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984 to 1993, the battle of Laoshan , after 10 years, our army successfully recovered Laoshan , and the long-lost peace between China and Vietnam also ushered in. However, it was this war that changed a woman's life. Because of this war, she lost her beloved husband, and then she married her husband's eldest brother, and this was just because of a promise. So what exactly promise made her make such a decision?
Xie Yuhua
Newly married husband goes to the battlefield
The remarried woman is named Xie Yuhua. She is an ordinary farmer in rural Henan. She and her husband Wang Changxian are fellow villagers. After Xie Yuhua reached the age to get married. There are many people near
who come to her home to propose marriage, but no one can impress her. By chance, she met Wang Changxian who was returning to her hometown to visit her relatives, and she fell in love with this soldier brother at a glance.
After learning about this, her family advised her not to marry into Wang Changxian's family, because his family is famously poor, and if they marry, it will bring a lot of burden to themselves.
Wang Changxian is from Ye County, Henan Province. His family has been farming for generations. Wang Changxian has 5 siblings in total. He has two older brothers, a younger brother and a younger sister. Although his parents have been working hard, their meager income is still not enough to support the family.
Since childhood, Wang Changxian and his brothers have often not had enough food, and over time, the children in the family have also had physical problems. His elder brother was frail and sick due to long-term malnutrition, and no one nearby wanted to marry his daughter.
Wang Changxian
Until he was in his 30s, he was still a bachelor. Wang Changxian's second brother was similar to his elder brother. Although his health was better, no one was willing to marry him, so he had no choice but to marry him.
Such a poor life did not make Wang Changxian negative. He always maintained an optimistic attitude towards life. He also believed that relying on his own efforts, he would definitely let his family live a good life.
Usually, he will take the initiative to help his parents share farm work, and he will take the initiative to help other neighbors when they need it. Everyone in the village likes this young man very much, but due to family conditions, Wang Changxian has been unable to find his other half.
In 1981, Wang Changxian decided to join the army, and he served as deputy squad leader in the 66th Division of the 35211 Unit. After three years of joining the army, he finally had the opportunity to go back to his hometown to visit his relatives.
was very respected at that time, so when he returned to his hometown to visit relatives, many nearby villagers came to Wang Changxian's house, including Xie Yuhua, and she took a fancy to the other party at a glance.
Xie Yuhua's family
Xie Yuhua's family introduced the situation of Wang Changxian's family, hoping that she could change her mind, but after listening to his past, Xie Yuhua became more satisfied.
Wang Changxian’s previous experience made her recognize his character more. She felt that Wang Changxian was a down-to-earth and reliable person. She also believed that after marriage, the life of the family would definitely improve with the efforts of two people. Seeing that Xie Yuhua had decided and knew that she could not resist her, her family allowed her to contact Wang Changxian.
Then the two began to date. During this process, Xie Yuhua was infected by Wang Changxian's optimism, and Wang Changxian also fell in love with this kind and simple girl.
The two hearts are getting closer and closer. As they get familiar with each other, both of them have the idea of getting married. At this time, Xie Yuhua's father wanted to persuade her, but in the end she firmly chose to marry Wang Changxian. She told her family that she could live a good life.
The two finally entered the marriage hall, but only 3 days after the newlyweds, Wang Changxian received an urgent telegram from the army, which said that our army was going to attack the Vietnamese army entrenched in the Laoshan area and needed him to return to the team as soon as possible.
Xie Yuhua
Wang Changxian immediately started packing her bags without any hesitation. Although Xie Yuhua was a little reluctant, she also knew the responsibilities her husband was carrying.
She silently helped her husband pack her luggage. Before leaving, she looked at her husband and told him that she would wait for him to come back at home. Seeing his wife Wang Changxian, he felt extremely reluctant, but he still resolutely set foot on the battlefield.
Suddenly heard bad news
After Wang Changxian left, Xie Yuhua began to be busy at home. Although she has been married to her husband for a short time, she completely regards the family affairs as her own and is always considering the family.
Before getting married, she knew that her husband's family life was difficult, but it was not until she actually came to this family that she realized that the family faced more difficulties than she thought.
Fortunately, Xie Yuhua was mentally prepared. She knew that in such a family, in addition to considering herself and her husband, she also had to consider other family members.
Counterattack against Vietnam
Therefore, Xie Yuhua started to be busy from the first day she married here. Wang Changxian's family saw it and saw that they were very moved and even felt a little sad when they saw their new wife working so hard for this family.
However, in Xie Yuhua's opinion, these are all things she should do, after all, this is also her own home. Before getting married, she and her husband planned their future life, and they wanted to live a good life through their own efforts.
also hopes to improve the life of the family so that the elder brother can find a wife and the younger sister can marry a good family. The most important thing is to allow the younger brother to receive a good education and become a promising person.
