The reader wrote to me and said:
My mother's home is Harbin, her in-laws' home is Kunming, and my husband and I became lovers when we were in college in Chengdu.
After graduating from university, I originally wanted to stay in Chengdu to develop my career, but my husband is " hometown Bao", so I could only follow my husband to find a job in Kunming.
My husband’s family has three houses. Although our income is average, we have no pressure on life.
The husband's three houses are distributed in this way: one is in-laws living, one is we living, and the other is rented out, and the rent is collected by us.
The following year of marriage, I was in confinement. During this period, my in-laws moved into our house. It was not until our children were over one year old that my in-laws lived back to their house.
In fact, when my parents-in-law lived back to their home, I was still a little reluctant to let it go. It was because during the more than a year of living with my parents-in-law, I felt my in-laws’ love: Although I am not their daughter, my parents-in-law spoiled me more than my parents.
After a few years, most of the time, my child lived with his in-laws. During this period, my husband and I often went to our in-laws' house to eat and drink.
Nowadays, our children are in elementary school, and my husband and in-laws have always been very nice to me.
In the words of my mother-in-law: When you marry from Harbin to our family, the one you care about the most is your parents. Only when we are kind to you can reassure your parents.
I am very relieved and happy to live in such a family.
Muzili Emotional analysis:
Every time I walk around in our community, I see the most pictures: grandparents take care of their grandchildren or granddaughter.
It is obvious that many young couples nowadays will quickly devote themselves to their careers after giving birth, and many women are not willing to be full-time housewives after giving birth. In this case, the burden of caring for the children falls on the grandparents.
Therefore, after getting married, it is still very necessary to handle the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law well.
When grandparents take care of their grandchildren or granddaughters, they may have some differences in their philosophy from young couples. You can remind them at this time, but don’t dislike them. After all, it is not a responsibility or obligation to help parents-in-law take care of their children. We must have a grateful heart.
You might as well imagine: If your parents-in-law refuse to take care of your children, you must not have a person who will eventually suspend work and take care of your children at home, besides complaining.
Which one is more crazy about raising children and the occasional minor friction when getting along with parents-in-law? Please think about this matter clearly.
You can have a good relationship with your husband and in-laws, and there are factors that make them easy to get along with. Of course, you are not bad either. Otherwise, they will not be able to accommodate you in many things.
A family is harmonious, and every member of the family needs to work hard for it.
It is your luck that you can marry your husband and meet a good-character in-laws; it is not their luck that your husband can meet a sensible you and your parents-in-law can meet a sensible daughter-in-law?
(The picture is from the Internet, the picture is irrelevant)
