[Contribution from netizens] There is a young man in our department who was born in 1998 and has just joined the company not long ago. But his personality is quite interesting, and the "old people" in the company who are born in the 1980s all like to chat with him. When you are i

[Contribution from netizens]

There is a young man in our department who was born in 1998 and has just joined the company not long ago.

But his personality is quite interesting. The "old people" in the company who are born in the 1980s all like to chat with him.

When you are in your twenties, you cannot avoid the topic of marriage.

According to his original words:

"I don't want to get married. I plan to be single all my life. Of course I don't want children."

After hearing this, everyone naturally thought that this kid had strange ideas.

"If you don't get married or have children, who will take care of you in the future?"

"If you don't think anything at a young age, you will be very lonely in the future!"

"Your parents will not agree."

"There are too many children. How cute, you will understand when you become a parent!”

boy retorted one by one, the content is as follows:

1. I can take care of myself.

I can do it now, and I will do it ten years from now.

As for getting older, there is not much difference between getting married and not getting married.

When one is really old in his seventh or eighth decade, his spouse will probably need to be taken care of as well.

If the other person's health is worse, I still have to take care of him.

assumes it's me who needs to be taken care of?

Wouldn’t it be better to hire a professional caregiver after making good money?

So, the idea of ​​"getting married because you need someone to take care of you" makes no sense at all. I might as well save the money.

Parents said again, "How can caregivers compare with family members?"

It is true that caregivers are paid to work, but there is a high probability that their own children are not trustworthy.

The sentence "There is no filial son in bed for a long time" is a true portrayal of reality!

It’s not that middle-aged people don’t want to be filial to their parents.

But life is too difficult now. If they stop working, they will have no money to support their families and children.

Under such circumstances, how can it be possible to accompany the old man and woman at home every day?

2. The problem of "loneliness and loneliness" is difficult to solve through marriage.

Although he is young, he came from watching the marriages of his parents and elders.

Apart from the oil, salt, sauce and vinegar in daily life, plus taking care of the children, there is almost nothing in common between the couple.

Rely on the other person as your own spiritual comfort?

Don't be ridiculous, just take my parents as an example - in my impression they are always quarreling, and sometimes they get physical. There seems to be nothing unusual about

. It seems that most people are like this.

I have a cousin and a cousin.

My cousin’s children live and attend school outside and do not need to be taken care of.

So my cousin goes out to eat, drink and play with friends after work every day, and my cousin goes shopping with her best friends when she has time.

Both of them act independently. How can their marriage resolve loneliness?

As for my cousin, she just got divorced this year.

I sold my house and car when I got married in order to divide the property, and now I live with my parents.

In the past two years, the house has been unable to be sold at a reasonable price and has lost money.

I know:

There will always be people who are lucky enough to find the perfect person of the opposite sex and marry him/her to spend a lifetime together.

rely on each other, are inseparable, and have a harmonious and happy marriage.

But that kind of luck will not happen to me.

3. It doesn’t matter what my parents said about my marriage.

I have already expressed my thoughts to my parents, and of course they are very unhappy.

also said that my refusal to continue the family line was ridiculous and irresponsible, and I would definitely regret it or change my mind in the future.

But let me make one thing clear first:

My life is my own, and I do not need to be responsible for others.

carry on the family line?

Ordinary people don’t have much property and no privileges. Does it mean that ordinary people are obsessed with continuing the family bloodline? Is

worried about the fate of mankind?

is not the case, you are thinking too much.

My decision, even if I regret it in the future, it is my own life choice.

If I blindly follow others at this time, I will regret it later and blame others, and I hate that.

4. Children are cute, but so what?

cute? Is cuteness important?

I think kittens are cute, but I don’t have a cat now.

Animals are also living beings, and they also know pain, hunger, loneliness and coldness.

If you choose to keep a pet, you must take the responsibility of taking care of it and make it comfortable.

I live in a rental house and it is very inconvenient to have pets.

Once the animals change places to live, they will feel very uneasy and uncomfortable.

And some landlords may not allow pets.

Children are similar to pets: they may be cute, but the burden on their shoulders is a thousand times heavier.

Compared with the so-called "cute", I feel that I don't need to trade it with the burden of weighing.

is full of cute things.

Why do we have to raise children to experience cuteness.

My parents have told me so many times:

How hard it was for them to raise me, how much money they spent, and their entire life was invested in me.

In short, it makes me remember their goodness.

But when it was my turn, they began to persuade me:

"Raising children is fun."

"In fact, you can have more than one, it's okay. You can raise two and three just like me."

You should treat me as me No memory, right? ? ? ?

You two can hardly bear raising me, how many more are you going to have?

I can’t figure out whether my parents are really practicing double standards or just pretending to be confused.

Discussion

Nowadays, some young people born in 1995 advocate not getting married, not buying a house, and not having children.

believes that this can avoid most of the worries in life and not think about the future. What do you think about the idea of ​​

? Whose interests did they infringe on?

welcome to share in the comment area.