At an exchange meeting, the writer classically asked everyone present a question:
If a person holds a water glass in his hand, what is his next best choice?
Some people say that we should fill water;
Some people say that we should share it with others;
Some people say that we should analyze how to use water in the best way.
But the classics smiled slightly:
"A person holding a water glass in his hand should do what he wants to do, and it has nothing to do with the water glass."
In fact, everyone has such a water glass in their heart.
That is a thinking trap that is difficult for us to detect and easy to commit.
They are like an invisible wall, blocking the smooth flow of original thinking and making it difficult for you to see your heart clearly.
Therefore, it is a lifelong practice for each of us to continuously upgrade our cognition and break down the barriers of thinking.
In the book " Tear Down the Wall in Your Mind ", Classic points out three common thinking traps in life and gives methods to change your mind.
If you understand these points, your life may be much smoother.
Tear down the wall of "stability" and refuse to be a slave to a sense of security
Is there such a person around you?
"Continuing further education can make my resume more beautiful and improve my employment competitiveness, but now there are too many people making the same choice, and my chance of passing the exam is too low."
"There are many jobs and development opportunities in big cities. But no matter how hard I try, I can't settle down, so I have to go I have to go back to my hometown sooner or later. "
"I have a good job opportunity recently, but my ability is average and I have to learn a lot of new things. I must not do well."
People who have the above thoughts are actually the same. A person imprisoned by a sense of security.
They are accustomed to using a "Yes, but..." mantra, setting various restrictions on their thinking, locking themselves in a small growth space, fearing change, refusing to try, and eventually becoming a slave to a sense of security.
The best-selling book "Who Touched My Cheese" tells a story about "security":
The mice that feed on cheese sniff, scurry, and the dwarfs hum and chirp, and one day they find their cheese After they disappeared, they had different reactions.
Xiuxiu reacted sharply and quickly made a change in thinking and accepted the fact that the cheese was missing;
acted quickly and set out to find new cheese;
After a period of negativity, Heng Heng began to slowly change his mind, accept reality and take positive actions;
Chirp was forever trapped in the sadness of "the cheese is missing", feeling sorry for himself and feeling depressed.
The "cheese" in the story is actually a metaphor for something that can bring us a sense of security:
such as personal competitiveness, workplace liquidity, the happiness of being loved, etc.
We react differently when we find them gone.
People who become slaves to a sense of security will be like Haw, unwilling to accept and afraid to change, and they will draw a trap to lock themselves in.
Cheetah Mobile CEO Fu Sheng said it well:
I think the essence of a sense of security is not that you are really safe, but that you are not afraid of danger and dare to face difficulties.
Sometimes, what defeats us is often not external pressure, but inner fear.
Often as long as you take the first small step, you will find:
Things are not as bad as you think, and the difficulties are not as big as you think.
In this ever-changing real world, only by constantly updating and learning can we have a true sense of security.
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Tear down the wall of "fear" and don't become a weak person with "no interest"
Have you ever missed a good opportunity because of hesitation and entanglement?
may be a rare relationship and a challenge to break through oneself;
may also be a choice that can make life completely different from what it is now.
When I think about it again as time passes, I can only comfort myself with "not interested" and "no fate".
There is a sentence in "The First Time in Life" that I like very much: "You only fail when you don't want to try anymore."
Many people often attribute failure to their own incompetence, but in fact, the real failure is actually Fear of failure, such as pretending you are not interested and refusing to try.
Psychology professor Carol Dweck once conducted such an experiment.
She first showed the students a very interesting black hole science video, and most of the students became very curious.
Then, she asked the students to read a difficult scientific article on black holes.
As a result, many students who originally claimed that they were interested in black holes immediately changed their words and said that they were no longer interested.
In fact, this is the fear that most people have:
We often show interest in something at the beginning, but once we find that we need to expend energy to study and research, we will evade it by saying "not interested". Unwilling to try and refuse to challenge.
