01Professor Zeng Shiqiang said that life is actually composed of countless levels. If you get through these levels, that's okay. If you can't survive it, that's what your fate is. Every level is a test of life for us. Since it is a test, there must be some people who successfully

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Professor Zeng Shiqiang said that life is actually composed of countless levels. If you get through these levels, that's okay. If you can't survive it, that's what your fate is.

Every level is a test of life for us. Since it is a test, there must be some people who successfully pass the level, some people who barely pass it, and some people who cannot.

For example, when we were young, we needed to work hard in society, travel far and wide, and create our own small family. This requires both human energy and human capital.

In middle age, we need to feed the elderly, raise children, and maintain family stability. This requires not only patience, but also a lot of money.

Of course, once we approach our old age, we have bigger problems. For example, our body is no longer healthy, our children are likely to grow old, and our money is gradually being spent. This will eventually break people's minds.

Especially the generation born in the 60s and 70s, even though they only have one child, the pressure in their lives is often extremely high. Just imagine, they need to "subsidize" their children, but the children cannot support them, so what can they do?

At this time, family tragedies will appear frequently.

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html The difficulties faced by those born in the 360s and 70s stem from “children”.

In your opinion, is it better to have a child? Or is it better to have two children?

Some people think that having one child is enough. If you have two children, you will probably not be able to support them. In this case, what's the point?

Some people think that if they have a child, can they help their parents take care of themselves in old age? What's more, the cost of living today is so high that only having two children can provide for your parents in old age.

Actually, having one child has its advantages, but having two children has its difficulties. Whether you are giving birth to one child or two children, the parents are often the ones who suffer the most.

Most of the children of the post-60s and post-70s generations are "only children." From the moment a child is born, they treat the child as a "little princess/little prince", basically letting themselves suffer in order to make their children happy.

But they all forgot one thing. These only children will also grow up one day. After ten years, they will also have to take on the responsibility of providing for their parents. However, are only children, how can they afford to support their parents?

I'm sorry to say that I can't afford it, not to mention that many of these only children have problems getting married. Parents' expectations for them are tantamount to excessive "wishful thinking".

Those born in the 1960s and 1970s have to devote their whole lives to their children, and they have to work as free nannies when they are old. As a result, the children need to continue to grow old and cannot support their parents. This is the sadness of those born in the 60s and 70s.

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html The difficulties faced by those born in the 360s and 70s start with “emptying the coffin book”.

There is a saying that is very realistic, a penny can stump a hero.

No matter when and no matter what environment we are in, the only thing we cannot lack is money. Without money, our beautiful life will eventually come to nothing.

The age when money is most needed is generally when you are young and when you are approaching old age. Young people not only need to buy a car and a house, but also need a sum of money to get married. Elderly parents need to "subsidize" their children and reduce their children's burden.

A friend in the circle is 56 years old this year and his son is 30 years old. He is planning to get married. Therefore, as a father, he can only use his own wealth to buy a car and a house for his children.

A friend asked him: "You have emptied your family's fortune. What will you do in your old age? Have you thought about it?"

In response to his friend's doubts, he shook his head and said: "I am 56 years old. This is what life is like. If you really can’t do it in your old age, you can just end it on your own. But my son is different. He is still young. If I don’t help him, who can?”

’s words are not only This is the voice of this circle friend, and also the voice of countless people born in the 60s and 70s. They know that after "emptying their family fortune", their later years will be difficult, but they still do it. why? Because they place their family’s hopes on their children.

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There is no need to suffer yourself for the sake of your children.

In fact, we all disagree with the behavior of those born in the 60s and 70s who "completely ignore themselves for the sake of their children." We feel that one generation is responsible for the affairs of the other, and parents should not care too much about their children.

How our children live is their choice. Whether they can get married and whether they can afford to raise offspring depends on their own abilities. If they can't even feed themselves, then if we help them, it's just "drinking poison to quench their thirst".

To put it bluntly, children cannot support themselves or their families, so they have to find another way out. If parents blindly help, they are letting them live in a greenhouse. Just imagine, if their parents left, wouldn't it be even worse for them in the greenhouse?

If the parents are still there, they will naturally suffer for themselves and make their children happy. But parents will eventually grow old one day. We can help them for a while, but we cannot help them for a lifetime. If this is the case, then we should shift the "focus" to ourselves.

There is no need to spend all your retirement savings for the sake of your children. In our later years, as long as something goes wrong, no one will pity us, including our children. This is the saying that "there is no filial son in bed for a long time".

For those born in the 1960s and 1970s who are getting older, if you have a choice, don't empty your coffin. If you live well, the whole family can be healthy and happy.

text/Shushan Youlu