Introduction: It should be a very happy thing for girls to be liked and pursued. Why do some girls don’t enjoy it at all but just want to escape?
"The melon is not sweet" has been heard, but why do many boys become the "mortal" person in terms of relationships?
What is the psychological mechanism of for boys to kneel down and lick and entangle?
When it comes to the behavior of "kneeling" and "entangling" in love, they all think it is very low, but there are still many boys who do this kind of thing, but they don't know it. It's really the person involved is confused and the bystanders are clear.
. Based on the questions of netizens, we will analyze in detail. What is the internal behavior mechanism of boys who have such behavior?
A year ago, I met a senior sister. When I first met, I always chatted with me and made an appointment to see the seniors in the school proposal together.
When I first met, I didn't think about chasing her. When I met her for six months, I found out that I liked her and held hands with all my heart. After she returned to the dormitory, she told me that I didn't feel anything about me. Later, I chased her for a month intermittently, and then she asked me out for dinner and sent me a good person card.
I ignored her for two months. I contacted her again at the beginning of this semester and asked her to go out for a walk. During this period, she said she wanted to find a part-time job, and I said I would go too. I feel like she should know that I still like her, but she has no reason to refuse me. A few days later, I gave her a doll, and she said I had crossed the line, and she didn't like me, and she wouldn't like me. So I asked her to delete me, deleted QQ and WeChat, and I quit the group we knew, and I wouldn't go to friends if I worked part-time.
I couldn't let go and found a way to do a part-time job with her. Today, we were the first part-time job, and she took the initiative to talk to other part-time boys. She has a cheerful personality and is very happy to chat with others, but she feels a little embarrassed to be with me.
Two minutes before getting off work, I went to get a bottle of rainbow candy and told her to scan the code to get candy. She didn't scan and ran to the clock machine quickly, and then ran away when she saw me, as if she was scared when she saw me. I stopped her and told her that I was wrong, she said don't make trouble, I still have something to do.
Now I know that I should be half unwilling to give up and half like her. But the image of a lady she showed in front of me was gone long ago. I was scared when I saw her and I liked her a little. She should start to dislike me now. What should I do?
What is kneeling and licking and entanglement?
understands the truth, but it’s not a good life.
Just find a boy to ask him if he thinks the behavior of kneeling and licking and pestering is good? No one should agree with this behavior, but why are so many people still doing this?
Because boys who have this behavior do not realize that their behavior is kneeling and licking and entangling.
What is kneeling licking?
There is an explanation on the Internet that I think is very accurate, " uses extreme humility to satisfy the other party's greed ." This kind of humility has no bottom line and no principles. The party who is licked can do anything he wants, and the party who is licked will indulge the other party's behavior.
This behavior is not true pampering. real pampering is to satisfy the other party’s reasonable needs with sincerity and sincerity.
Under what circumstances are boys prone to kneeling down and licking?
Through daily observation, you will find that boys who kneel and lick are usually in a relationship where they have no psychological advantages.
For example, when the loser faces his "goddess". At this time, the loser has no psychological advantage at all, so he will develop a mentality of inferiority. On the one hand, if you feel that you are not worthy, and on the other hand, you want to get it and don’t know what to do, you will be very humble and use bottomless behavior to satisfy the other person in exchange for the other person’s feelings.
There is a report online that a young man in the countryside works as a security guard in the city. His income is not high and he rents a house. However, he uses most of his salary to reward female anchors. This behavior makes people feel incredible. If you think about it carefully, you will understand that this behavior is actually kneeling down and licking.
Most female anchors are beautiful and attracting attention. There is almost no possibility for security guards to contact such girls in real life, so they exchange the female anchors for attention and interaction through rewards.
What is entanglement?
Entanglement refers to entanglement with each other. The behavior of one party in a relationship disturbs the other party and causes trouble to the other party. This behavior is entanglement.
There was a case in 2016, which attracted much attention from the public - the "Jiang Ge Case". International student Jiang Ge was killed by his best friend's boyfriend in Japan. The scene of the crime was at the door of Jiang Ge's rented room. Jiang Ge's best friend broke up with his boyfriend, and the boy was still entangled, which eventually triggered this tragedy.
In the "Jiang Ge Case", Jiang Ge's best friend broke up with her boyfriend, but her boyfriend still refused to let go. After being blocked from contact information, he went to the house where Jiang Ge lived with her best friend to guard. This is entanglement, and it is entanglement that loses his mind.
The state of dating between men and women, the attitude of girls is actually through reactions to the feelings of boys, which is the solution to the problems created by boys.
For example, if a girl feels that a boy really likes him and is very sincere, the girl will have a good attitude and will take the initiative to chat with you. But if you feel that the boy’s problem is that you want to get yourself, the girl will want to hide and run away.
"kneel lick" people care too much about their feelings, needs, and desires, and just want to get them. So I ignore my self-esteem in the desire I want to get, and I don’t realize that this behavior will lower my status and devalue my "social currency".
"Social currency" is the value of itself in social interaction. A person who "kneels and licks" is of no value in the eyes of the other party. Because only when you think that you are not good and have no value, people will "kneel and lick" and please, and valuable people will not do this at all.
For example: When a boy encounters a "white and rich beauty", the reason why he licks his knees is because he thinks that he is not good enough in all aspects and is not enough to impress the goddess, and he can only please the other person by "kneeling". If he has enough confidence and thinks that his conditions in all aspects are sufficient to match the other party, then he will not deliberately please him.
"Kneeling" makes you always in a weak position in the group or interpersonal relationships.
In the group, people who are accepted by the group by please others and "kneeling" others will always be at a disadvantage in the group, which means that others don't take you seriously at all.
Girls will be attracted to the boys they admire. When girls think that boys are very strong in all aspects, boys are attractive to girls. "Pleasing" will please you for the sake of pleasing, and girls cannot admire such a boy.
Apart from romantic relationships, people who are used to pleasing others cannot establish a true intimacy.
People who are used to pleasing others have never dared to express their true thoughts in their hearts, but just blindly obey others. This way, it is difficult for two people to communicate in depth and it is difficult to reach close relationships.
People who are pleased will think that you have no ideas, no opinions, no personal charm, just a "easy" person and will not really consider you a friend.
