text | Zhu Sinyong
Among the clients I coach, many women will ask, "When will San'er take the initiative to beg for mercy and leave our house?"
I can tell you clearly that if you have plans and strategies, Under the "war" rhythm with means, it is necessary to go through multiple tripartite talks and wife's three-way talks before Xiaolu will take the initiative to beg for mercy and leave.
"Going a War" can bring out the true form of extramarital affairs. Many Saner and men are always immersed in a gentle country, unable to see the harm behind this relationship, and unable to see the price behind it. If the wife firmly "Going a War" will make the wife This illusory illusion is exposing.
At that time, San'er will find that even the man's vows cannot be realized, and her psychology will change the following:
First, she realizes that she loves the wrong person.
Married man used to say that he didn't love his wife and only loved her, but the information obtained from the original wife was that this married man was better to his wife than to himself. We will buy gifts for our wife during all holidays, and we will take good care of our wife when she is sick.
all the money earned is given to my wife, and I spend more time with my wife, but I just take advantage of the business trip to deceive my wife to take me to travel around, and I always accompany my wife on holidays. I travel abroad with my wife, and I am traveling around in small places in China.
Second, I hate myself for being blind and I hate myself for being soft-hearted.
When she knew that the man was married, she had thought about leaving, and even thought about it more than once, but she was deceived by the sweet words of the married man. She hated this man, "You are all married, you won't get married yet, and you won't get married." Why do you mess with me? Why do you pester me? "
Her anger towards men will reach the highest level.
third, I feel that all my sincerity is wasted.
She has given a lot to this relationship. For example, she bought very expensive gifts for a man, invested a lot of feelings and time in him, and placed deep feelings for him, but what she gained in the end was scars. The body, and the fragile mentality.
fourth, making grudges and enemies with a married man, and don’t want to see this man again.
When San'er notices the ruthlessness of a married man towards her, she will hate him very much and do not want to see him again.
Fifth, regret.
She regretted that she was ruthless and did not break up completely with the married man, regretted knowing this man, and regret listening to his nonsense.
No. 6, fear.
She is afraid to face the wife of a married man in the future, and to face the questioning and vision of relatives, friends and colleagues.
No. 7, you will feel stupid.
A smart person will not be a Saner. Even if he is a third party, he will get out of trouble in time. After being with him for so many years, she will also criticize herself from a moral level.
No. 8, you will dislike married men dirty.
This man not only has bedroom exercise with his wife, but also has twists and turns with him. He feels that he is dirty and dirty by a married man.
ninth, lost self.
She lost her bottom line and principles, was crushed by a married man without intention, soullessness, and no longer believed in love.
Many San'er will feel these pains after going to war with his wife, and will feel the illusory love shattered, despaired by this man, and despaired by this extramarital affair.
She saw the dilemma of continuing to do San'er, and she also knew that timely stop loss was the best way.
So, smart wives, when their husbands are deviating from each other, must focus on managing extramarital affairs and "start a war" with extramarital relationships in a timely manner.
wonderful recommendations:
Married Xiaolu divorced her husband in order to be with me. How can she kill such a woman?
The husband is busy and the wife is anxious. What is the future of such a family?
What earth-shaking changes will a man experience in his heart after being betrayed by a woman?
