The copywriter of a video said, "While my wife was in confinement, my mother-in-law said that I was incompetent every day, and I regretted marrying my wife."
The comment area below the video was full of complaints about their own experiences, and there was no privacy space of their own. , I feel more tired after get off work than at work, I feel like I have no common topics, etc. A comment highly praised by
: Fishing makes me happy.
I never thought that marriage is related to fishing.
It’s horrifying to think about it. Fishing people like to sit alone on the shore, which is more like escaping from reality. It is inevitable that most people do it because of their hobby. But what kind of mentality do men who take fishing as their hobby have at the beginning? Where are you going?
Want to escape the hustle and bustle of the city? See through the essence of life and want to be spiritually sublimated? Then why can fishing be done day or night, regardless of the weather? Even if it rains heavily or the temperature is 40 degrees, it cannot stop the enthusiasm of men.
"Anyway, the men around me who like fishing are all married."
My understanding is to escape, escape from the impact of reality, escape from the pressure faced, and simply enjoy life.
At home, as a wife, you cannot expose his shortcomings, just in case this is the problem he is avoiding.
Marriage is a prison. Some people just want to escape. How can we make both parties work together to run a good marriage?
After marriage, men will settle for mediocrity and don't have high expectations.
The male protagonist in the video is an ordinary salesman. Because his wife is in confinement and the mother-in-law takes care of her, the husband is frightened every day after get off work.
Because his mother-in-law urges him to move to a bigger house, buy a car, and change his job every day, he can only do housework diligently to prevent his mother-in-law from scolding him.
When he got married, the woman didn't ask for a single cent of the bride price. What's more, his wife's job made more money than him, so he was already under great pressure.
When he first got married, he would still fantasize about investing in some business, but as the cost of living continued to increase, he could only insist on continuing to work.
In the eyes of others, he is incompetent.
Later, the two would have a big quarrel over who did the housework at home, the woman’s inability to find the dowry, and the man’s negative attitude.
After a long time, the man felt uncomfortable thinking about going home, so he thought that he might as well not get married.
Most married men want to live a good life at first, but the pressure of life will make them settle for mediocrity and start focusing on their family.
When encountering problems, both husband and wife must analyze the problem from an equal perspective. One family does not talk about two families. If they target each other and each solves the problem from their own standpoint, the relationship will gradually disappear.
Marriage life will not always be peaceful, there will be times of chaos.
Some women are afraid of cockroaches, afraid of mice, and don't even understand any common sense in life. Men will think that this woman is timid, cowardly, and good-for-nothing.
Some men are lazy, talk nicely, and have no idea what to do when they do it. Women think that men are incompetent and selfish.
Whether it is a man or a woman, the most favorite thing to hear is "I will support you." In the comment area of
, an elder brother told about his marriage experience. When he got married, his wife and he were ordinary employees of the company.
As my wife continues to learn and improve every day, she has now switched jobs to a company with higher income. The income levels of the two are very different.
Due to differences in cognition, the couple thinks that the husband is not motivated and often compares himself with himself, but the husband still smiles and ignores it every day.
You may not believe that when you are inferior to the other person in terms of ability and cognition, you become useless in the eyes of the other person.
This is not a chaotic battlefield. What breaks the peace is only the passage of time. Since you have chosen the other person when you get married, how can you give up so easily.
For middle-aged couples, whoever can stick to their promises is the winner.
Husband and wife have the same understanding of loyalty, stick to their promises, never leave, and shoulder their own responsibilities. As long as they do not make principled mistakes, this is a stable marriage.
The factors that destroy a stable marriage are sometimes even small and you can't detect them.
Another netizen told about his married life that his wife loved him, did the housework well every day, called him every day, and stayed with him even on business trips.
is commonly known as too clingy.
In the eyes of many men, such a woman is simply perfect, but as a couple, everyone has their own space. Such "clinginess" will make people feel that they are not trusted.
Sometimes, people's thoughts only last for a moment. The more they think about it, the more unbearable it becomes, and they will think that they have no personal space and feel like they are being monitored.
No one is perfect in marriage. Marriage sometimes ends when it goes well. We might as well understand each other’s needs and psychology deeply, reach a consensus, that is, be on the same page, run the marriage well, and work together to make progress.
Conclusion
"I regret marrying my wife back then"
This kind of married man who irritates women really needs to find problems in himself, and then find problems in the other person, seek help, and find the key to solving the problem.
Everyone, male or female, can seek help here.
