Almost every woman has a type of boy he likes or yearns for. Under normal circumstances, they will also associate with the boy they like.
However, in the matter of love, there may not necessarily be a good result, because he is not a bad man, but he hurts girls deeply. If you encounter a scumbag or a liar, it will be even more a disaster.
Therefore, there are often unhappy female readers who leave messages asking what kind of men are worthy of dating?
This question is really difficult for me to answer.
The difficulty is, Each woman has a completely different cultural level, mentality, social level, and enterprising, so they have different standards for "good men." A question will have different answers.
If you really care about the loyalty of men, Guo Jing is the best choice; if you like men’s taste very much, 7span is the best choice. Noble man,Of course you have to find Duan Yu .
The question is, even if you are lucky enough to find such a man, whether he likes you or whether you will get good results is not necessarily true. Because life is not a novel, it will not run according to the author's personal settings.
Every woman has a different mind, and the answer is different. If you just ask my personal opinion, assuming the bag is a girl, how should you choose your husband-in-law? Well, I can answer you.
The best man in Baobao’s heart is not necessarily rich, talented, status, or loyal (it is better to have the above characteristics), but he must have two advantages —— knows how to appreciate women and is willing to be a woman.
Interrupt statement: If you don’t have the ambition to upgrade, you don’t care whether a man appreciates you, you just don’t want to meet a scumbag, or you just want to be spoiled by a man If you want to find a long-term meal ticket, then this article is not suitable for you. Do not read it down to avoid wasting time.
Let’s talk about "appreciation" first.
Know that appreciation and love are different.
Love is more "materialistic". Loving someone often starts with sexual attraction, but love easily disappears. Once it disappears, it will be disgusting from the bone and dissatisfy the other person; appreciation is more spiritual , Is often to find some kind of transcendence and feel different. Even if you don't love the other person, you are still very affirmative and respect each other.
For a man, it is easy to fall in love with a woman, as long as her appearance and body meet his requirements; it is also easy to marry a woman, as long as her conditions meet his standards.
However, it is more difficult for a man to appreciate a woman from the inside.
Because this requires two conditions: First, he must respect women from his bones, and many straight men and male punches simply can’t do it; second, he must have unique vision. , This requires a certain culture, experience and aesthetic ability.
There are many high-educated girls,Married to a man who is well qualified but not well-educated, and after living for a period of time, I found out that it’s fine if the two of them don’t talk about one. The other party still doesn’t respect and appreciate themselves, so it’s like "you read more books for a few years." What's so great".
You should know that is not because the other party does not want to respect and appreciate you, but because of his qualifications, it is impossible to do . He is unlikely to have this kind of consciousness, he can brag in front of his friends at best-"My wife is XX." But this kind of "wife blowing" is not his appreciation of you, but a gap that everyone can see. Ha ha!
After all, men are realistic, knowing that they cannot marry a woman with perfect conditions in all aspects, and can only choose the "strengths" they need most according to their own conditions. He likes your beauty, and may despise your poverty or low education; he likes your material conditions, but in his heart he dislikes you for not being beautiful enough or too stupid.
Therefore, he may love you very much, or he may be willing to marry you, but he does not respect you so much in his heart. Not being respected or appreciated by her husband is not a blessing for any woman. Even if you enjoy the best life, you are still in your throat.
Appreciation is different. Although you are worthless in the eyes of others, your husband thinks you are particularly good.Has advantages that other women can't match.
I have a friend, and everyone thinks that his wife is not as good as him, and his family is not as good as him. She also loves vanity and loves spending money. She is simply a prodigal lady. However, what does he think of his wife?
He feels that his wife is not only talented, but also very interesting. Every penny is spent where it should be spent. Because of her, he feels that his struggle is meaningful. This day It's a good time, even if the accident comes before tomorrow, he doesn't have any regrets...Women, don't you want a husband like this?
He has repeatedly said that if a divorce, he can find a girl younger and more beautiful than his wife, and he may also find a woman with better material conditions than his wife, but in combination, he does not believe that he can find it. A better woman than this wife.
You can think of this as "love", but in fact this is love with "appreciation" added.
Let me tell the story of the female fan Akiko.
Mingzi is from a poor family, but she is smart and easy to learn. She can go to high school, and the family can't afford it, so I want her to drop out of school. At the critical moment, the eldest brother A Duan, who has always liked her, confessed to her,And is willing to read for her.
