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When every woman first gets married, she has various expectations for marriage. Only when she really gets married she realizes that her life is very different from what she imagined.
The man who says he loves you before marriage may change after marriage; the man who is patient with you before marriage, and will coax you in everything, may think that you are immature, unreasonable, or arrogant.
Make a lot of guarantees before getting married, saying that you will take care of your well-rounded man in the future. It is also possible that when you have a conflict with your mother-in-law, you will feel that it is your own fault.
The incomprehensible sense of loneliness, the sense of isolation as an outsider, will destroy all your confidence and expectations in marriage, and it is more likely to make you discouraged and completely desperate.
The leaves do not turn yellow in a day, and the heart does not suddenly become cold. The woman who finally filed for a divorce often saves enough and is disappointed. Even if she is unwilling or unwilling to give up, she will feel compelled.
Because at this time, she is really burdened, and if she squanders like this, there will only be endless pain.
Then after the divorce, how will a woman feel when she sees her ex-husband again? Will there be no waves, and will never be influenced by him again?
From your answer to this question, you can tell whether you really feel relieved and let it go.
Once a reader commented that he once loved a man,Loved for ten years, but divorced in the third year after marriage. She could not accept the other party’s betrayal and felt that the relationship was tainted. No matter how he apologized, she could not reduce the harm she caused to herself, and she could no longer pretend that nothing had happened, and then interact with him. The broken mirror is reunited.
After separation, she felt that she would never be able to get out of this relationship, but she did not expect that after hearing his message two years later, she did not have a wave in her heart.
doesn't hurt at all, and doesn't care at all. At that moment, she suddenly realized that a person's strength can exceed her imagination, and she can walk such a long way with her teeth and bowed head.
It turns out that some people are really not as important as they think. You think you can't let go, but you can let go. You are simply unwilling.
In the world of adults, they can always be very independent. No one can live without who leaves.
Just like this reader, she finally let go of herself and let go of the obsessions in her heart. Later, she married and had children and became a mother of two children. Recalling those things in the past, she only felt very Far away, as if it has nothing to do with me.
Later, when she met her ex-husband, she didn't feel anything anymore, just like many strangers on the road, her heart was like water and no waves.
It turned out that it’s really not that difficult to put someone down. It only needs to do three words. These three words are: no contact.
when you are not in touch,Although you will miss it too, but you will focus on yourself and do your own things. When you know how to manage your own life, no longer depend on whom or count on, your life will be a different story.
In the TV series " my first half of my life ", the divorced Luo Zijun had an inner monologue, she said: , a person who used to "p0 " Feelings and dependence are a process of gradual reduction, but later I discovered that it disappeared suddenly at a certain moment, or a certain moment. That feeling is like a long echo, which is suddenly cut off, and everything comes to an abrupt end. . Then you know that you completely withdrew from your previous life and started a new life without him."
Before the divorce, Luo Zijun was a carefree full-time wife, she thought she had. The love of a man is guaranteed in her life. Later she discovered that the love of a man has no shelf life, and all of this is unreliable.
So, she decided to tear her face with him and fight for the custody of the family property and children.
At that moment, she saw through the man's hypocritical face, and completely no longer had any hope.
When a woman knows how to live for herself, she will often burst out with a force of life toward death. This force will let her say goodbye to the past slowly, and then welcome a new life with a new attitude .
If you want to put aside a person completely, it is enough not to contact you.
broke contact with someone,You will focus more on yourself, and you will no longer think about how to live without him, because at this moment, you are living a life without him.
Moreover, you are much stronger than you think. You are not really unable to live. You are just a bit more silent than usual. Although your heart is painful, you know that life is going to be easy.
If you want to put him down completely, then cut off the contact first, don't let him influence you, and live your life well.
I don’t love it anymore. No matter what you do, you won’t be able to attract his attention, let alone make him sad because of it. Rather than wasting time on someone who is not worthy, it is better to let go of it as soon as possible.
We can rely on for the rest of our lives, but only ourselves.
When we were young, we haven't experienced so many things. We always have high expectations for love. We always feel that the best destination in this life is to find someone who loves ourselves.
But in fact, marriage is not your eternal safe haven, and the love of a man is not the source of your sense of security. After all, in this life, the person who can really rely on is only oneself.
When you know how to live for yourself, when you firmly grasp the dominance of life, and when you no longer have any expectations for interpersonal relationships, you will find that you can live better on your own rise.
This life is not long, and I hope all women can face every encounter and parting calmly.
cherish if you get it, let it go if you lose it, so you can afford it and let it go, and you can have a free and happy life.
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