Ge Hong said that making friends does not have to be complicated.
In one's life, one is very lucky to have a few sincere friends.
Human nature is often difficult to predict. You know people but not their hearts. You treat a person with your heart, but he may not treat you sincerely.
Some people are very approachable and nice on the surface, but they are very dark on the inside. He talks beautifully every time, but behind the scenes he does nothing, and even adds insult to injury.
If we meet such a person and treat him carefully, we will easily suffer a loss. So how can you tell if this person is someone you can have a deep relationship with?
is actually not difficult, as long as we look at these four aspects.
1. Do you only value interests?
If the other party only values interests, it is a very selfish performance. When you get along with him, he will not consider you, he will only consider his gains and losses.
For this kind of person, no matter how much you pay, it is useless. In his heart, he only cares about whether he can benefit. When you are profitable to him, he will please you in every way. When it doesn't benefit him, he will quickly change his attitude.
For example, if you lend money to him, he will praise you for being very nice and say words of gratitude. But when you ask him for money one day, you will know how ugly human nature is. In his eyes, the people who lent him money were enemies, and he felt that they were not friends enough.
2. Whether a person knows how to be grateful
Whether a person knows how to be grateful can tell what his character is. People who don't know how to be grateful have very bad character and will only ask for things blindly. He will take your kindness to him as a matter of course. The more you help him, the less satisfied you become.
The ancients said that a drop of kindness should be repaid by a spring. Gratitude is the bridge between friends. People who don't know how to be grateful are not worthy of deep friendship.
People who know how to be grateful will definitely remember that others are good to them, even if it is a small thing. Such a person will be more responsible and more worthy of being with him sincerely.
3. Is it positive energy?
If we deal with people with negative energy every day, they will complain every day and complain about things in various ways, which will make us irritable. People with negative energy only complain about other people's problems and often ignore themselves.
If he is a positive person, we can have a deep friendship with him. If you usually get along with him, he will convey a lot of positive energy to you and have a positive view of things. You will gain confidence and courage in the process of getting along with him. When he encounters something he can't solve, he will also come up with solutions for you and help you with all his heart.
4. Is it honest?
If a person is not honest, then he has no bottom line and principles in his heart. From a psychological perspective, such people are unstable and lack a sense of security and belonging. If you have a close relationship with such a person, you will suffer a lot of harm. When cooperating with him on a certain matter, you may lose money materially and suffer mental trauma.
Integrity is the foundation of life. If a person cannot pay attention to integrity, do not believe what he says and try to have as little dealings with him as possible.
Conclusion
To judge whether a person can have a deep friendship, you need to first understand what kind of person he is. Through these 4 aspects and comprehensive consideration, I believe you can also identify it. If you have any questions or comments, please leave them in the comment area.
Creation is not easy, no piracy, author Xiong Xiong Yuanyuan
