on guard against you, is mentally nervous and behaves abnormally every day, then he must have something to hide from you in his heart, and maybe there is a possibility of cheating.
You feel that he is getting less and less in love to go home.
A man suddenly has more overtime work, more social engagements, and even suddenly goes to another place for work. It is very likely that this man has changed his mind.
Men are increasingly reluctant to love to go home, but in fact they are manifestations of not loving them.
When a man cheats, he naturally doesn't like to go home and face the partner he dislikes.
will naturally spend more time and visit your own flower world.
As the saying goes: " Wherever a man spends his time, the man's love is where he or she loves him."
In fact, whether a man cheats on him or not is anything to follow.
When you feel that men are less and less likely to go home, you can refer to the following standards.
Before you don’t love to go home, will the following sudden changes be made by men?
The man who used to be unfairly dressed up suddenly began to dress up and began to pay attention to his image.
For example, he suddenly changed his dressing habits, suddenly became the habit of using perfume, and suddenly began to organize his hairstyle and figure, etc.
The man who used to go home after work suddenly started to socialize more and more, and his friends became more and more, and he got home late.
For example, he suddenly has a lot of friends who can chat with. He often holds his phone alone and is silly and doesn't let you look at the phone.
The man who used to think about you everywhere suddenly seemed to not care about you anymore and didn’t care about your daily life.
For example, in the past, he could remember your birthday, bring you delicious food, and give you gifts, but later he didn't have any. If you asked him if he was willing, he was just busy and he was too lazy to explain to you.
In fact, when a man comes home late and gives you these feelings, he is probably already cheating, and women must not deceive themselves.
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