Author: Li Meixuan
1 Ask Guan Xiaoheiwu again
It is said that her daughter is the little quilted jacket of her parents, but Tan Mei has refused to be the little quilted jacket of her parents since she was seven.
When Tan Mei was seven years old, her parents, who were always arguing for three days and one for five days, suddenly stopped arguing, and her father went home less and less.
Then, one morning, my mother sent Tan Mei and her sister to her grandmother's house in the countryside. About a month later, when her mother took Tan Mei and her sister home again, the father was gone.
Tan Mei was very strange, and asked her mother: "Where did Dad go?"
Mother said: "Dad has gone a long way, and will not come back."
Tan Mei was still very strange, and asked her mother: "Very How far is it, is Dad really not coming back?”
Mother became impatient, and shouted at Tan Mei: “If you don’t come back, you won’t come back, don’t ask! Ask Guan Xiaohei again!”
Xiaohei The room is the closet in the parents’ room. Every time Tan Mei or her sister gets into trouble without admitting their mistakes, the mother likes to put them in the closet until the sisters ask for mercy. Tan Mei cried out hoarse a few times, and later his father let her out without permission, but each time it always caused quarrels between her parents, so Tan Mei feared and hated the little black house.
Tan Mei looked at her mother's impatient face, and was afraid to enter the small black room again. She shut her mouth and did not dare to ask her father where she was going.
A week later, Tan Mei learned from her neighbors that her parents were divorced, and her father was sent to work in another city by the unit, and rarely returned to her hometown.
Tan Mei thought that her father left her without saying a word, and was extremely disappointed with her father. Since then, whenever her mother shut her in the small dark room, she hated her father. Later, my father came to see her. She refused to see her father again several times.
2 Looks like her dad
Yes, since her parents divorced, Tan Mei has been locked up in small black houses more and more times.
One night, my mother came back from work,While cooking in the kitchen, Tan Mei and her sister were playing in the small living room. Her sister snatched Tan Mei’s pencil. Tan Meiyi hurriedly pushed her sister a few times. As a result, her sister started crying and her mother ran out of the kitchen and pulled up without a word. Tan Mei was locked in the small black room and she was released until the next morning. At that time, Tan Mei was crying in the pervasive smell of poop and urine. She had a cold and fever for four or five days, if not. Grandma came to take care of her, and Tan Mei might be dead.
After that time, Tan Mei's rebellious psychology became stronger and stronger, and she stopped crying when she was shut in the black room by her mother, but stayed inside without saying a word.
Mother was a little scared when she saw this, and gradually stopped using the little black room as a tool to punish Tan Mei.
When Tan Mei was ten years old, she was almost never locked up in a small black house.
However, at this time, Tan Mei is almost as tall as her mother, and her relationship with her mother is getting more and more alienated.
At the age of twelve, one day, grandma came from the country again.
At night, Tan Mei overheard her mother and grandmother say: "My daughter looks like her dad and has a personality like her dad. If it wasn't for her dad, I would throw her to his dad and take her away! It's really a burden!"
Grandma sighed: "Her dad has died of lung cancer. It's boring to say this now. You, you have a strong personality and always want to control a man. When a man goes to the bathroom, you also suspect him. No man can stand your temper, you have to change it!"
Mother "sucked" a few times and didn't speak again.
Tan Mei hid behind the door, and her heart was suddenly broken. That night, she huddled in the bed and cried silently for a while, and made up her mind to leave the house.
3 She is light and windy
When she was fifteen years old, Tan Mei was admitted to a technical school in another province and really left home.
In the first year of technical school, my grandmother passed away. Since then, Tan Mei has never returned home. Apart from giving some monthly living expenses, my mother never came to see Tan Mei.
Tan Mei had a boyfriend in her second year of technical school.
Boyfriend is a local, and he opened a clothing store, always saying that Tan Mei is a clothes rack.As a result, Tan Mei became the queen of merchandising, but all the clothes she wore became the best sellers in her boyfriend's shop. Tan Mei bluntly asked her boyfriend for a kickback.
When she graduated from Tanmei Technical School, she broke up with her boyfriend, but she also owns a clothing store.
In the following ten years, Tan Mei made several boyfriends, and they always wondered about Tan Mei's calmness towards love.
Once, a boyfriend asked Tan Mei if he didn't love him, why not like other women, at least take the initiative to call him when he was on a business trip for a few days?
Tan Mei smiled and said nothing.
The love scene is light, but the career is booming.
Tan Mei was married when she was 30 years old, but she already owned eight chain clothing stores and became a famous little rich woman in her circle of friends.
My mother took her sister to find Tan Mei. Tan Mei opened a room for her mother and sister in a five-star hotel, and then said she was too busy to leave. The next morning, her mother didn’t say hello to Tan Mei. Then left.
4 Spend one night in a small black house
My sister looks very much like her mother, and her personality is similar to her mother. Tan Mei and her sister are also very alienated.
When her sister was killed in an accident, Tan Mei received the news and finally returned home.
It was evening when Tan Mei arrived home.
The house is still the same, the mother was sitting on the sofa, and she cried when she saw Tan Mei, and said: "Your sister is gone too, what can I do?! Or should I bring you the baby? Even though I am physically Not so good, but I can do some work..."
Tan Mei didn't even look at her mother, and said slowly: "You can stay in the little black room for one night, and I will take you away. , Give you old age."
Mother looked at Tan Mei blankly, and did not speak for a long, long time.
Tan Mei stood in front of her younger sister's portrait for a long time without speaking.
The night spread her wings outside the window, and Tan Mei said to her mother "Go", then opened the door and left without looking back.
In the spring of the second year, her mother asked someone to bring news to Tan Mei that she was seriously ill and was hospitalized.Want to see the last side of Tan Mei.
Tan Mei gave the visitor 30,000 yuan to entrust her mother's funeral affairs, but she did not go back.
Later, it is said that when the mother left, she kept calling the names of Tan Mei and Tan Mei's father. Relatives in the knowledge said that Tan Meixin was too cruel.
Postscript:
Later, Tan Mei said: Mother is too strong and always wants to control her husband and daughter strongly, but she does not have strong capital and ability. I always hope that others, especially the men who have loved, can empathize with me. Later, when it comes to empathy, even if you are a female compatriot or parent and child, you may not have empathy and compassion for your state of mind. Moreover, although some people have strong empathy, they may not be willing to lend a hand to help you. So, I knew when I was young, try to overcome most of the hardships in life, and it is the kingly way to let go of most of the hardships in life.
But, is Tan Mei relieved?
I thought, no, she never let it go.
Yes, we understand so many life principles, and also understand the importance of self-reliance and relief, but when we encounter it, we will eventually find it hard to calm down, and it will be hard to let go of it.
