Author: Qing Ruxu (author of Fushu)
Have you ever felt this way?
always likes to be unable to get along with yourself and repeatedly think about some trivial things.
In the midst of inner struggle and random thoughts, a large amount of psychological resources were consumed, and nothing was done, and I just felt physically and mentally exhausted.
is like stepping on the brake and stepping on the accelerator. It has serious internal internal friction and feels that the body is slowly being hollowed out.
The terrible mental internal friction is quietly wasting our years and dragging down our lives.
Stop internal energy consumption and begin to save yourself. The heart is unhindered, and happiness comes naturally.
Don't worry, but your heart is more transparent
Liu Zhenyun 's novel " A mess ", in order to let his daughter enter the best kindergarten nearby, Kobayashi and his wife racked their brains.
However, if you want to go to your favorite kindergarten, you don’t have any relationships and don’t have any doors.
When Kobayashi and his wife were in trouble, the neighbor suddenly came to him.
Neighbor said that his sister's children would not go, and wanted to give this quota to Kobayashi's family.
Kobayashi and his wife are both surprised and grateful.
As expected, Kobayashi's children successfully entered the kindergarten, but not long after, Kobayashi and his wife began to feel annoyed.
They heard that the neighbors had no sister at all. The reason why they helped Xiaolin's children enter the kindergarten was because their children were unwilling to go to kindergarten, so they took Xiaolin's children to accompany them to study.
Therefore, Kobayashi and his wife think that the neighbors are not kind-hearted, but it is not easy to argue with others.
Kobayashi felt humiliated and cowardly, and felt incompetent, and felt as dirty as if he had eaten horse manure.
There is nothing wrong in the world, and mediocre people disturb it.
often, if you think randomly and be too obsessed, you will feel depressed and put yourself in trouble.
is like Kobayashi and his wife. Although the neighbors are selfish, their children can go to the kindergarten they like, which actually solves their own problems.
is a good thing, but because of my pitiful self-esteem and strong inferiority, I just entangled in those insignificant details, so I have to seek trouble, and my life is messy.
In "Ordinary World", Tian Runsheng is such a person.
Tian Runsheng has never had any worries about food and clothing since he was a child. After graduation, he became a driver. In that era, he was a decent and well-paid job.
and Hao Hongmei is a widow, and she has a child, and her livelihood is difficult.
Two people belong to different classes may never have intersections in life.
But Tian Runsheng was not entangled in the worldly perspective, boldly pursued the person he liked, insisted on marrying Hao Hongmei, and was accepted by his family and reaped happiness.
Actually, think clearly about what you are going to do and just let it go.
It is easy to think about everything and see through it. Most of the pain in life will disappear.
As Wang Zengqi wrote in " Slow Cooking Life ": Don't worry, have fewer vulgar thoughts, be content with the situation, and use your original intention to slowly cook life quietly.
There are thousands of roads to life. Standing still, falling into endless entanglement, and internally engaging with yourself, no road can be understood.
People who are truly clear-headed will never worry about which path to take. Because no matter which path he takes, he can go freely.
Don't worry about it, your mind is broader
At the end of August this year, before the future water world performance of Beijing Universal Studios, several tourists were suspected of fighting each other because of a seat and fighting each other, and were later taken away from the scene.
was a beautiful moment for rest and relaxation, but it was scrambling and competing for some trivial matters not only affects a good mood, but also pays for greater losses.
movie " wilderness story ", an Audi man was driving. A strong man deliberately changed lanes frequently, so he opened the window to insult him.
originally planned to leave, but unexpectedly, the strong man caught up with him and was smashed into the glass. The Audi man was furious and hit the strong man's car into the lake.
The Audi man who left was still unhappy, turned the front of the car and went back to continue to entangle with the strong man. The two of them caused a gas tank explosion in the fierce fight.
and the police arrived, and both of them were burned.
in "The Other Side of Good and Evil" Nietzsche said: Fighting with the evil dragon for too long will also become the evil dragon.
It is difficult for you to clear your innocence with bad people, and most of the ending is both defeated.
As the saying goes, "Be patient, calm down your anger, bear with one thing, and lose something."
voluntarily retreats in some small things, be more generous, and seems to have suffered a loss, but in fact, it is adding bargaining chips to your own happiness.
My friend and I drove normally, and suddenly a car rushed out of the intersection. My friend hurriedly braked and almost hit him.
However, the driver of the car was fierce and shouted at us.
Friend just smiled and waved to that guy.
A dispute was avoided like this.
I once read a sentence: Not everyone deserves to be your opponent. Don’t argue with those without qualities. Smile away from him and don’t let him bite you.
