Lead: This is the best age in your life. You are healthy, your loved ones are safe, and the world is stable. You can strive for what you want. It's a pity that you don't realize that because of a little thing, your mood is messed up.
Author 丨Chi Yu
Fortune comes without a couple, misfortunes never come singly.
Regarding this sentence, I see a more reliable statement: once a person encounters a blessing thing, the psychological expectation will be higher and the requirements for blessing will be higher, so it is difficult to feel Another similar blessing brings you a feeling of happiness. Once disaster strikes, people's emotions are easily tranced, and their feelings are more sensitive to disasters, and they are more likely to cause other chain disasters. Even if you usually think that it is not a disaster, you will feel it is a disaster.
Therefore, it is important to have a good and healthy mentality.
For the same thing, when you stand from different positions and angles, you may have completely opposite views. Sometimes happiness and anger are not absolutely opposites, but can exist at the same time.
It’s just a change of angle.
For example, in the first two years, many friends around me were taking the exams for civil servants or public institutions, and two of them had different mentalities.I was very impressed.
They were interviewed once, but they were all eliminated.
A friend who faced this result was very depressed. During that time, she often frowned, sighed, and asked me to go out for a drink. Because in her opinion, she has been preparing very hard, and the written test is also the first, but she did not expect the final interview to turn the second place back against the wind, and she became the one eliminated.
She really couldn't think about it. She thought that she was too bad luck. God was against her, she didn't want to work at work, and because she made a wrong form, she didn't check it out and handed it in. Finally, she was criticized by her boss. During that time, in her words, it was extremely moldy.
Even in my opinion, she is already very good. She was a schoolmaster when she was studying, and she did a lot of questions. Moreover, it was the first time for her to get such results. It is really rare. As long as you focus on cultivating your interview skills, you will definitely be able to pass it next time.
But she can't see these, she cares too much about her own gains and losses, just staring at the final result, as long as the result is unsatisfactory, she will start to have an unbalanced mentality. She has always been of this kind of character, rather pessimistic, and always sees the bad side when looking at things.
At the same time, I turned a blind eye to what I already had.
And another friend of mine, she is already taking the third exam. She also went to the interview that time and was also removed. But her thoughts are: nearly entered the interview two times before,I finally entered this time. Although I didn't succeed, I also gained experience and kept working hard.
She was very happy, and she invited a few friends to have a meal together to celebrate that she was in the interview, which caused everyone to ridicule: "I don’t know, I thought you were already admitted."
What do you think? This world, what kind of color this world has. Sunny or rainy days, sometimes not determined by the weather, but caused by the mentality. People live in this world, and their hearts are relieved, and good luck will come.
Only when you have a heart, you can see the beauty of this world, you can find a bit of comfort in the difficulties, and you can face all the changes in your life with a positive and optimistic attitude.
It’s just that the word wide-hearted may be simple to say, but if you return to real life, it is difficult to do it. A person with a bad mentality can affect his mood with just one thing, and then trigger the next series of butterfly effect .
Life has both good times and bad times. It is impossible to be in adversity everywhere; there are peaks and valleys in life, and it is impossible to have valleys everywhere.
Shallow people can only see adversity and troughs, but take all good times and peaks for granted, and do not understand contentment. In the face of setbacks, if you only complain and hate, then you are destined to have a bad life.You will find countless troubles following you all the time. Actually, it was not that they chose you, but you caused their existence.
Roman Roland said: Only turning the mood of complaining about the environment into an upward force is the guarantee of success.
You have to believe that any situation in life, good or bad, will ultimately be affected by your own attitude. Some people who are troubled all day do not really have a big problem, but depend on the inner world of the troubler, how to define this matter.
In my life, I know an aunt. She is more than 50 years old this year, and she has had a hard life in her life. It's a worrying life. She often talks about her hard work outside, but after listening to it a lot, I feel that her mentality has led to her current situation.
She is a worrisome person. She thinks very far. Many things start to presuppose the consequences before they happen, and the consequences are bad. then puts the pressure on herself from the things that have not happened Body. In this way, she is so easy to be surprised.
She sees the problem,Only negative effects can be seen. For example, when her son bought a house, she was not happy because of the incident, but worried that the mortgage would have to be repaid for 30 years. She often talked about this matter, worried that her son's life would be affected in the future, and so on. She gets worried when she talks about these things. For so many years, she is really a person who is easy to worry, so that she can tell by her face. The corners of her eyes are drooping, and the wrinkles on her face are very serious. The expression of the whole person seems to be tight all the time, without the calmness and tranquility that this age should have.
I discovered from this aunt that there is a certain truth to the so-called "being born from the heart". Just like Zhou Guoping said, certain expressions and behavior habits that people have for a long time, over time, will eventually form a specific symbol on the face.
This aunt's life is really so bad?
No. In the eyes of outsiders, her two children worked hard and were filial to her. They both bought a car and did not have a house. They did not ask their adults to pay a penny. Her marriage is also generally happier, and she has a pension when she gets old. Although she doesn't have much money, she has a worry-free life.
Actually, many of her peers envy her. However, the aunt couldn't see this, her heart was always anxious about some non-existent things, and her life was not calm and happy enough.
People who are broad-minded and contented people at the same time are more likely to discover the beauty in the details of life. And the more so, the easier it is for good luck to accompany. The reverse is also true, the worse the mentality, the more bad luck will follow.
I hope you don't do the latter.
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