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I am Ye Feifei yff, a non-famous emotional instructor, who writes heart-wrenching emotional texts, hoping to bring you some spiritual comfort with warm words.
Someone said: "Older women cannot find a suitable partner, so they are probably too picky."
This is not without reason. Many older single women like to pick and choose men when they are young, and always feel that they will meet better men.
As a result, they spent half their lives passing by the good fortune again and again, and eventually became leftover women who no one cares about.
Everything is a cause and effect. The older single woman finally paid a huge price for her arrogance of choosing a spouse when she was young.
Just like my friend Miss Yang, she is 41 years old this year. Not long ago, she came to me and told me about her experience in choosing a spouse over the years. She was very sad and regretful.
Before, Miss Yang was a delicate and beautiful girl. She graduated from undergraduate studies and spoke very sweetly and very likable.
At that time, there were many men who pursued her, but she always felt that she was excellent and didn't want to marry a man casually, so she kept raising the standards for choosing a spouse.
She said: "The man I want to marry should have a monthly salary of 30,000 to 50,000 yuan. He has a common language and respects her after marriage."
In fact, the reason why Miss Yang has such a requirement is related to her growth experience.
She grew up in the countryside, and her family has poor conditions. Her parents work outside all year round and don’t have time to care and accompany her.
Therefore, she worked very hard and in order to make up for her inner lack, she almost devoted all her energy to studying.
Finally, she was admitted to her ideal university. Later, after she started working, she secretly swore in her heart that she must find a way to stay in a big city and never want to go back to the countryside again.
From then on, when she chose a partner in love, she was very cautious. If a man was not outstanding enough and could not give her the life she wanted, she would not dating rashly.
She said that she has a good appearance, a decent job, and a monthly salary of over 10,000 yuan. She must find a better man so that she can take root in the city.
So, facing many suitors, Ms. Yang will focus on financial considerations and hope to change her life through marriage.
However, what Ms. Yang did not expect was that she had been in love four or five times over the years and had a blind date of hundreds of times, but she did not succeed once.
In her opinion, almost every boyfriend cannot meet her mate selection standards, cannot see the hope of the future, and has to give up.
. The men in the blind date market have worse conditions and are even worse than their ex-boyfriends, and she doesn't want to give in.
So, after spending half a lifetime, experiencing failures again and again, and finally becoming no advantage, she gradually realized that older leftover girls really don’t have many choices.
When she was young, she was always choosing men, but now she doesn’t even have the qualifications to be selected by men.
Whenever there is a blind date, there is no suitable man to go on a blind date with her. As long as those men know her age and past experiences, they shook their heads and expressed their unwillingness to date.
That's it. Miss Yang was 40 years old and had no man to marry her. She understood the truth about choosing a spouse and regretted it.
1. The excellence of leftover women is worthless in the eyes of men
In reality, many leftover women always feel that they are excellent and refuse to marry a man.
What they call excellence is mainly reflected in their beautiful appearance, decent work, a certain economic foundation, as well as education and experience.
However, these conditions are not really excellent in the eyes of men, and it is difficult to become the capital for choosing a spouse.
Men generally value women's youth and childbirth conditions. These are the most basic conditions. It is obvious that leftover women no longer have these two basic conditions.
No matter how beautiful they are, no matter how high their education or how decent their jobs are, men don’t care.
As Ms. Yang said, men only want to find a young girl, but ignore all the advantages of older leftover women. This is a very cruel reality.
So, the excellence of leftover women is worthless in the eyes of men, which is why they are not chosen by excellent men.
2. Wanting to change your life by marrying someone is ultimately a fantasy of deceiving others
Someone said: "The essence of marriage is the equivalent exchange between men and women."
Indeed, if a woman wants to marry a successful and rich man, she also needs to have the same conditions in order to achieve a certain degree of matching.
The old saying goes, "Marriage is about being a good match." Leftover women want to find rich men. If they do not have the advantages of being valued by men, they will naturally not succeed.
In marriage and love relationships, men really value the two basic points of young women and childbirth. Older leftover women have long had these advantages.
Many older women do not have a correct attitude, do not recognize the reality, and always blindly stick to their standards for choosing a spouse, which will only delay themselves.
Especially those leftover women who want to change their lives by marrying others. They have been choosing for half their lives and spent their youth. When they stand in the blind date market and are disliked by men again and again, they realize that they have missed too many opportunities.
However, it's too late, they have to take on huge pain and grievances for their arrogance of choosing a spouse.
Therefore, older leftover women blindly raise the conditions for choosing a spouse and want to change their lives by marrying others. After all, they are self-deception fantasy and will eventually be shattered.
Ye Feifei yff emotional message:
In summary, older leftover women must understand the truth about choosing these two spouses:
The excellence of leftover women is worthless in the eyes of men; wanting to change their lives by marrying others is ultimately a fantasy of deceiving oneself.
After all, older single women should not blindly pursue high standards of mate selection conditions, which is somewhat unrealistic.
When you are picky about men, first ask yourself if you have the capital to be chosen by men. If not, then you must adjust yourself in time.
A woman’s youth really doesn’t last long. No matter how beautiful you are, how many times can you really admire yourself?
If you miss the age of marriage, it is best not to blindly raise the requirements for marriage. When you meet a relatively matched man, remember to seize the opportunity.
In short, women should get married as early as possible and do not waste their youth. I hope some older single women can reflect.
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