People will always grow old. No matter how rich you were, or how ordinary you were, or even how humble you were throughout your life, you cannot escape the fate of old age.
I have an old brother, who is 76 years old this year. Due to years of suffering from diabetes , he has developed complications since last year. The biggest problem caused by complications is that the old brother doesn’t know anyone at all, including his wife and children who have been with him all his life. Moreover, the old brother's swallowing function has been completely lost. Three meals a day can only be obtained by inserting a drainage tube through the nasal cavity and using a syringe to inject the broken food into the stomach. When I came to my brother's room and saw him who could only blink and move his mouth, I felt so sad that it was really hard to describe.
I remember that during the Spring Festival last year, my brother and I were able to have a few drinks. But in the blink of an eye, my old brother, who was once a soldier, was lying on the bed in the nursing home, and no one remembered him. Seeing the scene in front of me, I deeply realized that in the long river of time, each of us is very small, even insignificant.
My old brother was sent to a nursing home this time, which was also a helpless move. Last year, after my brother's diabetes condition worsened, his wife was also diagnosed with mid-stage lung cancer. Fortunately, surgery was still possible. However, after the operation for lung cancer, the old sister-in-law became very weak and could not live independently, let alone take care of her old brother who needed the help of a nurse to help him defecate and defecate. Because the elder brother's son is working far away in Beijing, he cannot be away from home. There was no other way. After much deliberation, there was only one way, which was to send my old brother to a "full care" nursing home.
After my elder brother was sent to a nursing home, my wife and son who were far away in Beijing were worried that my elder brother would be abused in the nursing home. After consultation with the nursing home, they installed a camera in front of my elder brother’s bed that could be remotely controlled by a mobile phone. You can keep track of your brother's situation at any time. If not, it would be unrealistic for an old sister-in-law who is undergoing chemotherapy to run to a nursing home every day. There is no other way. My brother's family can only use high-tech means to resolve their worries.
When I walked into the slightly smelly room of the nursing home and saw my old brother lying on the hospital bed, maybe I was moved by the scene. I lamented that I was about to be 60 years old and had reached the age of retirement. In the future, would I be the same? Will he be like his old brother, unable to return home or see his relatives?
I sat beside my old brother’s bed, and when I held his withered hand, suddenly, my old brother, who had lost his memory for a long time, opened his eyes slightly, and two lines of turbid tears fell from the corners of his eyes. Overflow slowly. My eyes turned red and I turned my head away. Maybe this was the telepathy between brothers.
The nurse who takes care of my old brother is a brother in his 50s from the Northeast, and his hands and feet are quite agile. When I accidentally saw his rough hands, I knew without guessing that he must have done a lot of strenuous work. The nurse brother may have guessed what I was thinking. He smiled at me honestly and said: Brother, don’t look at me as clumsy, but I am very smart and I will try my best to deal with old people like your brother who can’t take care of themselves at all. Things I should do. As he spoke, he looked at the camera and continued: Actually, this thing is of no use. If the caregivers are not smart and want to harm these elderly people, there are many ways to do this, but they have to follow their conscience when they do our job.
After sitting in my brother's room for more than an hour, I was ready to leave. Before I left, I left 500 yuan to my caregiver brother, as a token of my gratitude to him for taking care of my old brother. But the nursing brother didn't want anything. He said: The nursing home pays him a salary every month, but he can't accept my red envelope. I feel very sad in my heart. In today's world of materialistic desires, it is difficult to find things that are not required in red envelopes. Moreover, it seems that this nursing brother is not rich.
I expressed my gratitude to the nurse again and again, but when he really refused to accept it, I had no choice but to take the money back. I hurried out, bought a bag of fruits from the fruit stall at the door, and put them on the nurse brother's bed. This time, the nurse did not give in.He smiled at me and said: He is also an "old bachelor". He said that if you have a family and a job and take care of patients 24 hours a day, you are dirty and tired, and you don't make much money. No one will do the work. He said to me: Brother, don’t worry, I will try my best to take good care of your old brother. Besides, who hasn’t had this day yet?
When I said goodbye to my old brother, he moved his lips but couldn't make a sound. I know, my brother may be reluctant to let me go. I think that since my old brother moved into this nursing home, he must have rarely seen his relatives. Who can understand the helplessness and loneliness he feels.
Pushed open the door of the nursing home and walked outdoors. A gust of breeze blew, and my mood suddenly became clear. I took a deep breath, and the weight on my heart lightened a lot.
People live this life, what do they fight for? If you can't think about it, go to the funeral parlor and say goodbye to your old friend, and everything will be relieved. If you feel that life is difficult, go to a nursing home and see those lonely old people. Everything is just a cloud.
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