What should you do if a man cheats on you for the second time? A smart woman will leave a way out for herself the first time she is cheated on.
Wait until he cheats for the second time, then directly clean up the cheating man and let him clean up and leave the house.
Real case
This cheating case was successfully solved by Lan Fang for his original wife, Ms. Song, a few years ago.
Ms. Song and her husband have been married for ten years and have a son in primary school.
She and her husband opened a supermarket together at the entrance of the community, and the business has been good.
She hired several clerks and usually watched in the store.
In addition to purchasing goods, her husband also occasionally drives a taxi.
They are both down-to-earth and hard-working people, and they also saved a lot of money after getting married.
Ms. Song, like many women, never thought that her husband would cheat on her.
She wants to buy a house in the school district because her child is going to junior high school. She has already chosen it and is ready to pay.
Her husband was suddenly unwilling to buy a house. It was not that the family had no savings, and her husband had always been willing to buy a house before.
suddenly disagreed and couldn't explain why, so the two quarreled several times.
She complained to her cousin, and her cousin said, "Is there someone outside your husband?"
This cousin is not just guessing. She works as a cashier in Ms. Song’s supermarket.
When the child was sick before, Ms. Song was taking care of the child at home.
A young woman came to the store and kept asking how much money the store could make.
My cousin originally thought that she was a colleague and wanted to open a store, so she had nothing to hide.
As a result, the young woman began to inquire about the relationship between Ms. Song and her husband.
Her cousin felt something was wrong and said that the two of them had a very good relationship and that the couple was very loving.
The woman may have sensed that her cousin was defensive, so she didn't continue to ask any questions.
bought a bottle of water and left. She didn't take it seriously at the time, but now she suddenly remembered it and told Ms. Song.
Ms. Song just thought it was a coincidence at first, and her cousin might be thinking too much.
thought about going home and discussing the matter of buying a house with her husband, but her husband still refused.
also said that it doesn’t matter which junior high school a child goes to, and if his grades are good, he can get into a good high school.
Ms. Song was very angry and felt that the cheating man didn't care about the children, so she had a big fight with the cheating man.
During the quarrel, I remembered what my cousin said and asked the cheating man if he didn’t want to buy a school district room for his children and was planning to leave the money to a woman outside.
Originally it was just an angry remark made in a moment of excitement, but the cheating man suddenly stopped talking. It was obvious that he was being talked about.
A cheating man had a showdown with Ms. Song. He cheated on a young lady and had already planned to break up.
But the mistress is pregnant and insists on taking the upper hand. If the cheating man doesn't want a divorce, the mistress will make trouble.
That’s why the mistress went to Ms. Song’s supermarket. In fact, the mistress went to find Ms. Song and wanted to scare the cheating man.
The cheating man was indeed scared. The mistress asked for a breakup fee of 500,000 yuan, and the cheating man gave it to Ms. Song behind her back.
So I didn’t have money to buy a house in the school district. I was afraid that Ms. Song would find out when I bought it, so I didn’t agree to buy it.
But the mistress is greedy. After getting half a million, she still wants more. Ms. Song came to Lan Fang for help because the mistress wanted money again.
Ms. Song didn't want to make the matter a big deal because the cheating man wanted to return to his family and his mistress was no longer with her.
She wants to continue her marriage, and not making a big deal is the best choice.
She asked Lan Fang how to deal with Xiao San, and Lan Fang asked if Xiao San’s child was still there.
Ms. Song said that she was gone, and Lan Fang told her that she could collect evidence and call the police directly. The mistress was blackmail.
The mistress doesn’t have much capital now, so she threatened Ms. Song because she knew that she and the cheating man didn’t want to make things worse.
Ms. Song was a bit forceful and let the mistress know the danger of her doing so, so the mistress naturally did not dare to cause trouble again.
In the final negotiation, the mistress returned 400,000 yuan, and 100,000 yuan was given to the mistress as compensation, which was considered a settlement.
After the man returns, what does the original wife need to do?
solved the mistress, Lan Fang told Ms. Song that she still couldn't relax.
Because this extramarital affair was resolved so smoothly, the cheating man went from having an affair to being separated from his mistress.
except for being threatened by the mistress, he did not receive any punishment.
In this case, it is easy for a cheating man to cheat again, because extramarital affairs are enjoyable and there are no bad consequences.
So Lan Fang suggested that Ms. Song make plans for her future.
First of all, we must formulate a strategy to punish cheating men and express our stance that we do not accept extramarital affairs.
Even if it is solved, the cheating man must pay a corresponding price so that the cheating man will not easily cheat again.
At the same time, the original partner needs to take a stand, rather than just saying nothing and letting things go by.
Secondly, collect evidence that the cheating man transferred money to his mistress before and transferred property without the consent of the original wife.
forces the cheating man to sign a guarantee and transfer the transferable property to his and his children’s names.
This approach may offend the cheating man, but it is definitely better than the man cheating again and the original wife having no choice but to do anything.
Lan Fang wants to tell the first wives the reality that it is absolutely impossible to return to the original marriage after encountering a mistress.
Even if the cheating man takes the initiative to end the extramarital affair, the first wife is still willing to accept the cheating man.
But what happened will still leave traces, and it is difficult to re-establish trust between husband and wife.
Even if this man will not cheat again, it will be difficult for the two of them to reconcile as before. The original wife must make plans for herself.
Finally, it is important to supervise cheating men and respond immediately when abnormalities are discovered.
Like the case of Ms. Song, her husband cheated on her again after about half a year.
The mistress is a new clerk in the supermarket. After the cheating man was discovered, he said that he would break up with the mistress.
But this time Ms. Song did not forgive the cheating man and agreed to divorce.
A cheating man basically leaves the house. Because of the preparations made by Ms. Song before, she took the initiative in subsequent negotiations.
Although not all men who cheat will cheat again, men who have cheated have a higher probability of cheating again.
You must not have the intention of harming others, and you must have the intention of guarding against others. The first wives need to leave a way out for themselves.
was cheated on for the first time, and the cheating man came back on his own initiative. It is understandable that the original wife is willing to forgive.
But after forgiveness, if the cheating man cheats on you for the second time, the first wife is still helpless, and the first wife needs to reflect on herself.
Finally, if you encounter an extramarital affair and don’t know what to do, you can follow Blue Fang and chat about your situation via private message.
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