Life is long, and years pass by, and young couples are accompanying each other in old age. Everyone hopes to be able to "a pair of people in one lifetime" and spend the rest of their lives together.
However, no one knows which one will arrive first, tomorrow or accident. I originally thought of taking a free trip after retirement, implementing my wishes that I had not fulfilled in the first half of my life, treating the people around me well, living with me well, and never having to think about survival anymore.
Spring is intentional, life is ruthless. After retirement, I was unfortunately tempered by life and became a single woman. Should I choose to live my own beautiful, comfortable and happy old age life, or help my children take care of my children.
Someone may say, is this a problem? In fact, when you can have the best of both worlds, nothing is a problem; if you can only choose one, many people will choose to take care of their children, thinking that children are still important, but some people think that their lives are more important.
No matter which one you choose, we cannot easily say it is wrong. It is wrong. As long as the person involved feels happy, it is the best choice.
68-year-old Aunt Fan, whose wife suddenly fell ill at the age of 55, had a good time. Three years later, she met the right company. She wanted to remarry and continue to live the rest of her life. , but her grandson was born, if she went to her son's house, if she went to her son's house I am not happy to take care of the child.
So, for the rest of your life, should a single woman choose to help her children take care of her children or to live with her husband? Let’s listen to the people who have experienced it. What is the 368-year-old Aunt Fan said? Maybe she will have a different understanding. .
Conveyor: 68-year-old Aunt Fan
Marriage for the first half of her life
I am 68 years old this year, retired for 18 years, my wife has been away for 13 years, and her only son has started a family and has children.
Last year, I returned to my old house from my son’s house in another place. Although pure, it is not lonely. Someone said to find another companion, but I think it’s really unnecessary. can live alone when she takes care of herself, and can’t take care of herself, so she obeys her son’s arrangements.
My wife and I met after working in the factory. My wife was five years older than me at that time. When we were playing cards together, my wife deliberately put the good cards in my pocket, and I felt good about my wife. .
We were still very shy when we fell in love freely at that time, unlike the young people today who were now relaxed. After we got married, we were together for 32 years, having had joy, sadness, and fierce quarrels in words and deeds, but our hearts were always together.
My wife is the kind of man who knows to cherish me. She doesn’t smoke or drink. Although she has no successful career, we have been together for decades, through corporate reform and laid-off waves. We all work together together. Take it over.
Although there are no sweet words under the moon before and after flowers, there are simple and stable years and quiet . Contentment is what my wife often praises me. In my wife's heart, I never care whether he is an official or makes a lot of money. As long as we can be with us, it is our happiest time.
The beauty after retirement
50 When he retired, his only son passed away and passed away. His wife also retired with me for a year due to special job .
At that time, many people in the unit signed a re-employment contract, but my wife told me, forget it, we should enjoy a better life in time. No matter how much money you make, you have never enjoyed it together. You have experienced the scenery of mountains and rivers together. You will regret it when you can't walk.
After we discussed with our son, our son also supported us to retire and enjoy life, and he worked hard on his own in the future. As time goes by and years pass by, we finally choose to "go to the end of the world with our swords."
My wife and I took the initiative to participate in the Plaza Tai Chi event, and followed the association to participate in many social friendly competitions. We went to different places, and exchanged boxing skills and also visited mountains and rivers. We felt that retirement was really good.
At that time, the sisters in our Tai Chi team were particularly envious of me and thought that my wife was really good. Not only did she not have those bad tempers, she would also take good care of my "menopausal" temper.
Time is full of accompanying memories; time embodies eternal love . We happily enjoyed the wonderful life of retirement for 5 years. Unfortunately, my wife suddenly had a heart attack and left.
The sadness of losing a wife
The year when I lost my wife, my son had already found a good job in another place and talked about his favorite girlfriend.
The people around me persuaded me to ask my son to come back to me and find a job and start a family and a career around me. But I can't be so selfish. I was once young and knew that separation of people who love each other would be a lifelong flaw.
My son came back to help me finish my wife’s funeral, and I was silent for half a year. The sisters of the Tai Chi team also persuaded me to be more open-minded, no one can accompany anyone for the rest of their lives, and there is always someone ahead.
People live in the world, and the years are slowly and ups and downs. They have to bear the sorrows and joys of life themselves. Only by becoming stronger can they digest the emotions in their hearts and give themselves the confidence to live.
hurriedly sorted out his mood, slowly got out of the sadness of losing his wife, and heard the good news that his son was going to get married, and began to be busy with his son's marriage.
First, I went to see my in-laws, and then gave the woman a betrothal gift to discuss the matter of buying a house. The in-laws are also the only daughter. We discussed making more down payments for the children. I took out all the savings in my hands, but the in-laws said that I would keep some pension money.
I feel so lucky that I have lost my wife, but have a reasonable family. Everything goes well, everything goes step by step.
Happy to have the happiness of grandson
A year after the son got married, the daughter-in-law gave birth to an older grandson and went to her son's house to help. She didn't expect that they had gone to the confinement center, so she had to leave her own feelings and wait for her daughter-in-law to go to work before going to work. Help with the baby.
However, the in-laws are also retired and they are happy. The old couple is very happy and they don’t need me at all. Then I just need some real money and transfers 1,500 yuan of milk powder to my son every month.
With different generations, the joy in my heart is natural, but my life is becoming more and more lonely. The old sister persuaded me to find another wife and took the initiative to introduce me to the right men.
Thinking that my son can’t use me, I will prepare myself for my old age. It’s not impossible to find a companion, but I still mind a little in my heart.
Disunderstood love
A year after Lao Zhang and I met, just when we were about to get a marriage certificate and remarry, our in-laws fell and were in poor health. My son asked for help urgently. I told Lao Zhang, I want to go Being helping to take care of your children from other places, why don’t you go to with me?
Who knew that Old Zhang blurted out without even thinking about it, then let’s forget it. is waiting for you to bring your kids back, and we are all the same age, so we are not suitable. Let’s do it each of us.
I thought Lao Zhang, who was deeply in love with me, would agree to go to my son's place with me. We rented a house alone to help raise my grandson, and we would go back to our hometown to continue our old age life.
Unexpectedly, when people are old, when they find a partner, they will never enjoy the happiness and care and companionship of the present, just like when they were young. The first choice for elderly people to get along or remarry.
is not understood or cared for. The sisters persuaded me to ask my son and others to hire a nanny so that I can continue to get a marriage certificate with Lao Zhang. But my choice is that son is more important than Lao Zhang .
It's also good to live alone
I spent a few years at my son's house, taking care of their daily life, picking up and dropping off my grandson to and from school, and when everything goes well, I took the initiative to propose to go back to my home to live alone, not to give young people a chance to Trouble and burden.
On the days after I came back, I continued to go to the square to box with my sisters, enjoy the joy brought by exercise, and also enjoy the joy between my sisters. Lao Zhang is still himself for so many years. He asked someone to tell me "renew his relationship" and let's get together.
After several years of time, I have already figured out that a person’s old age may be lonely, but whose later years are not bloody? Now my health is in good condition, and I am still living well alone.
When I really need someone, I will follow my son's arrangements. It is best to live in a nursing home in and not cause trouble for my son or grandson.I have figured this out long ago. Parents of only children are destined to be elderly people who take the initiative to enter the nursing home.
Life is like a sea of sea, mountains and rivers pass by, but it’s just a matter of the same. Living well in the present is the best life.
Author: Huagui Zenxin
Follow my words and enter your heart. You have stories, I have tea, let’s talk about the rest of my life together.
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