With the development of the times, many things are changing, but women's attitudes towards feelings and marriage are still so persistent and traditional.
For example, in the face of a husband cheating.
As long as the husband returns to the family after derailment, the marriage can be maintained, and there will be no more exhausting changes. Then a woman chooses to marry a man, no matter what happens afterwards, will take her husband’s mistakes Tolerate, habitually continue to pay for the family.
And this tolerance of women was a very common thing in previous times. Husbands may really get better in the future, but Yiyi found that with the passage of time, this tolerance of wives, but welcome Here comes the husbands' changes intensified.
Because of the selfish nature of men, they did not take the corresponding responsibilities to their wives and family, but they also have higher requirements for them, both a stable family and passionate love . The longer you get married, the more critical you are about your wife.
Once the wife is busy with the family, has some emotional needs that are not given in place, which does not meet the expectations of men , men just think the quality of marriage is too low, and start to try to seek more seductive opportunities outside marriage .
In the end, it is very likely to do behavior that hurts the family and wife, stepping on the wrong step and making the mistake for life.
Usually at this time, wives who know their husband’s extramarital affairs will send a private message to Xinyue, asks, my husband already knew that he was wrong, and took the initiative to return to the family, then he will get back to the third party in the future. Does it burn?
Today, Yi Yi used the private messages of two men he had seen as a typical example.Let's analyze it in detail.
The first one: Mr. Duan
Mr. Duan and his wife are college classmates, they got married as soon as they graduated, and their relationship is very good, but at a classmate gathering not long ago, Mr. Duan was in trouble for a while Mi, misbehaved with a high school classmate who had just divorced.
Mr. Duan was very guilty and scared at first, but when he saw that something had happened, and the woman proactively expressed her affection for Mr. Duan, he developed an extramarital affair.
In this way, this unruly love lasted for a whole year. He thought that he and Xiao San weren’t true love either. They just got what they needed. As long as he hides well, his wife will not find out.
But the fire can't be contained in the paper. After the original match is known, Mr. Duan will be given two choices. One is to divorce directly, but don't want to take too much advantage.
In fact, men are rarely willing to give up the family that they have run for a long time, so Mr. Duan chose to return to the family and want to live a good life with his wife.
However, because of the extramarital affair, his wife has completely lost love for him. Not only does she try to avoid daily communication with Mr. Duan, but also no longer allows Mr. Duan to approach him.
In this kind of cold violence, Mr. Duan's previous guilt and anxiety were gradually wiped out, and he couldn't help returning to his lover's embrace, at least here he could get gentle comfort.
After that, the original partner was aware of Mr. Duan's second derailment performance, which completely relieved Mr. Duan.
The original partner no longer dared to act rashly after knowing that Mr. Duan had met with his lover again, but instead turned a blind eye to her husband's behavior for a while.
And Mr. Duan’s idea of not wanting to divorce has also changed in his wife’s behavior.He thought about it more than once, and leave it if the big deal is a big deal. It's better than getting angry every day.
The second one: Mr. Xun
Mr. Xun is forty-six years old this year. He and his wife are childhood sweethearts. They have been together all the way to today. They have been together for dozens of years. Of children have also gone to college.
But Mr. Xun couldn't help but made a mistake and broke the peace. He couldn't help being with one of the most sweet and lively young girls in the company, betraying his family.
After discovering this incident, his wife was calmer. She said that she would give Mr. Xun a chance to make corrections based on his relationship for so many years. If Mr. Xun did it, then this incident would not have happened. .
If Mr. Xun is persistent, then Mr. Xun will have to bear the consequences of the divorce.
Mr. Xun’s original partner is a successful and gentle woman. Mr. Xun respects her very much, so he cherishes this opportunity very much.
He thinks that the third person is just a young little girl, who is with him, but it is only for the purpose of status or money, he will not be with her, and he still has feelings for his wife, and he can’t find it. A good woman like this.
What's more, they have known each other for so many years, the interests of the two are mixed, and their career and contacts will be adversely affected by the divorce, so they broke up directly with the minor and chose to return to the family.
Now his main goal is to smoothly pass the inspection period given by his wife without doing anything wrong.
From Xinyue's point of view, it is impossible for Mr. Xun to rekindle his love with his lover, because he can't afford the consequences of losing his family.
The third one: Mr. Jin
Mr. Jin is different from the first two people,He desperately wanted the resurrection of the old relationship, but his lover had gone far away.
The situation is like this. After discovering that he was cheated, Mr. Jin chose to maintain the marriage in order to maintain a stable family and broke up with his lover.
But then he faced a more indifferent and ruthless marriage environment than before, and because of his derailment, the original partner has never had a good face towards him now, and often expresses his disdain and contempt.
In his wife's attitude, Mr. Jin deeply understands that this will be the case after the marriage. He desperately wants a divorce and restarts with his lover.
But the lover has already gone far, no trace, so Mr. Jin said bluntly that his current life is like a year.
In Yiyi's view, Mr. Jin is likely to cheat twice.
And from the analysis of the above three men, it can be seen that regardless of whether cares whether the man made a mistake, he can be even more aggrieved than the original match, which is really incomprehensible.
But it’s not important, it’s important for women to know that for whatever reason, a man’s derailment is an act of no sense of responsibility.
He must face criticism and punishment from his wife, and must be full of guilt and anxiety.
However, many women still choose to save their families after their husbands cheat. This is because many women cannot take on the responsibility of raising children by themselves due to practical reasons.
So it’s not a shame to save the echo in Xinyue’s eyes. Since I have chosen to forgive, why did I choose to tolerate my husband’s derailments like the first original partner? Then continue to give, endure a period of sorrow, face her husband’s second derailment and be forced to divorce?
Don’t say anything,If you can live and live, since you have wronged yourself, why not directly find a way to make men truly aware of their mistakes and never dare to cheat?
The reason why the second man dare not rekindle his love with his lover is because her wife is so powerful that once divorced or cheated, he will lose a lot of benefits.
Therefore, a part of the responsibility for a man's cheating is on the woman herself.
If you want men not to cheat for a second time, it is very simple. It is to control men’s wallets and time. Men cheat because they have money and leisure!
first can directly collect evidence of her husband's derailment, and leave a hand behind for oneself, and then use the man's anxiety and guilt to find a way to transfer the financial power of marriage to one's own hands.
There is a way to directly move it to the child’s name. If it can’t be moved, it will be spent directly on the elderly and the child. There are no complaints.
After that, women should stand on their own feet appropriately, find a way to find something for themselves, and don't all revolve around the family, they can take the opportunity to hand over the important task of raising children and the important task of supporting the elderly to men.
For example, let men pick up children, send the elderly to check their health, or put pressure on the elderly to keep men busy at work.
So they definitely don’t have the time and money to rekindle their love with their lover. If you don’t know how to solve the problem, you can follow the private message Yiyi at any time. I will give you the most professional guidance as soon as possible.
I am Yiyi, your marriage instructor.
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