Life is full of things, and we are busy in this world. There are moments of disappointment and moments of warmth, and these are enough to piece together bits and pieces of memories. In most of the disappointing moments, many people like to put their warmth in them. Emotionally.
However, relationships have too many unreliable factors, so people place their hopes on legally protected marriages and have too many beautiful imaginations about marriages. How can marriages be perfect?
Bafary Nix once said: "Marriage is a book. The first chapter is a poem, and the rest is plain."
Many people always only see the romantic beginning, and only after experiencing the dull Only when you go through the process will you understand that marriage will not be a lifelong salvation.
Especially after middle age, you will find that the romantic poetry in marriage has long been wiped out by the daily necessities of life, leaving only the shell of memories. Compared with sweet and greasy moments, it is more of a dull relationship.
In a long and dull relationship, no one can maintain their enthusiasm. Therefore, sometimes appropriate indifference can maintain a relationship better than unmeasured enthusiasm, especially after the age of forty, the relationship between husband and wife in these three years If you are a little colder, you will have a better relationship.
1: Be indifferent to the opposite sex around each other
Kokubu Yasutaka said: "In terms of its essence, marriage has the aspect of a safe haven, and at the same time it is a battlefield for self-training."
Therefore, do not trust the other party in your marriage. You must learn to grow in your marriage and work hard to manage it.
Especially after the age of forty, although the marriage of two people seems to be in a stable stage, the turmoil is often underneath the seemingly calm surface, so don't take it lightly at any time.
Many people feel that after the age of forty, people will find a sense of belonging in marriage, will not look for novelty, will be able to be more firm in their relationships, and will cherish everything in front of them and the people around them.
But this is not the case. As many people get older, they will have a strong sense of loneliness. Faced with the dull life day after day, they will want to pursue excitement. Even if they are struggling inside, sometimes they will inevitably be careless. Make mistakes.
Moreover, couples who have been together for a long time in marriage have long lost their novelty towards each other, and the only thing that keeps each other moving forward is the friendship of memories. If there are still conflicts between each other, bad emotions will arise.
So after the age of forty, no matter how much the other person loves you, the husband and wife must be more indifferent to the opposite sex around each other. Only in this way will the other person feel that you care, and he will not take any chances. Betray your feelings.
Because at this time, your enthusiasm has long been worthless. He must have experienced all your charms. He has to admit that every relationship has a shelf life. After the shelf life, you will need to work hard to manage it.
2: Be a little indifferent to venting each other's emotions
Many people will feel that after reaching the age of forty, each other is undoubtedly the only one to rely on, and they want to work ten times as hard to take care of each other, even if sometimes they need to feel wronged. I don't think there's anything wrong with it.
However, marriage after the age of forty is not like love when you are young. You can indulge in the pursuit of romance. Even if there is no maintenance of life, you can do whatever you want to satisfy your temporary desires and enjoy unlimited glory for a while.
Because marriage at this stage has been immersed in ordinary time for a long time, daily life is nothing more than the exchange of daily necessities, sweetness and romance have become greasy and inappropriate.
At this time, you need to vent your emotions to each other a little more indifferently in order to maintain the marriage.
At this stage of marriage, you will be in a very impetuous state. If you pay too much attention to the other person's emotions at this time, it may cause a lot of conflicts. Instead, you need to be careful, and the other person will become more sensitive.
And if you wrong yourself and let the other person vent their emotions at will, you will also hurt yourself, and the other person will not cherish you even more. Therefore, you must be colder when the other person vents their emotions, so that the other person cannot find room to use the topic.
Only in this way, each other's relationship will go through the ordeal smoothly and become stronger, and the marriage will naturally be smooth sailing.
Three: Be indifferent about money
No matter at any time, money is your only unwavering guarantee. Therefore, after the age of forty, no matter how much you believe in each other's attitude, couples must be indifferent about money. At the same time, the relationship can be well maintained.
After all, no matter how good the relationship between you is, it cannot give you substantial protection. If you cannot restrain the other party financially, it will be difficult to ensure that the other party will not have other thoughts. When that time comes, you will not be able to recover it.
Instead of regretting it, it is better to grasp it as soon as possible and take your own retreat into your own hands. Only in this way can you manage your marriage well.
