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Like things you don’t like to eat, you will ignore them when you put them in front of you. That’s because you are selective. If there is only one thing to choose from, you can either eat it or starve to death, even if it has deteriorated, you will find it so precious.
The same is true in relationships. The reason why you are not cared or loved is because the other person is selective and conditions determine his thoughts. When he compares you with others , the result must be worthless. Therefore, we must learn to be flexible and don't give the other party too many opportunities and choices. To describe it in exaggerated terms, "I have never seen a beggar say what he wants to eat when he is begging because he is not qualified."
There are real examples in front of us. It is necessary to deal with feelings, and to be rewarded after giving, rather than expecting. It is of course a good phenomenon that your kindness can be understood and responded by the other party, but if your efforts are placed on a person who does not understand the world, it is equivalent to giving him a sharp knife, and ultimately hurting you a little bit.
Zhang Li and her husband have been married for three years, and when they come home from get off work every day, Zhang Li takes care of everything at home. Apart from going to work, returning home is countless housework.
If the bulb is broken, replace it by yourself.The plug of the range hood was burned to pick it up by himself, and the child had a fever and took it to the hospital by himself. Her husband is exactly the same as the furnishings. Zhang Li always feels that her dedication can influence her husband, but she doesn't know her husband does not treat him as a human being, and chats with other opposite sexes behind her back into the night.
The relationship between them has become unbalanced, and the humbler the effort, the cheaper it is subconsciously. It is difficult to influence a person who pretends to be asleep when the heart is taken out. Therefore, in the face of a cold person, you must have something to ask for. If you do not ask and remain silent, this kind of injury will trample on the most basic dignity of human nature.
Whether the stone can cover the heat or not, at least the first point is to cover it, even if the final result is not satisfactory, we will not leave any regrets. "Don't ask for it, always compromise", this is the core key point not to be cherished.
If the other party does not change, you must change yourself. You may not be able to change the other party's behavior for a while, but your own changes will definitely affect the other party's thinking.
The common problem of people is that they don’t cherish when they have it, and they will regret it when they lose it. The attitude of disapproving is that he feels he has to. However, the moment I left, I discovered that people who had thought that there was nothing wrong with it seemed so important!
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