, and then it declines, and three out. A failed marriage is enough to make us feel a splitting headache. If we experience two failed marriages, then a person's expectations for marriage will be more or less weak. One of my readers is such a person.
In the communication between her and me, I clearly understood that this woman had experienced two failed marriages and has now started her third marriage with a friend's introduction.
She didn't have much hope at first. After all, it is rare to talk about romance at their age, so she just wants to live a good life so that she will not be so lonely in the future.
Just, Murphy's law tells us that the more we expect, the less we will not happen, and the more we fear, the more we will experience.
My reader just wants to live a good life, but life doesn't even satisfy her this small requirement, allowing her to endure those unnecessary blows again and again.
45-year-old woman's third marriage self-report: At this age, men have only one purpose for marrying you
Readers are 45 years old this year, and they have long passed the age of wanting to be romantic. In her opinion, marriage can be without vows or passionate. After all, it is a half-way couple, so you just need to live a stable life.
However, since her third husband got married, he has never entered the kitchen, has never done housework once, and has not even paid his salary card. The readers are responsible for the family's gas, water and electricity bills.
Marriage is a life of two people, and one person cannot be borne by one person. Therefore, readers have repeatedly reminded him to bear part of the expenses openly and secretly, but the other party either pretends to be deaf and dumb or changes the topic. In short, readers should not think of any of their own money.
Later, it may be because the readers said it too often, and the man felt bored and said that he got married just to save trouble, and that he was getting married at his age just to have someone to take care of him. In other words, he just wanted to find a free nanny.
Reality is always cruel, and it defeats a person's heart again and again. Readers' expectations for a good life have also been wiped out. She naively thought that everything would be fine, but the fact is that in her forties, if a man marrys you, there is only one purpose, that is, to have a free nanny, that's all.
middle-aged relationship is just a choice after weighing the pros and cons.
Sister-brother relationship is no longer an unpopular way of love. Most women will have a relationship with young men in their early twenties even at their forties.
Some people will even enter the marriage hall. Falling in love with young people will give them the illusion of being young. Therefore, some people have been involved in such a love, but they have lost everything.
In the emotional program " Love Defense War ", there is a 16-year-old sister-brother relationship. The man said he was willing to marry a woman, but he was just greedy for her resources, connections and financial strength. When a woman uses her capital to make a man excellent step by step, without exception, she became the abandoned person.
After all, everyone likes young people. Whether a man is eighteen or eighty, they always treat their feelings with a single person, that is, they like young girls.
So, if a young man at the age of 40 says he is willing to marry him, please understand that it is just the result of weighing the pros and cons of the other party. He is greedy for the care of an elderly person, thinking of finding a smart teammate, and not having to worry about anything, and just let the other party carry the burden of life.
Furthermore, young people think so, especially those men who have experienced the baptism of wind and rain. They have seen too many joys and sorrows, and also the beauty and ugliness of the world, so they are better at weighing the pros and cons and knowing what to do to satisfy their best interests.
So, if a woman encounters the so-called love in middle age, please be careful to consider it.
A woman’s value should not be limited to marriage
There are always people who regard marriage as a must-choice topic, as if life will become incomplete without marriage. In fact, marriage is more like an additional question for women. If you do it right, you will get points, and if you do it wrong, you will not lose points.
If we are obsessed with letting our value be reflected in marriage, then our mentality will become impatient. At this time, we may not have a good judgment on marriage and may become anxious and seek medical treatment.
So, if there is no suitable person to accompany you to experience the joy of marriage, it is better to try to live alone.
Just like a passage written by the writer Bai Luomei said: "In the world of the world, walking alone, the green ivy brushes across the collars, and the green clouds wet the promise. Mountains and water can be forgotten in pairs, and the sun and the moon can have nothing to do with it. At that time, the world of only one person is happy, and the water of one person is flowing forever."
Life does not have to be limited to one thing. As long as we are willing, a person's life can still be prosperous.
