Do all married women become money-loving? I don’t even know when I started to love money?
It should be after I got married in 2018 and found out about my credit card debt.
At that time, I had just gotten married and found out that my husband owed 60,000 yuan on a credit card. I didn’t know about it before we got married, and I didn’t ask. When I found out later, I didn't care. I thought I could pay back the 60,000 yuan for him.
So, I angrily asked my mother for money.
Because I am an only child, I just ask my mother for money. In my opinion, isn’t my mother’s money my money? This is perfectly normal.
As a result, my mother asked me three questions:
1, why do you want to pay off his debt? Didn't he stop you when you came to ask for money?
2, did you know about his debts before marriage?
3, why don’t you ask your father-in-law for money?
I am speechless.
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So, my outlook on life was completely destroyed, and my brain circuit was indeed not normal...
Let me talk about my mind map .
Back then, I felt that my parents’ money was my money. Because as long as I can remember, I have never worried about money. When I first got married, my mother also gave me all the gift money she received.
Secondly, I think since we are married, we should help each other.
Finally, my mother knows what is going on in my husband’s family. When we were together, she had no objection. Talking about poverty now is boring. In fact, in our small family, my husband earns money and my salary is not low. Unfortunately, the mortgage loan is too high, so we are poor...
I am very confused...
I don’t know why my attitude towards me has changed after getting married. I still feel that He was too kind to me before, so I have never been sensible, so I have to change my attitude towards me again.
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In the end, my mother lent me 60,000 yuan, and asked me to pay her back 3,000 yuan every month just like the monthly payment.
At that time, I was not happy.
has been repaying the money for half a year, scolding me every time. My education was stopped later when I became pregnant. The educational content of
is about: Don’t be so heartless. A penny can stump a hero. You don’t have any wealth at all. What will you do in the future? If you take my money, you must listen to my education.
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From then on, I didn’t dare to ask my mother for money.
The child was born at the end of 2019. I was on maternity leave at home and had no salary income. Coupled with the epidemic, my husband’s income could not make ends meet, which started my days of using credit cards to make ends meet. Although the accounting period was troublesome, I got through it without daring to ask my mother to borrow it. Because it’s so scary to listen to the teachings every month.
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A few years later, my husband and I entered the five-year itch, and our love was gone. The smallest thing can make me quarrel hysterically.
If this is the case, it is even more impossible to take advantage of my mother.
Sometimes, I think the worst about my husband. Maybe it was because I had no source of income that my husband started treating me badly. Thinking about it this way is a bit scary. I still care about it now.
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From then on, I loved money very much!
Because I no longer have the support of my mother, a "rich person", and the support of my husband, my daily expenses and monthly mortgage payment are still the same. They don't even give me any money to spend. It’s okay if I don’t love money.
I think, do my parents want to use this method to make me truly independent? Otherwise, I would probably still be eating my old age without realizing it. I still want to spend their money, but I just can’t.
Do I have incorrect views? I envy people who can chew their old age. For example, my cousin spends my aunt's retirement salary, and I am very envious of her.
But I am still the same as before. I often buy gifts for my mother. If I ask for a mobile phone card, I will immediately change her mobile phone. I still need to buy more home appliances.
But I always feel that I can’t go back to the past. Before, I felt that my parents and I were one, and I loved them very much. Now I feel like I am alienated, maybe because I have no money. Is the world really so cruel and cruel? Parents are no exception.
I have always wanted to buy a gold necklace, the one with the zodiac sign of an angel baby, but I have never bought one.If you have money, you can't bear it. My husband also pretended not to know my wishes. Hum...
I love money the most now, and I don’t accept refutation.