"Zengguang Xianwen" says: "It is so wrong to be careful and think about everything without any ease."
Instead of being petty, it is better to be at ease and not be impatient. Take a step back and the sky is wide.
No matter how gains and losses, no competition for winning or losing, and knowing tolerate is actually just a peace talk with life and a happy conversation with the world.
No comparison, more calm in attitude
A friend works in a foreign company and has a higher income. Her husband works within the system and has a stable job.
At a young age, we all envied her.
can chat with her, and I always feel that she is still not satisfied, even full of anxiety.
either envy the boss around you for making millions of investment last year, or just dislikes your husband's slow promotion...
Friends are in the trouble of comparing and cannot extricate themselves.
People who like to compete seem to never carefully examine their own gains, but spend time and energy to peek at what others have. They always envy others and make themselves exhausted.
As there is a saying, " life is tired, half of it comes from survival, and half of it comes from comparison. "
eyes are always staring at people who are better than you and keep following you. Not only is the rhythm disrupted, but no matter how much you have, you will feel anxious.
2 Martial Monk: There is no solution to life comparing with others.
In fact, look inward, don’t care too much about others. Be yourself seriously and you will live more calmly.
host Yang Lan In an interview with a reporter, he opened his unknown inner world to everyone.
reporter asked: What is the reason why you have many opportunities to act but don’t act?
Yang Lan said: I don’t seem to be interested in acting others, I am only interested in being myself.
She added: Discovering yourself, accepting yourself, and becoming a better self is a guarantee for obtaining a higher quality and happier life.
Not comparing with others, not blindly following others, discovering the true self and being the best self is the right choice.
There is a saying on the Internet: people lives are the temple of practice. In fact, all kinds of life are the same, and we only see its light.
You envy others for gaining fame and fortune, but you don’t know that he is tired of socializing, and behind the glory is the body that has already called the police;
You envy others for freedom of time, but you don’t know that he is anxious and often worry about loans that have not been settled.
Instead of envying other people’s beautiful gardens, it is better to manage your own paradise.
Perhaps your dullness is the beauty that others yearn for for a long time.
Don’t blindly compare with others, be simple and comfortable, have a calm mind, don’t get stuck in your heart, don’t get confused in your emotions, and will eventually live the way you want.
No extravagant hope, the mood is more peaceful
Have you ever had such troubles?
I weigh 200 kilograms, but I hope to have the same figure as Peng Yuyan after dancing for two months;
I have no foundation in writing, and I want to write a bestseller within a year when I see others publishing books;
I just started working as a self-media and hope to have millions of fans within a month...
people are particularly prone to collapse in this state, and unrealistic desires have exhausted all their energy.
When a person's ability cannot support his inner desires, he will feel anxious and irritable, and internal friction will follow.
Many tragedies in life are not because of mediocre abilities, but because they know that they are mediocre abilities, they still think randomly all day long, hoping to live a life far beyond their ability.
As Laozi said: "There is no greater disaster than being dissatisfied, and the blame is no greater than being desire."
Life is not bitter, what is bitter is too much desire, the body and mind are not tired, and what is tired is that you bear too much.
Zhou Guoping said: "A person only needs to restrain his desires and be satisfied with living a simpler life, and the territory of his life will be wider."
Wang Kai is a powerful actor. Unlike the young and handsome guy who is once glorious, he seems a bit Buddhist.
In his own words: I am a person who is particularly easy to satisfy. Just keep your mind calm and act in the play you like. Everything else will go with the flow.
"Instead of paying attention to some vain things like traffic fans, it is better to act a good show and do your job well."
is indeed the case. Only when you don't expect too much can you be at peace; only when you know how to be content can you be happy.
Only by knowing how to restrain desires and let go of the burden in your heart can you move forward lightly.
The smart way is to restrain too many desires, maintain inner order, grasp the appropriate rhythm, step by step, and go further away.
" Shawshank's Redemption " says: "This world penetrates all the things that are high walls are deep in our hearts."
Most of the time, what traps you is not adversity, not others, but your own heart.
Stop mental internal friction is the best self-salvation. No matter when, we ourselves are the creators of spiritual internal friction and the only terminator.
bid farewell to internal energy consumption, and it is ultimately a showdown between oneself and oneself.
No tangle, care, no comparison, no extravagance, and learn to reconcile with yourself is the key to solving the internal internal friction of spiritual friction.
The rest of my life will last forever. May you stop internal friction, have a clear heart, always face the sun, not afraid of the usual days, and try to make yourself a ray of light.
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