Text/Bei Dao-Have you ever noticed that the older people get, the more they know how to deceive themselves and others? The other party's indifference is obvious, but he always deceives himself to wait a little longer; it is clear that the other party has already said rejection, b

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Have you ever noticed that the older people grow up, the more they know how to deceive themselves and others.

It is obvious that the other party is cold, but he always deceives himself to wait a little longer; it is obvious that the other party has already said rejection, but he comforts himself that it is just that the other party did not realize that he is good.

On the surface, I just want to try again. It seems that no matter what the result is, I can accept it.

But I cried secretly many times where others could not see me. When faced with unwillingness, even I knew that it might not be possible.

There are some things that cannot be delayed.

Not everyone can wait, and not every relationship can be as satisfying as he wants it to be. Sometimes holding on for too long is not conducive to letting go of your obsessions.

Especially when you meet people who say these things to you, you should actually forget it long ago, because there is a high probability that they will not like you.

01.

Talking about private past events without scruples

People often say: "The desire to share is the beginning of liking someone."

When I heard this sentence before, I mistakenly understood it to mean that if a person has nothing to do with you, Said, a strong desire to share proves that the other party is also tempted.

Later I realized that there are different types of desire to share. If a person really has no scruples with himself and talks about everything, it may be because he doesn’t like it, so he is defenseless.

is like the matter of private past events.

When you really like someone, you will tell your past, but you will more or less beautify your past. People who have multiple love histories are afraid that their other half will think that they are too sentimental, and they will even subconsciously hide some stories.

But when you don’t like someone, you often become unscrupulous. You will say that you have loved several people, had relationships with several people, and who you are ambiguous with now, and who you want to continue to be with.

What is hidden in these "indifferent" is actually a person's disinterest.

is like Cao Dick in "Family Happiness". When he doesn't like a person and just regards the other person as his customer, there are countless tricks he can use.

During the years when he was in love, Cao Dick learned all kinds of love words, knew how to get in touch with a girl to make the other party attracted, and knew what kind of words to say to make the other party fall easily.

The girls he has come into contact with have almost never failed.

However, when faced with such a charming and skillful person of the opposite sex, after meeting Xiao Min, who is really attracted to her, she is so nervous that she doesn’t know what to say or what to do...

Some people say: "You can always make witty remarks just by playing. , I can only hesitate if I like it. "

Care can make a person restrained, so true liking is restraint. When a person is willing to tell you everything and doesn't hide his past stories, he is most likely to be arrogant because he doesn't like him.

02.

joking about rejecting you

Freud once said: "There is no so-called joke in the world, all jokes have serious elements."

A person's mind may have already been expressed in a joke way. Said it out loud.

reminds me of Geng Geng and Road Galaxy in " is the best of us ".

Lu Xinghe didn’t want to study, so Geng Geng went to reason with him, but seeing that it didn’t make sense, Geng Geng said helplessly: “You think the exam is meaningless to you, that’s because we are not from the same world at all."

After saying this, Geng Geng saw Lu Xinghe stunned for a moment, and immediately added jokingly: "You are an artist, I am just an ordinary person. "

It doesn't matter whether there is a difference between ordinary people and artists, because the main meaning of Geng Geng's words is that the two people are not suitable.

Later, Geng Geng rejected Lu Xinghe's confession countless times, which also proved that Lu Xinghe was Xinghe's conjecture.

In the past, when we were really tempted, we would always imagine countless possibilities and seize any hope, so we would deliberately misinterpret other people's words in order to make ourselves last longer.

In love, persistence is rare. Yes, but there is no need to persist, and you should always learn to stop, because not everyone can wait.

is like a person who always rejects you as a joke, saying that you are not suitable at all, and that you deserve someone better. There is no doubt that that person most likely doesn’t like you, and that’s why he wants to cut off the relationship with you.

If he likes you, he wants to get close to you, but if he doesn’t like you, he doesn’t want any relationship at all. He will even tell you during the contact process. "You can only be friends."

03.

I like a passage in "Lotus":

"If everything ultimately brings about abandonment and harm, you should refuse to start. People should have self-control over their desires and flaws. It’s not just eating when you’re hungry or lying down when you’re tired, all of this requires willpower to overcome. ”

Because you like someone, it is human instinct to want to get that person, and it is also the result of the love hormone.

But when facing someone you can’t get, you should always accept that you can only love but not get it, and then try your best to do it. Live your own life.

Maybe it is not easy to meet someone who truly loves you, but the wrong person is the wrong person after all. Only by letting go of their hands can you meet the right person. There is no need to chase people who may not like you, because it is difficult to get results

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