I read a heart-wrenching sentence.
Life is like a cabbage, which is flipped around by people, and then I think the leaves are too old and the date is not fresh.
When you are middle-aged, you have to be chosen because you have no choice where the hardships of life lie.
is retired. If you are still chosen by someone, it means you have not lived clearly and have not truly been yourself.
The flea effect tells us: If the flea is limited in height and slowly adapts to this height, it will not change again.
A smart person will quickly break the "here's height" and live a life of leaping with fish in Shanghai.
If you leave the workplace, your greatest blessing is freedom.
Therefore, it is recommended that you do the following two points: not sociable and not careless.
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is not very sociable and has less trouble.
Haruki Murakami said: "If you don't have a friend, then congratulations, it proves that you are mature."
At the beginning, I didn't understand this sentence very much. How can you live without a single friend on the road of life? If you encounter difficulties, who should you go to? Multiple friends, multiple roads.
After thinking for a long time, I realized that people do not want friends, but do not ask for anyone to be friends. If you don’t have a friend, don’t worry. You know how to go with the flow and get together and get together freely, that’s right.
Tang Dynasty Li Bai . When he was young, he hoped to achieve his ambitions. He also recommended himself and wrote "Hide 7 Reading Zhuge Wuhou's letter to Chang'an Cui Shaofu Xunji ", which was sent to official Cui Shufeng.
He thought that he should meet a wise king like Zhuge Liang and the allusion of visiting the cottage three times happened.
But Li Bai overestimated himself, and Cui Shufeng ignored it.
Through He Zhizhang , Li Bai made friends with Tang Xuanzong . I thought it would be nice to enjoy the cool under the big tree. But the poems he wrote offended Yang Guifei .
Li Bai no longer hopes to enter the officialdom and has started a bohemian lifestyle. Life has really begun, and many people are proud of inviting Li Bai to come. The most famous one is Wang Lun . Not only did he drink with Li Bai, he also got a thumbs up - the water depth of Taohuatan is thousands of feet, not as deep as Wang Lun gives me love.
Everyone in the world is friends, but they are well-behaved. This is the best "friendship attitude". You are you, I am me, I drink when I meet and bow when I leave.
As a retired elderly, the best social interaction is not to dance square dance, not to visit each other and get together, but to have less trouble with each other. If anyone has difficulties, please help me, but don’t ask for anything in return, and don’t have to worry about cumbersome and polite reciprocity.
For example, a brother is sick and short of money, you go and take a look and get one thousand dollars. But don't return the other party. Help is a good idea and will not become a "exchange of interests".
"not very sociable" is not blindly pursuing alone and living alone, but not entanglement between people. The trivial matters of life will not turn into bad things of quarrel.
In any circle, you can get away without any hindrance; in any group, you can gather and disperse freely, not pulling, and reluctant to leave.
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won’t be too careful and have less anxiety.
There is a swear word in rural areas: "There are many ghosts and chaotic hearts." In other words, if you have too many inner thoughts, life will enter the realm of ghosts, and you will not like anyone else and be upset when encountering things.
In the workplace, we often worry about working overtime. If you encounter urgent problems, your head will get hot and you really have the urge to quit.
is retired and his heart is no longer in the workplace, but he cares more and more about the misunderstandings of his family, relatives and friends. Children are not good at work, grandchildren are not good at studying, and relatives say a lot of bad things, which makes you unable to feel at ease.
There is a story in "Yu Lizi".
Zheng Ziyang likes his wife very much.
My wife is as beautiful as a flower, but there is a shallow nest on her forehead, which is blocked with feathers.
Once, Zheng Ziyang accidentally removed his feathers and saw the shallow nest. That night, he was restless in bed and food.
Look at his wife again and he sighed. Even if the wife gets the feathers back, the relationship between husband and wife cannot be improved.
, a leaf is blocked, Taishan will also be dull. This is the trouble caused by "hardness".
The current life is really good, but many elderly people are born in blessings but try hard to find disasters. Life is terrifying and terrifying.
Writer Mo Yan , described his anxiety: the anxiety and dilemma of urban people. I roughly know some of them, but I did not study them. This is my limitation.
He lives in Beijing and is considered a Beijinger, but he never dares to say seriously, "I am from Beijing." He always treats himself as a person from his hometown, so he feels anxious. I also feel uneasy because I don’t study the city of Beijing deeply enough.
is visible, everyone will be anxious and need to overcome anxiety.
Zhuangzi wrote in " Theory of the Essence of Things " : "The solid form can make it like a dead tree, but the solid heart can make it like a dead ashes?"
If a person's heart is like a dead ashes, it will be calm. It seems that Zhuangzi's words are very negative, so how can people not be enthusiastic? It is said that no one dies more than the heart.
carefully analyzes it and you will find that Zhuangzi provides a "not too much care", that is, keep his mind low and learn to move down.
Others mock you, don’t think much about it, think that others have pointed out their shortcomings. True words are good for action, which is a good thing.
Daughter-in-law dislikes you for not taking care of the child well. Don’t be angry. Think about it, the daughter-in-law is very tired at work, so it is also right to complain a few times. If your daughter-in-law "dismisses" you, it will be a good thing, and it means that your daughter-in-law can truly support the family.
The couple quarreled, don’t take it to heart. This is a sign of mutual care.
We cannot control external objects, but we can control our own hearts. If your heart is as low as the sea, it will be as wide as the sea. This is the great wisdom of being broad-minded is blessing.
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Playwriter William Inch once said: "The happiest ones seem to be those who are happy without special reasons. They are just happy because of happiness."
In the second half of life, the more you want to be blessed, the more you need to subtract. Nothing is easy, and no good or bad will come.
Without the worries of sociability, socialization will be free; without the worries about children, children will be more independent; without the random thoughts, there will be innocent smiles; without the conflicts between husband and wife, you will live a life of mutual support.
Live a day with a smile and be happy all day; live a day with a worry and cannot count.
Author: Common people eat coarse food.
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