With the funding of A Duan, Akiko finished high school and university. After working for a year, Akiko married A Duan as scheduled and gave birth to a son. However, Akiko looked down on Ah Duan in his heart, and became more reconciled as the days passed.
In order to escape, Akiko was admitted to graduate school and pursued a doctoral degree. During her Ph.D. study, Mingzi worked with her mentor on projects, and later developed a relationship with an entrepreneur and filed for a divorce with Aduan.
If you change to another man, you may get furious: "The hot next door, I worked so hard to provide you to school, but you are a white-eyed wolf, I will kill you, ungrateful thing!"
But how did Adan do it? He agreed to divorce, divided half of the family property to Akiko, and agreed with his son and Akiko, and only asked for visitation rights.
He said sadly: "From the very beginning, I knew that you are a dragon, how could you stay in my pond forever. I supported you back then, but I just couldn’t bear to lose your future. , Of course I am also a little greedy... Don’t worry, I don’t hate you. I really appreciate your staying with me for so many years. I have married a doctor’s wife anyway!" Betrayed myself,I still feel that the other party is excellent, so I can't bear and don't want to criticize the other party.
Why many men can tolerate and forgive their wives for such and other problems, and even do not care about cheating. In addition to love, it is more likely that he has a heartfelt appreciation for his wife, which convinces him For yourself...
The love that most women yearn for is that men fall in love with themselves on a spiritual level, rather than just coveting their own body or materialized conditions such as money. In fact, women are looking for "lovers who can appreciate themselves."
A man who loves you very warmly is of course worth cherishing; but only a man who knows how to appreciate you is a treasure that does not change.
Many men have a desire to control. Although they may love a woman very much, they are unwilling to achieve her. They are even afraid that when she succeeds in her career, she will no longer be under their control.
This worry of men is not superfluous. For example, the A Duan mentioned above, didn't it happen that this kind of tragedy happened? Once a woman succeeds in her career, she may become more ambitious, and may become fatter, and it may really be a divorce.
Akiko might not have the courage to divorce if she hadn't met a better man after her Ph.D.
Many men would rather work harder,Become the backbone of the breadwinner, and do not want his wife to surpass himself in career. If their wives succeed in their careers, they will become sour and make all kinds of moths.
Therefore, the kind of man who is willing to be his wife is very rare.
There are many ways for men to become women.
For example, he has the resources and connections and is willing to introduce him to his wife, who will climb up on his shoulders.
Some entrepreneurs or the second generation of X provide a stage for his wife to learn and display her talents. From an ordinary girl to a senior white-collar, gold-collar, and even support her business success , All-powerful situation.
For example, although he has no money and no social status, he is willing to work hard, give his wife backing, encourage her to pursue a career that she likes, and finally get her what she wants success.
"Gone with the Wind" author Margaret Mitchell , I met such a good man-John Marsh.
Mitchell is actually a woman with a strong sense of inferiority.Without self-confidence. However, John Marsh firmly believes that his wife is a literary genius-"I would rather give up everything and embrace her gift!" My wife, finally let her finish and publish this masterpiece.
Mitchell only published this work in his life, but it occupies an unshakable position in the history of world literature. Some people say that without John Marsh, this great book would not have been produced, and Mitchell would be a mediocre woman.
Let’s put it this way, no matter what unforgivable shortcomings John Marsh has in his married life, he is still the best man in my heart-admiring his wife and being a wife.
However, to be honest, there are fewer and fewer women who only fall in love once in their lives; the possibility of finding such a man in a relationship is even smaller, and Mitchell also lost his first love. , I met John Marsh.
So, if you are broken in love, there is nothing to worry about, maybe the next one is "John Marsh".
At the same time, not every man who "appreciates and is willing to make you" has the ability to send you to Qingyun.Maybe you need a "baton".
Of course, a man who appreciates you does not necessarily disapprove of other women; a man who is willing to be you does not necessarily want to be you alone. They may change their hearts; and you may also change their hearts.
This means that you may fall in love many times, but every time you lose love, it is an opportunity for you to grow. As your rank increases, the rank of a man that meets your requirements is also Will get higher and higher.
Finally, under their relay-style love and care, you gradually realize a spiral upward spiral.
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