I am from Japan, married to China for 11 years, and I can also cook Sichuan cuisine in Chinese. The two daughters are smart and smart. The story of Qingtian Xingzi
: Mr. Xiao Han
Picture: From the Internet, delete the infringement
My name is Qingtian Xingzi, I am from Japan. I am now a Chinese wife. I have been married for 11 years. I have lived in a happy family since I was a child, with a father who can make money, a beautiful and diligent mother, and a brother who protects me, so I have a good personality and my mother often says that I am a lucky girl.
When I grew up, I went to college, dated my Chinese boyfriend, and married into China after graduation. My husband is from , Sichuan , and he is very spicy. He is a person with a temperament. From the time we fall in love to get married, it is actually accompanied by quarrels, but there is always a voice in my heart: Xiaoyu loves me, I love him, we will definitely get married and have several children.
Maybe love is just one laughing and the other is making a fuss; it is one mature and steady, and the other childish and cute. Xiaoyu and I are very complementary. He talks little, and I talk endlessly. In life, we can always make him laugh and make him angry and want to beat people. But no matter what, we not only did not separate, but also grew up together. During my 11-year marriage, I gave birth to two smart daughters, which also allowed me to learn a lot of Chinese culture. Now I almost forget my mother tongue when I communicate in , Mandarin and .
1989, I was born in Miyagi Prefecture, Japan. I am 33 years old this year. My father is a software engineer, my mother is a university teacher, and I also have a handsome and versatile brother. The whole family loves me very much. Because my family is well off, my childhood was happy and carefree.
My brother was 12 years older than me. It can be said that my brother took care of me and grew up. Our family is hundreds of kilometers away from our grandparents' house. Usually, our parents are busy and can only see them once or twice a year. My parents felt very guilty about this and felt that they could not take care of the elderly because they were too busy with work.
I had very little impression of China when I was a child. I only knew it was a neighboring country. China was an ancient civilization. As for the rest, I knew big cities like Beijing and Shanghai, and I didn’t know the rest. I never expected that when I grew up, I would marry a Chinese man, and we would often quarrel.
When I was a child, I not only had good academic performance, but also was very diligent. I was the first student to come to school every day. I would take the initiative to clean the hygiene in the class, and my classmates and teachers also respected me very much. When I got home, my mother would teach me how to do housework. When I was eight or nine years old, I started to walk into the kitchen and learn to cook with my mother because my mother said that this is a skill that women must know. Only by knowing how to cook and taking care of my husband can I be a qualified wife.
This is how Japanese culture is. No matter how beautiful, diligent, or hardworking a woman is, she must be responsible for taking care of her family and dealing with the kitchen and housework every day after marriage. Even if my parents are intellectuals, they can't escape the shackles of traditional culture.
Sometimes, I am reluctant to grow up and are afraid of getting married because doing things that I don’t like makes me feel very uncomfortable.
But who will time spare? I can't change the years, so I can only work hard to make myself more and more outstanding. I even thought about studying for a postgraduate, a doctorate, and then entering a postgraduate, so that I don't have to worry about getting married.
After graduating from high school, I entered university and instantly felt the breath of freedom, but my mother hoped that I could study in her school. I did not do this, but went to Tokyo University .
There are many courses in the first semester of college and I am very busy every day because for other students, university is a world of adults. I can fall in love, enjoy my own time, and eat and drink with my friends. But for me, I must maintain a learning attitude because I want to study for a graduate student and a doctorate.
The first two years of college were spent smoothly. Even though many boys pursued me, I was unmoved, knew what my goal was, and would not waste my time on my relationship. If I was serious, I might get married. But when I think of those housework and the kitchen full of oil stains, I feel mixed feelings, so no matter how excellent a boy, I will choose to refuse.
When he was in the third grade of college, a boy took the initiative to say hello to me and didn't want to take care of it, but his Japanese was awkward. He found out that he was a Chinese man. In terms of politeness, we communicated for two hours. He felt that he was a very refreshing boy and was not artificial at all. When he said that Chinese men can cook and do housework, I felt a little incredible, so I became interested and followed him to ask questions, and he also said everything.
I know that his name is Li Xiaoyu, he knows that he is one year older than me, and knows that he is a candid boy.
Good love never needs you to ask, I will chase you, but run in both directions. This is how my love between Xiaoyu and I. I never confessed my love from beginning to end. I was naturally together, holding hands, kissing, and living together!
During the relationship, there will be quarrels due to different cultures and different personalities. He has a straightforward personality. Sometimes he accuses me of his shortcomings without any affection, but he also makes me happy.
I used to think that I was a lively and cute little woman. Since I fell in love, I was like an elf, laughing and not having a positive shape every day, and I always made him very happy. Sometimes when I joked, he would get angry.
After graduating from university, we got married in China.
My parents-in-law treats me very well, but they have been urging us to have children. I originally thought about a few years of two people's world, but in order to make my parents-in-law happy, I became a mother at the age of 23. I thought that now that the child has also given birth, it can be considered as completing the task. But this is not the case.
My father-in-law has the idea of favoring boys over girls. At first, he didn't say anything about the second child again. Since my daughter was in kindergarten, my mother-in-law would say to me intentionally or unintentionally when eating: "Look at the second child of a certain family, the son of a certain family is so smart. The third child is almost giving birth to a third child..."
The implication is that I should give birth to a second child.
Life pressure is very high, and it is not easy for my husband to make money alone. I learned Chinese in China and learned Sichuan cuisine. After all, my husband is from Sichuan and doesn’t like to eat food in restaurants. In order to keep my husband, I also started by keeping my husband’s stomach.
Perhaps it was because my husband was also urged by his parents-in-law and finally asked for a second child.
In 2020, during the epidemic, I gave birth to a second child, but I was still a daughter. Now my parents-in-law didn’t say a word. Maybe I felt a little regretful that I had given birth to a girl, but I had a second child at least. In fact, my parents-in-law have always been very good to me, which is why I respect them very much.
Nowadays, my two daughters are lively and smart, and have inherited the advantages of my husband and I. They are both very beautiful, and their eldest daughter is the first in the class. I hope that the two daughters will grow up happily and healthily and can also get a happy marriage in the future.
