Marx once said this: "Man is the sum of all social relations." Indeed, since the moment of birth, people have never counted with the people around them. Qing’s complicated relationship.
And our relationship with all of this can be roughly divided into several types of big relationships, such as relatives with direct blood relationship, familiar and frequent friends, and familiar but unfamiliar classmates, etc. There are four categories of strangers who have not contacted at all.
family
There is such a proverb in the former Soviet Union: "The grace of parents, water can not drown, fire can not die." , Can not help but call it a miracle, it is the greatness and mystery of life and nature. Although science has given countless explanations, every time we witness the birth of a newborn, we still burst into tears.
About parents, there are too many words, I don’t know where to start, and even a thousand words can’t express the complex emotions in my heart. There are countless parents in the world, there are qualified and unqualified, we cannot generalize, but in most cases, children and parents love each other deeply.
However, the relationship between parents and children is always full of ups and downs. In most cases, conflicts are accompanied and intensified. How to resolve it is very important.
The blood ties between family members that cannot be separated,It's not that one or two quarrels will be exhausted, but what kind of relationship is most comfortable for them is very important.
What does it mean to be comfortable? Equality or harmony? Although there are differences in the way of getting along, the most important thing is to find a suitable way of getting along with each other, so that each other can be honest and understand each other. This kind of relationship is what countless children and parents expect. Friends like friends are not just friends, they have support and trust. , This is a healthy parent-child relationship.
Brothers and sisters: In addition to parents, there are some brothers and sisters who are not only children and grow up together. It is unreasonable for quarrels to not exist at a similar age. Children have their own theories, even if they are out of place in the world, it doesn’t matter, but No matter how you fight, it is really close to the family when you close the door.
Friend
Lu Xun once said: "It is enough to have a confidant in life, and it is fortunate that the world should have a confidant in life. Friends can be childhood sweethearts, who grow up together and read books and play together, or they can meet Fang Zhi there are people like this in the world.
No matter if you are with you all the way or on a journey of life, such a person is rare. You don’t need to force yourself. He understands your thoughts and emotions, knows your emotions, knows your emotions, and understands what you want. When a person meets one, it is worth a lifetime. Even if they are thousands of miles apart, they have their own way to get in touch. Time and space are not distance, but a crack in the heart is the reason.
When getting along with friends, we don't need to be pretentious and flattering, we can do whatever we want, we are comfortable and at ease. This kind of relationship is a good fit.
Nodding acquaintance
will always meet some people, knowing that they have had contact with each other, but stop here, meet a smile or a few words of greeting, continue to do what you should do, it doesn’t cost too much There are a lot of nodding acquaintances like this, some are uncomfortable, they like to be self-righteous, can avoid and stay away; some understand the scale and scale, and keep a comfortable distance from each other.
Even if you are not a friend, you have a sense of stability and comfort. Such a nodding acquaintance is a comfortable relationship.
Strangers
It doesn’t matter if you don’t know each other, you won’t have any thoughts, but people get to know each other slowly. As time and experience increase, people will meet too many people in their lifetime In the end, what I remember is just a few that I often contact, and time makes people forget.
It is a gradual and selective process for a stranger to become a confidant at the end of a nodding acquaintance.
Jung once said: "Rather than being a good person, I would rather be a whole person." _strong5span _strong5span Why. Because a good person is not difficult, but a complete person needs to break through many shackles and find and find the true self. Many people may not be able to do it in their entire life.
Adler has such a famous saying: all troubles,It's all the troubles of interpersonal relationship. Yes. From the moment human and human seed have a relationship, it is the beginning of all causal cycles.
Whether you are family, friends or strangers, it is not easy but not difficult to make each other comfortable. Just be yourself, and respect others to make your own choices.
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