While taking care of the family, Xie Yuhua pays attention to the news of the Laoshan Battle every day. Whenever she hears the numbers of casualties on the front line, her heart will tighten. She also prayed silently in her heart, hoping that her husband would be safe and sound on the front line. Not long after, Xie Yuhua suddenly received a notice asking her to go to the local army. At that time, the Battle of Laoshan had just begun. It was logical that her husband could not come back so soon, and an ominous premonition arose in her heart.
Honor
On the way to the army, she was very worried, but she still comforted herself, perhaps because her husband had other tasks and was transferred back to the country, or if her husband had something to hand over to her.
At the same time, she was mentally prepared to go home to recuperate due to injury. It was just that the worst result, but when she came to the army, she heard the news that she didn't want to hear the most.
On May 15, 1984, Wang Changxian's troops participated in the battle to recapture the Bali Hedongshan of Laoshan. Wang Changxian was ordered to lead a breakthrough team to launch a charge towards the enemy's positions.
During the charge, Wang Changxian took the lead, but unfortunately was hit by the enemy's stray bullet and died heroically. After learning the news, Xie Yuhua felt dizzy. No matter how strong a person was, she could not withstand such a blow, and she burst into tears.
Then Xie Yuhua went to the Sino-Vietnam border, where she received her husband's relics and a cold death notice. At this moment, she felt extremely collapsed.
martyr's tombstone
The leader of the army noticed her abnormality, so he sent several soldiers to take care of Xie Yuhua and temporarily settled her in the guesthouse. At this time, Xie Yuhua wanted to die at one point. She lied that she couldn't sleep and asked the soldiers for some sleeping pills. After saving some, she took it in one breath.
Fortunately, the soldiers found Xie Yuhua in a coma. After rescue, Xie Yuhua became safe. At this time, the army leaders found the suicide note left by Wang Changxian, which made Xie Yuhua regain confidence in living.
Wang Changxian said in the letter that if he sacrificed on the battlefield, he hopes that his family, especially Xie Yuhua, will not be too sad, and he also hopes that Xie Yuhua can live bravely.
Remarrying the eldest brother
After seeing the suicide note left by her husband, Xie Yuhua gave up on her idea of suicide. She decided to fulfill her husband's unfulfilled wish so that her husband and his family could live a good life.
At that time, the leaders of the army also learned about the situation at Wang Changxian's family. They knew about Xie Yuhua's difficulties. In order to help him, the army took the initiative to arrange a job for her.
Xie Yuhua
However, Xie Yuhua rejected this kindness. On the one hand, she is very strong and does not want to cause trouble to the organization. In addition, if she accepts this job, it will be difficult for her to take care of the family. Her parents-in-law are getting older and older, and her husband's elder brother is not in good health, so she can't rest assured.
Then Xie Yuhua returned home with her husband's belongings. Because she and Wang Changxian had only been married for a few days, many people thought she would remarry and go to find a good family.
But Xie Yuhua found her in-laws and told them that she hoped to stay in the Wang family and continue to live. Her decision surprised the Wang family, but what shocked them even more was Xie Yuhua's words.
Xie Yuhua knew very well that she was a widow at such a young age. It would not be easy for her to stay in the Wang family for a long time in the future, especially her parents' family would put pressure on her to remarry.
In order to stay at home and take care of them better, she decided to remarry Wang Changxian's elder brother so that she could stay with her legitimate name.
Xie Yuhua
Although Xie Yuhua said it lightly, Wang Changxian's parents knew how determined she was behind these words, because if she really did, the burden of the entire family would fall on this woman's shoulders in the future.
After losing his son, the old couple was on the verge of collapse. If Xie Yuhua chooses to remarry, then the family may not be able to maintain it. So after hearing what his daughter-in-law said, the two old men knelt down in front of Xie Yuhua, and said with tears in their eyes that she was the great benefactor of the Wang family.
After returning to the room in the evening, Xie Yuhua calmed down. Looking at the family, she remembered the plan she had made with her husband before. She decided to rely on herself to realize her husband's wish, let her sister marry a good family, and let her younger brother receive a good education.
Later, as she said before, she remarried Wang Changxian's elder brother. Xie Yuhua was only 22 years old at that time, and her elder brother was more than teenager older than her, which made many outsiders feel incomprehensible.
After getting married, Xie Yuhua quickly took on the burden of supporting the family. All the big and small things at home fell on her. In order to support the family, she was often busy until late at night.
Xie Yuhua
However, this did not exhaust Xie Yuhua. As she was busy day after day, she became more excited and became more and more energetic.
Xie Yuhua's performance also made Wang Changxian's parents quickly get out of the pain of losing their son. They also cheered up and worked with Xie Yuhua, and their family life gradually improved.
