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Many friends complain that some bosses or leaders value "bullying" honest people. Always burden the honest people. Obviously other people are idle, and they will arrange some work for themselves. Obviously my workload is already full, but I still habitually assign work to myself. And if you make a mistake, you are always criticized. It is impossible to predict why the boss is doing this!
In response to this very common phenomenon, the old ghost completely solved this puzzle for everyone, and shared six ideas to make everyone out of this vicious circle!
Core reason: The boss not only uses some of the advantages of honest people, but also uses some of the shortcomings of the "honest" character! Therefore, honest people must know where their shortcomings are, and are willing to correct their shortcomings from the heart!
We can never say: I just don't want to correct my shortcomings! You can't expect others to understand and tolerate your own shortcomings, let alone others' empathy and conscience discovery!
1. Summary of several characteristics of honest people
"Honesty" is not a rigorous academic vocabulary. It's just an adjective to describe a person's character. It contains many characteristics of such people, but not all of them necessarily possess these characteristics. It can only be regarded as a general description:
is more positive and worthy of respect: loyal, honest, compliant, obedient, simple, and safe. Others can conscientiously discover and empathize...
The above is a summary of some of the characteristics of honest people. We will find that in the character described by "honest", there are good and bad. Therefore, it will be very difficult if you blindly describe yourself as an "honest person" and are unwilling to adjust what you should adjust.
2. From now on, we must abandon the idea of "relying on others, especially leadership empathy"!
As the subject of the subject asked, I wondered "why did the leader do this" in my heart. In fact, I subconsciously wondered and even complained about how the leader didn't know how to be considerate of others, didn't know how to be fair, didn't know the dissatisfaction and grievances of honest people .
To put it bluntly, I still strongly hope that leaders can think in another position, and no longer bully honest people, and no longer unfairly burden honest people!
These are the things in the subconscious of honest people! Maybe I didn't even realize it!
Therefore, the old ghost strongly recommends: From now on, don't expect your leaders and bosses to discover with conscience, be considerate of honest people, and distribute work tasks in a fair manner!
Don't expect leaders to think from their own perspective, you can stimulate your own initiative! Otherwise, you will only fall into feelings of aggrieved feelings and be unable to extricate yourself from the mind-this will not solve the problem!
Three, establish your own bottom line! Know clearly: Being easy to be broken by others is your own weakness! And it is a serious workplace taboo!
Loyalty, honesty, conformity, etc., no problem. But compliance without a bottom line is a disadvantage.
can't always use "honest" as a fig leaf and not correct your shortcomings! The bottom line of
is: I can do more, I can be more diligent than others, but I can't accept some excessive work that exceeds the normal workload and scope of work.
The survival and development of the workplace is about wisdom. It's not that you can't do more, nor can you help others. But to know how to distinguish!
For example, some smart work can be done more. The so-called smart work is: work that other people's skills and level can't do or can't do, or work that others can do but can't be completed in a certain period of time with quality and quantity.
Those transactional tasks that are purely physical and time consuming must be very principled! Anyone can do it, but only arrange to do it by himself! There must be a limit to this kind of thing, and you must learn to refuse!
Smart work allows you to build certain advantages. And those tasks that anyone can do that are purely time-consuming and physically demanding are not good for me! Only letOthers laugh at yourself as "stupid"!
Of course, you must pay attention to strategies and methods when you refuse. "Speaking" is a knowledge that honest people should strengthen.
Too many people maintain the "honest person" card and are unwilling to let go, and do not value the learning and improvement of eloquence and communication skills. This is not right.
is more serious: If an honest person always obediently accepts the boss and leads excessive work arrangements, over time, everyone will look at you and be uncomfortable! Because you have created a negative "model"! This is only bad but not good for your interpersonal relationship management in the workplace!
Fourth, the old ghost suggestion: Don't lose the characteristics of being honest, loyal, and conforming to the rules, but you should add some activities related to humanity and sophistication. In this regard, one more heart will not suffer!
Honest people can't hold this god card to solidify their thoughts and behaviors. Honest people can also walk around with leaders, bosses and colleagues more appropriately!
Strengthen public relations, and will not "stain" your image! Don't think that strengthening your relationship with your boss will defile your brand! Because the old ghost has helped everyone to disassemble: honestly there are some shortcomings and weaknesses in the concept that need to be modified and adjusted!
V. The old ghost's advice from the heart: We should not violate the rules, rules and even unspoken rules of the workplace just because we are honest. Of course, it also includes the human affection and sophistication
In the workplace, we must face reality. We must adhere to such excellent qualities as being honest, trustworthy, punctual, decent, sincere to good people and so on. But more clearly: the workplace has workplace rules, rules and even hidden rules. Therefore, one cannot be too "axial". You can't resist these things because of your emotional emotions.
Under the premise of not losing the principles and limitations, flexible wisdom needs to be studied! Because as long as you pay attention to observation, you will find that there are some grassroots like you and me in the workplace, and they have achieved good development through their own efforts!
is not only a person who has become an "unfaithful" or a small person who can accomplish something!
6. In fact, the adjective "honest" is best removed from our brains! This is not a concept that we should use in the workplace.
honestly itself is a very vague adjective. As a workplace person, I should disassemble it, take the excellent qualities and characteristics of this adjective from it and use it for me, and discard the shortcomings, shortcomings, and weaknesses of this adjective.
is not "honesty" is not good or wrong, but should stick to the idea of "getting out of the rough and taking advantage of strengths and avoiding weaknesses". Above
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