The book "Tear Down the Wall in Your Mind" says:
When a person feels unable to invest in new things, or is afraid that they will not do well even if they invest, they will show their indifference to new things.
Have you ever said "not interested" in something?
If so, then please ask yourself seriously: "Am I really not interested, or am I afraid of failure?"
In the movie "Mozart in Outer Space", Ren Xiaotian likes astronomy, but is forced to practice by his father. piano.
After studying piano for eight years, his love and curiosity for astronomy have never diminished.
So, my father made a request: If he can enter the finals of the piano competition, he will agree to stop practicing piano.
In the end, Ren Xiaotian not only won the first prize in the competition, but also received an admission notice from a higher music school.
But even with such dazzling results, he still had no interest in the piano and firmly chose to study astronomy.
In other words, when something brings you honor, but you still don't like it, this situation is really "not interested".
Writer Li Shanglong has made this summary:
The pain of failure is far inferior to the pain of cowardice. The pain caused by cowardice is continuous, while the pain caused by failure will disappear with reflection and problem solving.
There is no eternal failure in life, only cowardice that dare not start.
Life spans just over 30,000 days.
Thinking about anything is a question; doing it is the answer.
Only when you take action will the life you want come to you.
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Tear down the wall of "confusion" and choose a "meaningful" life carefully
Classical teachers are often asked these questions when doing career counseling:
"What do you think the meaning of life is?"
"What is something I can love about my life?"
"What is my most unique talent and passion?"
And his answer was: "Just start by doing something you find interesting! Interesting is more important than meaningful."
Why not do something meaningful?
It is mentioned in psychology that people have "intrinsic motivation" and "extrinsic motivation" :
Intrinsic motivation is that we do something because we like it;
Extrinsic motivation is that we do something because of something an external reason to perform a certain behavior.
What is meaningful to you must be correct, but it may not be what you like or are happy with.
And when you do something that interests you, your learning initiative will be stronger, your resistance to action will be smaller, and the final effect will naturally be better.
Before Mr. Hu Shi went to study in the United States, his brother urged him to learn railways.
But at that time, the young Hu Shi was not interested in road mining. He liked to discuss literary issues with his friends.
But in order to live up to his brother's expectations, he finally compromised and decided to study agriculture, which could not only reduce the financial burden on his family, but also serve the country.
Until one time, the teacher asked them to do apple classification homework.
The American classmates are all children of farmers. They know the common name of apples at a glance, so they can do their homework quickly and well.
Hu Shi and another Chinese student spent two and a half hours and only classified twenty apples, and most of them were wrong.
That night, he re-examined his career plan :
"I spent two and a half hours, what on earth was I doing?" There are no apple seeds in the country, so what is the use of learning it? My temperament is not similar, why should I learn this?"
After thinking about it again and again, Hu Shi decided to abandon this meaningful life with other people's expectations, and instead follow his own heart. Choose to live the rest of your life the way you want.
Soon, he left agricultural science and turned to his favorite field of literature, and finally achieved extraordinary achievements.
Zhou Guoping said:
"When a person lives in the world, he must have something he is really interested in to live a meaningful life.”
Whether you are studying or working, passion is always the best booster in life.
In life, either throw away all restraints and do what you really like.
Or you must learn to learn from what you are doing. , continue to discover love and fun
only. Only in this way will we not lose enthusiasm and stop growing in the suffering and frustration day after day.
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Classical teacher said:
"As for the difference in personal development, at this stage, I would say, see the truth of life clearly, make smart efforts, and take full responsibility for yourself. ”
Everyone will unknowingly form their own underlying thinking as they grow up.
But the way of thinking in the past stage may not necessarily apply to you now.
Just as we cannot use our student days
Only by jumping out of the existing cognitive framework and constantly breaking the limitations of thinking can you take root downwards and grow upwards. is "watching" and would like to encourage everyone. Author of
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