How many boys have tried their best to pursue a girl, but in the end, they still can't get her love?
This "thankless" approach has caused many boys to lose the confidence to pursue girls and no longer believe in love.
If, in the process of chasing girls, your efforts will be rewarded accordingly, then you will definitely be able to see the happiness of love.
Because when your efforts are rewarded, you can truly immerse yourself in the matter of "chasing girls" and experience the beauty of it.
So, how to pursue girls in order to maintain the balance of "pay-return ratio"? We need to understand the logical thinking of this matter first. ("Principle" included at the end of the article)
Think about it from another angle: Suppose you want to sell a product to a customer, but this product is of little help to him. Do you think it is possible to successfully sell it?
For customers, there is no need to buy products that are useless. Even if you tell them many advantages of the product, it is still difficult to impress them.
Therefore, only products that are valuable to others can be easily sold successfully.
In the same way, only boys who are "useful" to girls can easily pursue girls.
However, in reality, many boys often ignore "bringing value to her" when chasing girls. As a result, girls' "demand" for boys is not high.
Some boys may say: I am very good to a girl. I give her gifts that she likes and help her repair her computer. Doesn’t this bring value to her?
Actually, for a girl, having a boy who is nice to her can certainly help her. However, have you ever thought about whether this "useful for girls" method is not core competitive enough?
Because other boys will be nice to her, and "this kind of kindness" is dispensable to girls and has little value.
Boys must understand: Only if its own value can be "useful" to a girl can she be motivated to participate in this relationship.
So, what is "useful for girls"?
answer: can make up for the emotional lack of girls and become the value of your pursuit of girls.
In the process of chasing a girl, a boy should take the initiative to discover the girl's emotional deficiencies, and then deliberately satisfy her emotional needs.
Remember, don’t ask girls directly, otherwise it will look very deliberate.
For example: You find that girls are always careless, often forget to bring things when they go out, and leave valuable items behind.
Then, when you get along with her, help her be more careful.
For example, if she often forgets to bring tissues when she goes out, then you should always keep a pack of tissues for her; after eating out, she will always forget to take away her clothes, so help her remember.
Such careful behavior will not have much effect once or twice. However, as time goes by, girls will form a habit and gradually become emotionally dependent on you.
If a girl says to her best friend: I think this boy is very careful in doing things. When I am with him, I don’t have to think too much and we get along very easily and happily.
That proves that your "carefulness" is "useful" to her, and it is only a matter of time before she becomes your girlfriend.
Let’s straighten out the logical thinking of chasing girls: boys discover the girl’s emotional deficiencies, and then focus their pursuit on making up for the girl’s emotional deficiencies. After the girl’s emotions have been satisfied many times, It means that "boys' values" and "girls' emotional needs" perfectly match.
Remember: "useful" things will prompt people to chase them, and what boys have to do is to create this "useful" value for girls.
For example, the girl you like has been rejected by the people around her since she was a child, causing her to lack a sense of identity, lack self-confidence in herself, and always act submissively.
If you think you are very humorous and always make her happy in front of her, it will be difficult to get into her heart.
You should be thinking: How to encourage her? How to bring her out of the shadow of childhood? How to help her find confidence?
follows this idea to connect with a girl's emotional weaknesses. When you are "useful" to her, she will never be able to leave you again.
Therefore, when it comes to "chasing girls", you must use the correct method instead of just relying on hard work.
Look, in reality, how many boys always ignore the "value connection" in the process of pursuing girls, resulting in a lot of useless efforts.
I would like to ask, can this way of chasing girls not be tiring?
So, stop complaining that it is difficult to chase girls. It is better to silently improve yourself and improve your ability to obtain happiness. Don't spend time and energy on ineffective things.
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I am Lei Te, welcome to follow me @雷特说, interpret the skills of chasing girls from a high-dimensional perspective, and let your emotional intelligence crush your peers. If you have emotional problems, discuss them in the comment area.
