picture/from the Internet. If there is any infringement, please contact to delete
In-laws are a very special kind of social relationship. They were originally two strange families, but because of the union of a new couple, they became the strangest relatives.
Although the relationship between the in-laws cannot directly determine the relationship between the young couple, it will also have a great impact on their lives. Therefore, many people still hope that their in-laws can get along well with each other, so that everyone's life can be smoother.
In fact, if in-laws want to live harmoniously, it is important to have a sense of proportion. No matter how good the relationship between the in-laws is, they still have to keep two minds. This is true foresight.
1: Don’t criticize the life of the young couple.
In-laws will inevitably have some gatherings. The core content discussed in the gatherings will definitely be inseparable from the life of the young couple.
At this time, you should be careful and do not discuss the lifestyle of the young couple in front of your in-laws, let alone say that you want to interfere in the family affairs of the young couple in front of your in-laws, because such comments and actions are likely to bring trouble to you. Big trouble comes.
No matter whether the other party agrees or disagrees with your statement, they definitely don’t want you to interfere in the private life of the young couple.
is empathetic. His children have formed a new family. No one wants to see someone dictating their children’s lives. It is inevitable that they will have a protective thought in their hearts:
“I haven’t taken care of my own children yet, why? It's up to another person to intervene. "
Even if the other person doesn't express any objection on the spot due to feelings, he will still feel this thorn in his heart. No matter what you do or not, as long as there is some trouble in the life of the young couple. , suspicion gives rise to a ghost, and he will immediately think of you.
Children and grandchildren will have their own blessings. Since the children have already had their own new lives, they should be allowed to try and have their own adventures, instead of being an old mother who never has enough to worry about.
The more comprehensive you take care of your children, the later your children will mature.
Even if you really have any suggestions for the children's lives, you should not discuss them with your in-laws. Because the starting points between in-laws are fundamentally different.
Everyone loves their own children, and the other person’s child is just a stranger to them. Some people even think that they are the ones who have robbed their children.
It is difficult for two people with completely different perspectives to agree on things.
If you want to make some suggestions on your child's life, you can directly tell your child that they are all one family and there is nothing that cannot be discussed openly and honestly. This will be much more effective than discussing it with your in-laws.
2: Don’t be involved in interests
Since ancient times, money and silk have attracted people’s hearts. Even blood relatives may fight you to death for profit, let alone in-laws who have no emotional basis.
Some people regard their in-laws as their own family members and feel that their own family members are more trustworthy and can do business and investment with their in-laws. This approach is actually the most likely to cause disputes.
There is no business in the world that is guaranteed to make a profit. As long as it is an investment, there will definitely be risks.
Your in-laws are not someone you can share risks with. In case of investment failure, even if your in-laws will not directly seek compensation from you, this issue will always remain between your two families and cannot be eliminated.
And once there are interests involved, there will definitely be a distinction between high and low, who is in charge, who is assisting, who is contributing, and each case will be prioritized.
The originally equal relationship between in-laws and family members will also take on a different flavor because of these involvements.
Although it may sound nice to say that business is business and relatives are relatives, people are all emotional animals and it is difficult to distinguish interests and relationships so clearly.At that time, you may not get a lot of benefits, but you will owe a lot of favors.
The status gap between in-laws will also affect the relationship between the young couple. Don't let your children's lives be cast into a shadow because of your short-sightedness.
In-laws are relatives, but in-laws are not considered relatives. There is no emotional foundation between the two families, they are more like partners brought together because of their children.
Therefore, what the in-laws need is not to be confidant, and there is no need to force them to be like a family. They just need to maintain etiquette and politeness, like treating a good colleague. This may be the best distance between the in-laws.
END
