Preface:
Most parents will think that since their son and daughter are their own children, they like each other, and their children are the same as they are born, and they are also good to them.
However, after they really raised their children, they realized that their son and daughter were really different. Especially when children become adults, there are essential differences between them.
Seventy-year-old Mr. Chen said that from the moment he borrowed money from his son, he finally figured out who is truly good to him by his son or daughter.
Uncle Chen:
I am sixty-eight years old this year, and my wife is sixty-three years old this year. When we were young, although we were not rich, we always felt sincere joy when we watched our children grow up healthily.
When children were young, relatives and friends all said that we were blessed and said that we had both children and we would definitely enjoy the blessings of our children when we were old. My wife and I also think so, believing that as long as we cultivate our children well, we will definitely enjoy the blessings of our children when we are old.
We have given everything for the happiness of our children. When our children were young, we saved money to support them in their studies and allowed them to receive higher education. When our children become adults, we raise money for our children’s marriage. As long as we have, we will never be stingy to pay.
The son is the eldest. In order to buy him a wedding house, we not only spent all our savings, but also borrowed more than 100,000 yuan from relatives and friends to raise all the money for him to buy the house.
The son has been married for less than two years, and the daughter is going to get married. At that time, the foreign debts we owed for buying a house for our son had not been paid off. In order not to let our daughter be looked down upon by her in-laws, we lent another 200,000 yuan as a dowry for our daughter.
My daughter knows that we still owe debts and don’t want our money. We told our daughter that we are still young and can still work and earn money. Those debts are nothing. As long as she has a happy marriage and does not let her in-laws look down on her, it is our greatest happiness.
At that time, my daughter was so moved that she burst into tears, saying that she would definitely repay our two elders well in the future. In fact, we never thought of asking for the reward from our children. We only willingly give for them out of love for our children.
In order to pay off the debt, my wife and I have not had a day off since we retired, and both work outside. My wife retired before me. After she retired, she found a job to cook for the construction site and could earn 4,000 yuan a month. When I retired, my wife said nice things to the boss at the construction site and asked me to go there to work too.
The boss is a kind person. Seeing that I was old and was eager to make money to pay off my debts, he asked me to do some easy jobs on the construction site, and I could earn 3,000 yuan a month.
My wife and I can pay back ten thousand yuan of foreign debt every month. Such days make us feel very satisfied. Although the life of working is very hard, as long as we have hope, we will be very happy.
Unfortunately, the good times didn't last long. My wife and I worked at that construction site for three years, but the boss withdrew his investment. The boss left, and my wife and I were unemployed. Since leaving the construction site, my wife and I have never found a suitable job. Fortunately, the debt has been paid back, and only more than 10,000 yuan has not been paid off, otherwise my wife and I will be worried.
After hearing about this, my daughter took the initiative to repay the remaining more than 10,000 yuan of debt. Where can we ask for our daughter’s money? My daughter's life is not well-off. Since she gave birth to a child, she quit her job and relied on her son-in-law's salary to live alone.
Although we don’t want our daughter’s money, she insists on us to take it. She said that no matter how much money she had, she would not be short of more than ten thousand yuan. My daughter said we are old and we must hurry up. Enjoy life well. The reason why she helped us pay off our debts was to prevent us from living a frugal life to pay off our debts.
We are grateful for the kindness of my daughter. In order to reassure my daughter, we followed her daughter's advice and started her life in life with her pension. We go to the south in winter and to the north in summer, and we live a very happy life.Whenever we go to a place, we will post beautiful circle of friends. My daughter will like us every time, encouraging us to have a little fun and not be afraid of spending money. Days like
make us feel happy. However, such a good day was finally interrupted by the arrival of his grandson. A phone call from my son called us home. He said that his daughter-in-law was pregnant and needed our care.
The daughter-in-law's pregnancy is a big deal. We cannot ignore it. If we hang up the phone, we packed our bags and rushed home as soon as possible. Before the grandson was born, we made nutritious meals for our daughter-in-law to take care of the couple's daily life. After the grandson is born, we have to take care of our grandson in addition to doing housework.
The grandson has been crying since he was a child. He always needs someone to hold him and cry as soon as he puts him down. My wife's waist was caused by lumbar muscle strain due to long-term holding of her grandson, and she suffered from the root of the disease.
Because my grandson is not only easy to cry, but also always has to hold him, we basically haven't slept well. My son and daughter-in-law complained that their grandson cried and never took their grandson to sleep. They were all my wife and I taking them to sleep.
Because my grandson cried at any time and had to coax him as soon as he cried, my wife and I had a long-term sleep awkward sleep, and we were dizzy all day long, and our health was getting worse and worse.
When we brought our grandson to two years old, our wife finally fell ill. She had gastric cancer , and it was early when it was found out. Doctors say that as long as active treatment is actively carried out, life can be effectively prolonged.
In order to treat my wife, I had no choice but to borrow money from my son. The reason why I asked my son to borrow money and didn't ask my daughter to borrow money is because my son is much more abundant than my daughter.
Since my wife and I lived at my son's house, we have not asked them to pay a penny of living expenses. All the expenses at home are paid by my wife and I, and we often send big red envelopes to our grandson.
We never feel sorry for spending money for our son’s family. We think that as long as the whole family is happy, it is the most fortunate thing.
I originally thought that my wife and I spent so much money for my son’s small family, and my son would definitely lend me money without hesitation. Unexpectedly, when he heard that I was going to borrow 100,000 yuan from him, he cruelly refused me.
He told me that he didn't have enough money to spend and he had no money to lend me. I asked my son, "If I can't borrow money, I can't treat your mother. Would you rather watch your mother die without treatment than take some money to save your mother?"
What made me feel sad was that no matter how much I begged in tears, my son insisted that he had no money. I don’t know if my son really has no money. I only know that when my son said those words, he was extremely cold and did not feel sad or sad because of his wife’s condition.
Even if my son helps me think of a way to borrow 10,000 or 20,000 yuan from someone, as long as he has a good attitude, I will feel relieved. However, my son had no words except saying that he had no money, which made me give up completely.
Since my son doesn't help me, I have to go find my daughter. After hearing about this, my daughter not only raised me 100,000 yuan, but also offered to help me take care of my wife. With the help of his daughter, my wife quickly underwent surgery. After
surgery, my wife quickly recovered from her daughter's careful care. It is said that people can only see a person's sincerity clearly when they are in trouble. I think this sentence is very reasonable.
By borrowing money, I finally understood who is really good to us, son or daughter. Because of my son's inaction, my wife and I finally decided that we would never go to my son's house to be free nanny again. We should maintain our health, live our own life well, and live a few more years for our health.
After a hundred years, we will leave all our property to our daughter for inheritance. Since the son doesn’t even care about his mother’s life, then we don’t want such a son.
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Uncle Chen believes that daughter is more considerate than son and knows more about filial piety to parents.Do you agree with Mr. Chen’s idea? Welcome to leave a message in the comment section below to discuss.
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