However, as their parents-in-law grow older, they also suffer from illness. Fortunately, at this time, my sister can also help Xie Yuhua share some pressure, and she can finally relax.
At this time, in addition to the crops in the field, Xie Yuhua also raised a few pigs. In the 1990s, the two old men died one after another and the younger sister married. At this time, all the burdens were pressed on Xie Yuhua's shoulders again.
But she is still full of hope for the future because her younger brother is about to complete his studies. But at this moment, an accident came again. My younger brother, who was about to graduate, was infected with hepatitis and was in a very serious condition, which once threatened his life.
Faced with the sudden blow, Xie Yuhua did not give up. She took out all her savings to treat her younger brother, and even went to sell blood to raise money. In the end, her younger brother finally recovered, and he also married a wife under Xie Yuhua's arrangement. Because both of his parents-in-law have passed away, Xie Yuhua, the sister-in-law, played the role of parents and organized her younger brother's wedding.
Xie Yuhua
Meeting thirty years later
With Xie Yuhua's persistence and efforts for many years, she finally fulfilled Wang Changxian's wish and made the life of this family better. But she also had a trouble.
That is, after Wang Changxian's death, Xie Yuhua, as a family member of the martyr, should receive a pension every month.However, since Wang Changxian's parents passed away, the money has been cut off and the family has lost one source of income.
In addition, although she has been working hard to run this family, her family life can only be barely maintained, and the family is not considered wealthy.
Moreover, their family’s living standards do not meet the requirements of the minimum living allowance, so although they are getting older, Xie Yuhua still has to work hard. Due to years of hard work, there were many problems in her body, but she didn't dare to rest for a moment.
The only thing that made her feel relieved was that her children grew up one by one. However, fate does not seem to be like letting go of this miserable woman, although her eldest son has married a wife.
Tombstone
But because the family was too poor, the daughter-in-law left without saying goodbye not long after giving birth to the child. The eldest son could not suffer such a blow and chose to run away from home soon after.
There is only a 10-month-old granddaughter left in the family. Xie Yuhua had no choice but to take care of her husband and pull her granddaughter. She was just like she had been supporting this family alone for decades before.
Fortunately, Xie Yuhua's story was learned by others later, and they also promoted the story of her and Wang Changxian to the outside world. Soon, Wang Changxian's comrades back then extended a helping hand to Xie Yuhua, and they all did their best to provide her with some help.
Later, many people in society learned about this, and they also helped her through various channels. However, Xie Yuhua politely declined the help of people in the society, and she did not want to bother people too much.
Xie Yuhua's approach touched many people, and many reporters also came to her home to interview this strong woman. During the interview, the reporter asked Xie Yuhua if she had any wishes.
tombstone
Hearing this sentence, this woman who has always been strong finally couldn't hold back her tears. She said that she had never seen Wang Changxian again since she arrived at the front line, and she hoped to see him again.
The troops soon learned her wish. Under the arrangement of the troops, Xie Yuhua returned to the Martyrs Cemetery in Yunnan again in 2014. Thirty years have passed since she last came here, and thirty years are enough to change a lot, but time has not diluted Xie Yuhua's love for Wang Changxian.
stood in front of Wang Changxian's tombstone again. Xie Yuhua no longer controlled her emotions and burst into tears. The hard work and grievances over the years were finally vented.
See Wang Changxian's place of sleep again, Xie Yuhua fulfilled her wish, and after crying, she returned to peace, because she knew that she could not be immersed in sadness, and she still needed to carry the whole family, and she became that strong woman again, as if she had never shed tears.
Commemoration
After this, her deeds also spread to the local government. After the investigation, they also added the pension offered by Wang Chang for Xie Yuhua. With this money, the family's life improved a little.
After Wang Changxian's sacrifice, Xie Yuhua stayed in the Wang family for her former promise and gave her youth for this family. In the eyes of outsiders, she has paid a lot, so people often ask her if she will regret doing this.
Although her life is not so satisfactory, Xie Yuhua still expressed that she would sacrifice for the country and was willing to sacrifice everything for the long term. At the same time, she said that if there is a next life, she would still be Wang Changxian's wife.
The love between Xie Yuhua and Wang Changxian is simple and unpretentious, but it is also unforgettable. She kept the promise between the two in her own way.
Their love is ordinary and great, which moved countless people. If it weren't for the Laoshan Battle of China and Vietnam, this love should have had a more perfect ending. Unfortunately, the cruel war broke up a pair of beautiful women.
Laoshan Battle
Laoshan Battle may not be large in the eyes of many people, and the number of casualties is relatively limited, but for Xie Yuhua, this war almost ruined her life.
In fact, there are countless families that are fragmented due to war. Because of this, we should cherish the hard-won peace and avoid such a tragedy from happening again.
