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Of course, from the perspective of whether to continue to maintain contact, it needs to be discussed based on the situation. There are generally two situations: "with children" and "without children".
First of all, the first situation of is the situation of "no children", that is, two people are together and there is no next generation.
In this case, whether you need to keep in touch or not is a matter between two people. To put it more clearly, no matter how two people get along, the two people will be most affected.
At this time, if two people do not work in the same company, or have no work or business contacts, then there is no need to continue to keep in touch, and they might as well give each other or themselves some peace of mind.
Secondly, the second situation of is the situation of "having children", that is, two people are married and have their own children.
In this case, whether you want to continue to keep in touch or not, you must consider the impact on the child. You must know that in the growth process of a child's life, father's love and mother's love are indispensable parts and are very important. .
Therefore, at this time, even if we are separated from our significant other, we must give our children enough care and love. The father should not prevent the mother from seeing the child, and the mother should not prevent the father from seeing the child. In other words, when two people are already together In the case of children, you need to maintain a certain frequency of contact for the sake of the children at this time.
What needs to be explained here is that many parents feel that "the marriage is unfortunate, but for the sake of the children, they have to continue to make do with it." This emotional concept is actually biased.
In other words, if our relationship with our partner is not good, if we are not happy in a marriage, our children will feel it in their hearts. The family environment created by such a marriage relationship will not affect our children either. If you like it, it is not conducive to the healthy growth of the child's physical, mental and intellectual health.
put it more clearly. If a marriage relationship really makes you very uncomfortable, then separation is not only for your own good, but also for the good of your children. What needs to be reminded is that the relationship between husband and wife can be broken, but the relationship between parent and child cannot be broken. In other words In other words, even if two people are separated, they must give their children enough fatherly and motherly love.
In addition, it is best to find a suitable time to tell the child the reason why he is separated from his father or mother, so that the child will not be full of hatred towards our parents, and it will also help the child's future emotional choices and outlook on love. Establish.
Changyan Changyu:
The fate is over and the heart is dead. Is it still necessary to contact me? In the absence of children, if the relationship between two people is dead and there is no professional relationship, there is no need to contact each other.
When there are children, no matter how much the two people quarrel, no matter what the reasons are for the two people to be separated, in order to give the child enough fatherly and motherly love, the two people should also maintain a certain frequency of contact for the sake of the child.
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I am Changtan Shengsheng, a member of the Family Education Bureau, focusing on family emotions and various aspects of life. Together, we use our experiences to convey positive energy (new posts are posted on time at 7:30 every morning)!
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Original author: Chang Tansheng
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