I almost read the works you posted at noon every day. Let me talk about my situation today. I recently fell in love, but since I fell in love, my boyfriend and I have rarely seen each other. I have low self-esteem, and my boyfriend is better than me in everything from academic qualifications to family work. My boyfriend’s family is very good, so there is a huge gap in terms of convenience, but we are still together and he doesn’t mind.
We work very close to each other, but we don’t live together, we live separately. I usually get off work early, but he is very busy at work and often works overtime. It is difficult to see him even on weekends, let alone spend time with me. He told me that the reason why he was so busy and worked so hard was because he thought about the future and wanted the next generation to live a better life.
I can understand, but I still feel aggrieved. Having a boyfriend is almost the same as not having a boyfriend. I like him, but I still hope that he can spend more time with me when he has time. Uncle, do we need to live together to see each other more often? But there are a lot of things to consider when living together. At present, my parents don’t know that we are in a relationship, so they don’t feel good about it. I have chosen a boyfriend who is very motivated but doesn’t have time to spend with me, what should I do?
Everything has its own consequences. Many times, you can only choose one or the other.
For ambitious boys, their off-duty time is often occupied by work, so they will naturally have less time to meet you and spend less time with you.
A boy who is free to accompany you all day may have a good starting point in his job, but his long-term development potential will definitely not be as good as the former.
You can’t ask a boyfriend/husband to have a successful career and be with you often. Real life is not a TV series after all.
If you are a girl with great emotional needs, must get effective feedback, and are more inclined to intimate relationships, then a workaholic boyfriend may not be suitable for you.
Ask him to put down what he is doing to accompany you. If he is absent-minded, it is a kind of torture for you and him.
Every thing has two sides. Now, let me give you an analysis of this situation:
Your boyfriend is very enterprising, which means that his income level and growth rate are likely to be considerable.
With a good economic foundation, life will be more secure in the future. This is a benefit and a positive side.
However, because you are busy with work and spend less time together and more time apart, your emotional needs cannot be met. This is a challenge in maintaining relationships.
Uncle Yao said, This situation is not necessarily a bad thing. On the contrary, this may not be a good opportunity.
The current situation tests your ability to cope with pressure and your balance between work and family.
No matter who you end up marrying or when you get married, the above-mentioned problems will exist, and there are far more problems and pressures after marriage. The sooner you adapt to solve them, the better.
Are workaholics not worthy of falling in love? Can’t girls find ambitious boyfriends? I don't think so.
Whether you are busy or not is one thing, but whether you are dedicated or not is another.
meeting less is not without solutions. You can add other forms of links, make phone calls, video messages, etc.
If he really cares about you, even if he fails to reply in time, he will come to you and explain to you after he is done.
If he really cares about you, even if he doesn't often meet face to face, he will be interested in your affairs and listen and communicate patiently.
From his attitude and his efforts and struggles for feelings, you can tell whether he is really busy or "just coping".
You live in the same city but don’t live together. Because you don’t see each other very often, you hesitate to live together.
Regarding the matter of cohabitation, it is said that the public is right and the mother-in-law is right:
"Girls who have lived together are too cheap"
"Only after living together do you know whether it is suitable for marriage"
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Let me say, There is really no rush to live together. You have to think about these questions:
Can the problems you have now be solved by living together alone?
What should you do if he still gets up early and works late at night, and the two of you don't spend much time together?
What kind of partner do you want and are suitable to spend the rest of your life with? Do you think he is in line with your ideas? Are your plans for the future consistent?
Think carefully before taking action. I hope you can make a decision without regrets.
