Introduction
People used to be harsh on women. Even if the other half passed away, people thought that women should protect their husbands like jade and cannot marry others. But now this concept is basically gone. Everyone has the right to choose marriage. What we should do is blessing, not preventing it.
Nowadays, many single women have the idea of finding a wife after their old age, and they think that only a man can live a life by their side. Although living with a companion is not so boring, if two people can't get along, then being together is torture.
63-year-old Aunt Yun also feels that remarriage will be happy, so after meeting the right person, she starts a new life. But it didn’t take long for Aunt Yun to regret it. She cried and said: “I originally thought I could find a support to live a happy old age. Can choose to escape." Let's take a look at what kind of story happened to Aunt Yun.
Self-reporter: Aunt Yun
I am 63 years old this year. Many people think that this age is already very old and should not have the idea of remarrying. But I don't think so. I think everyone has the right to pursue happiness. As long as I like it, then I can find another companion for myself.
My husband and I don’t have a good relationship. In fact, my husband is a pretty good person and is very responsible for the marriage. He gave all the money earned to me for safekeeping, but I am still dissatisfied with him. Because I think my husband and I have no common topics. I don't like the things he likes, and he doesn't understand the things I like.
I hope he can work harder and develop in big cities. However, my husband likes the comfort of a small city and is unwilling to leave his hometown. I think we just don't agree with the three views, so I can't like him. In our marriage, my husband has always been the one who tolerated, otherwise our marriage would not last so long.
The husband left two years ago. I feel that I am still young. I don't want to spend the rest of my life alone, so I want to find a wife for myself.My son didn't understand. He felt that there was no need for me to remarry when I was too old. Most remarriage was done as a free babysitter for others. Might as well move to his house to live with him, and also be able to help take care of it.
But I don’t think so, no matter how good my children are, they can’t always take the place of my wife, and I’m also worried that I won’t get along with my daughter-in-law. After all, the two generations have different ideas and concepts. It is normal for conflicts to occur, but my son will be the one who will be embarrassed by that time. Seeing that I had made up my mind, my son didn't say anything, so I just let me consider it carefully.
Later, I met Lao Yu through friends. He is 65 years old and a bit older than me. I think this age is just right, not too big or too young, and there are common topics together. Later, after a period of time, I felt very comfortable with Lao Yu, and he took good care of my feelings. I think such a man is very nice, so I remarried him.
After comparing with Lao Yu's remarriage, I realized that my husband is a very good man. Although he is not romantic and will not coax me, but he listens to me very much and never leaves me to make a decision on my own. But old Yu is different, he has a serious male chauvinism. I have to listen to what he said. If I refute, then he will say that I am not a good wife, and my ears are whispering.
Lao Yu still treated me as a nanny, and gave me all the work at home, and he never did it himself. Although he doesn't work, but he has a lot of demands. No matter how big or small it is, he has to ask it again.
Once I went out to buy groceries without telling him, he got angry when he came back. He said that I didn't respect him, and I didn't tell him when I went out to buy food, and the food I bought was not what he liked. In fact, the vegetables and vegetables I bought that day are very nutritious and healthy, and I usually like to eat them very much. He said this because I didn't tell him before going out, and he minded it very much.
Since I married Lao Yu, I don't have a little bit of my own life anymore. I have been around Lao Yu all day long. Both Lao Yu and I especially liked ballroom dancing. I was very happy when I knew about it because I thought we could dance together as partners. When I asked Lao Yu to be my dance partner, Lao Yu said, "I will just do it myself in the future.You don't want to go anymore. It is really inappropriate for you, a married woman, to dance ballroom dancing. I can't tolerate you getting too close to other men, so you just stay at home obediently, otherwise I will be angry. "
I was really outraged when I heard this. Not only is the male chauvinism very serious, but it is also very double standard. He can dance by himself, but I can't. I am usually more like this. Talkative and good to friends. So I have made a lot of good friends, whether they are female or male friends. But after I get together with Lao Yu, he still interferes when I make friends.
He doesn’t allow me and Other men are friends. I used to have two or three male friends who talked very well. In fact, I only regarded them as good friends. Their wives knew me. But Lao Yu didn’t think so. He felt that there was no relationship between men and women. It’s pure friendship, so he asked me not to interact with male friends. I certainly can’t agree with this. I think making friends is my freedom. Even if I am my wife, I can’t interfere in this matter. After all, I didn’t say sorry. His business.
But who knows that Old Yu secretly ran into my friend's house and went to their house to make a big noise, so that my friends did not dare to interact with me. I'm really He was out of anger, but Lao Yu said, "It should be the way it should be. Although you are okay now, but after getting along for a long time, you may get in love with each other for a long time. I really don't worry, it's better for them not to deal with you now, and I don't have to worry about you doing things that are sorry for me. "
I think there should be a minimum of trust between husband and wife. If he always doesn’t believe me, then how can we get along. I’m old enough to keep me from interacting with male friends, but he has a few frequent contacts. Friends. Those women were all he met when he went to dance ballroom dancing. I also saw that Lao Yu often buys things for them, and I was very angry and asked Lao Yu.
Lao Yu explained: "I am a human being, you still Don’t understand? Since I am with you, I will be responsible for you. I can't do anything I'm sorry for you, and I and they are just ordinary friends, you shouldn't be so small. They often give me delicious food, so I should give them something.You have to try to believe me and don't always think about it. "
Do you think that a responsible wife would say such things? You are very tolerant of yourself, but I am engaged in very strict requirements. I think the requirements of old are really too much, I really do I can’t accept it. When I think that I will spend my life with him in the future, I feel very depressed. After remarrying with him, he always takes care of me. I have no freedom at all.
I regretted marrying him. I felt that after marrying him, I was many years old, and I lost a lot of weight. Later, I divorced Lao Yu. At that time, Lao Yu said a lot of bad things to me. Later, I shut up when I saw my son came to pick me up. After experiencing a remarriage, I don’t think there is any need for a woman to remarry in her old age. If you really want to find a partner for yourself, you have to get to know each other well, and don’t remarry like me. I regret it when I have a bad life.
I live by myself now, I have a house and some savings, life is no problem, as for the future things later.
written at the end
halfway couples are very difficult to make heart-to-heart. Most of them live in partnership, face and heart are at odds, calculate each other, it is difficult to regard each other as the most trusted and closest person. Don't always put the happiness of the second half of your life on the second marriage. The second marriage does not necessarily lead to a happy life, and one's own happiness must be controlled by oneself.
A person can live happily without necessarily having to find a partner for oneself. If you meet a wife with a bad intention, it is very good. It may cause a lot of trouble to one's own life, and it will be empty and empty at that time, and regret it.
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