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As the saying goes: "You should pay attention to heat when cooking, and you should pay attention to proportion."
In life, everyone is actively and passively, having relationships with others, creating intersections.
In the interpersonal communication, gradually build up his own small world.
In this process, it is very simple to be yourself. It is good to follow your heart, but being a human being is not an easy task.
In life, such a person will appear next to everyone.
They are both right and left, and they can deal with people around them well.
Speaking of him, people can't help but give a thumbs up and exclaim, this person can really "be a human".
"Being a man" is not to be your inner self, but a social science. What
emphasizes is to become someone who can associate with others in their hearts.
If you want to be a person who can make others feel comfortable, the most important thing is to "know how to measure".
This is the yardstick of interpersonal interaction, too close and too far, there will be problems.
Being a human being is the "knowledge".

02
A sense of distance is a respect for others.
For different people, everyone has their own set of psychological distance.
If the opponent touches the space within the psychological distance, people will instinctively feel a little discomfort.
reflects the same in behavior.
In the process of getting along with people, the sense of distance is the respect for each other.
respects the distance of the opponent, but also shows a kind of self-respect.
knows that he has not reached a very close position in the heart of the other party, and then consciously keeps the distance.
When meeting such a person, people often feel very happy.
is not only the joy of not being offended, but also the warmth of being respected by the other party.
has a word,It is called a "gentleman's hand", which is a manifestation of a sense of distance.
The singer , who has become popular in the past two years, pays attention to the "gentleman's hand" when he gets along with people.
When I was on the show once, because of work, a girl was responsible for helping Mao not easily hand over his mobile phone.
When picking up the phone, Mao was not easy to hold the phone carefully, for fear of touching the other's hand and offending the girl.
And there are many such examples.
In life, between close friends, you may not need to separate the sense of distance too clearly.
But also pay attention, the other party does not mind getting close, it is the other party's idea.
As far as you are concerned, you still have to pay a little attention to a certain "provision", open up some sense of distance, and respect the other person's world.
This kind of respect will make the other person feel valued.
Perhaps, we can also make the relationship between each other to a higher level.

03
If the distance is too far, it will be difficult to accept the kindness of others.
Everyone’s emotional expression has a range.
Expressing your own mind within the range of shooting can make the other party feel your own mind.
On the contrary, if it is outside the range, it will reject people who are thousands of miles away;
is very likely, and it will ruin the other party's mind.
What kind of relationship and what kind of things to do.
If two people have reached a state of mutual heart, one of them still pushes three blocks and four blocks, all are reserved.
The relationship between two people is likely to stop here.
The communication between people depends on mutual contact, rather than one-way effort or struggle.
When facing a close relationship, being close and casual is the best attitude to face her.

In everyone’s life,There will be a few;
Even if you don't frequent each other, after getting together, they are still frivolous.
Talking about each other's embarrassment, talking about the appearance of life, and confiding some emotions that are usually not for outsiders.
This kind of closeness represents the closeness between two people.
The closer you are, the closer you will be.
At this time, if you are in a sense of distance, you choose to let go, and you choose to be sad.
is equivalent to that you personally push the person who cares about each other away. After
, life will never go back to the past.
When I feel too far away;
In fact, in most cases, I set up a wall for myself.
People outside the wall want to get in, but can't get in. People inside the wall are at a loss and can only choose to stay where they are.
When it is time to approach, approach bravely.

04
See clearly the object and distinguish the scale.
In life, we often meet countless people.
Among the vast sea of people, most of us are nodding acquaintances with us.
A small part of it can be developed further, becoming friends and relatives.
is in the process of getting along with them.
Being able to notice changes, distinguish your attitude, and maintain your own standards is a sign of a person's maturity.
Being a human being is a matter of understanding.
While knowing the sense of distance, you can see the scale of progress so that you will not be in a dilemma.
For the rest of your life, when you look at the people around you, keep the three words "a sense of proportion" in your heart.
is not easy to others, and does not indulge oneself.
Regardless of speaking or doing things, in the process of "being yourself", you must also consider the people around you.
everything,You have to have your own scale, so that you will not hurt yourself and turn yourself into a nasty person.
If you don't know how to hold your feet, just stand in the other side's position and think about it.
If you encounter such treatment, what will happen will be much clearer.
May everyone be a better self.
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