At the beginning of the marriage, I was righteous, and I was also very "viable". He thinks that most men want face and are responsible, and should give him some face in everything, and can't control too much. But what happened after that really refreshed my understanding of men time and time again, and he put his "acceptance" to the fullest.
For the first time , after we were married, he paid his salary for the first time and said that he would give it to me. I said that the man has no money in his hands and is not decent. Let him keep it by himself.
Bottom Wallet
I was naive to think that our unit usually takes care of food and housing, and the living is relatively biased, and there is no daily expenses. If you leave it, he should not spend it, and Men should have a sense of responsibility after they get married, and there is no need to control men too much.
After a month, I also paid my salary. I want to use the money of two people to help his family pay off the foreign debt. ). In the end, he told me that he had spent it, and he spent one month of his salary for three months.
For the second time , we just raised 30,000 housing provident fund, and I paid another three months' salary. I said to pay back their family's debt (or the 200,000 yuan). Last time I saw their relatives talking hard to hear, and it was indeed wrong to borrow the money, so he agreed. As soon as I sent the money to him on the front foot, he said that he would not pay it back and he wanted to keep it for himself.
Never learn to be thrifty
People say that children from poor families are in their homes early, and their family is rural. I think he will be as economical as I am and will not spend too much time. At the very least, he should help first The family paid off the foreign debt, but that was just my wishful thinking.
It turns out that my husband is like a child who has not grown up and has no sense of responsibility at all.
As long as you say that you will keep his salary this month, then you will be squandered; if you just say to help their family pay off the foreign debt, he will really let you pay it; if you just say that the child needs to bring his own, then he will never interfere ; You just say that being a parent is not easy, and he will always stand by his parents .
Five years of marriage told me that a man has no bottom line at all. If you are so good that you have no reservations, he will dare to be bad and unscrupulous.
Regret
If I didn't want to be so "virtuous" at the beginning, I would immediately take the financial power into my hands after marriage; resolutely not help their family pay off their foreign debts; resolutely not help their parents. Is our current relationship not so bad? He wouldn't be so righteous and brave "shameless"!
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