I am Xiaowen. Today I want to talk about the stories of my parents. I have witnessed their life-long grievances. These family affairs are pressing on my heart like a dark cloud, making my life full of gray.
01
My father is the smallest in my grandfather's house. There are 4 older brothers and 5 sons in the family. You can imagine how poor such a rural family is.
My grandfather grows several acres of sorghum every year. He cuts off the sorghum ears and throws the sorghum out of the ears one at a time. Grandpa is very skillful. He uses these empty sorghum ears to tie them into a broom and get it. Sold at the bazaar.
Grandpa relied on farming and selling brooms to feed his family, but only to maintain food and clothing.
Because of poverty, my father was bullied in school since he was a child. He could only study hard and earn his dignity by relying on the test papers with full marks.
My dad was the first person in the village to go to college. My grandfather bought a bunch of firecrackers and hung on the old locust tree at the door. The loud firecrackers made the whole family straighten up in front of the villagers.
When receiving the admission notice, my dad sat alone on the mountain behind the village and cried a lot. The grievances and depression brought about by poverty for many years disappeared before the gilded university admission notice was written. NS!
02
After graduating from university, at that time, the country assigned jobs, and my father got his wish and went to work in a public institution.
Although my father has a great college degree and a good job, he still encountered many obstacles when looking for someone.
At that time, my father wanted to find a girl who also worked in a public institution. However, due to poor family conditions, the girls in the office did not like her father at all.
In desperation, my dad had to find a girl from a village in the city, who worked in a factory after graduating from junior high school. That girl is my mother.
They rented two private houses and gave birth to me there.Although my dad and my mom had a hard time, they were still happy.
03
I don't know when there was a gap between my dad and my mom. It should be because my dad disliked my mom for not having a job.
The dual-career family in his unit is rich in life, but my dad often laughs at himself by saying that he is dragging and hanging, which means that he dragged me and my mother to work hard, and it was our wife and my wife that lowered his quality of life.
Since I can remember, there have been constant quarrels at home. When I was 8 years old, my dad had an affair with a female neighbor of his old home.
The woman is two years younger than my dad. My dad went back to her hometown and I don't know how they two got together.
During that time, my dad often ran to the old house and still lived in the old house. My mother felt weird, so she followed, and found my dad at that female neighbor's house.
The husband of the female neighbor works out of town all year round and rarely comes back. My mother yelled at them and tore my dad.
Since then, there will be no peace in my home, there will be three or nine big quarrels, and small quarrels every day.
My dad wants to divorce, but my mother said that her marriage can only be widowed, and there is no word for divorce.
Actually, my mother told me many times in private that she can't do without my dad because of her feelings, she can't do without my dad's salary.
My mother never went to work after getting married. She just wanted to hold my dad's salary firmly. This is his guarantee for the rest of his life.
04
When I was in the second year of junior high, my dad and a female classmate of her became close again.
I have seen that aunt, who is very beautiful, with short hair, long body and fashionable dress. After school that afternoon, my dad followed me, and my aunt invited us to dinner.
Auntie ordered several expensive dishes for me, all of which are my favorite. After the meal, the aunt took me to the supermarket to buy a set of clothes and a pair of travel shoes.
My dad told me not to tell my mother that my aunt bought the clothes, so I don't want to talk too much and take care of these messy things. I just want to grow up quickly,Leave this home.
However, there is no one who doesn't wet shoes when walking along the river. Mom knows about the father and aunt. There is no accident. It is another war of turmoil.
I persuaded my mother to divorce. I said that my father's heart was not with you a long time ago, but my mother still said that, if you want to be separated, unless you are widowed.
That beautiful aunt is divorced. I heard that she waited for her father for several years, and finally went to another place lonely.
05
In my sophomore year in high school, my father had a moth again. Due to the cold war for many years, the affection between the parents has disappeared.
I was caught between them, as sad as eating raw rice every day.
Although my parents have a bad relationship, they love me very much. My father’s monthly wages were basically used up by my mother under the banner of me.
Mother said viciously, leaving him penniless, to see how to find a woman.
But my mother miscalculated. This time my dad met a woman who was willing to post him upside down.
This woman is widowed and from a well-off family. She often buys all kinds of high-end clothes for my dad, and even promised that if my dad gets divorced, she will immediately give him a high-quality Mercedes-Benz.
I don't know if my dad really fell in love with this woman or was ruined by Mercedes-Benz, he is determined to divorce this time.
My mother panicked, she knew she had encountered a strong opponent outside this time. I heard that that woman is not only beautiful but also very capable, and there are several factories in her family.
However, in the panic, my mother still found Dinghai Shenzhen, and that was her daughter. My mother knows that my daughter is my dad’s weakness.
06
My mom started to use me as a bargaining chip to threaten my dad. She locked me at home and prevented me from going to school.
I want to go to school, I want to completely escape from this devastated home. But my mother sat at the door looking at me with enthusiasm. She said categorically that as long as your dad dares to divorce, I will let you stay at home forever.
I cried and called my dad to get him back quickly,I said I want to go to school, I must go to school.
Finally, my dad compromised and never dared to say divorce anymore. My mother defeated my dad again and said triumphantly and fiercely to me: "Xiaowen, when your dad gets old, I will treat him well!" I don't want to stay for a minute.
I studied desperately and finally went to a key university in the provincial capital. I didn't disappoint myself. The afternoon I received the admission notice, I hid in my room and cried.
When I entered university, my mother didn’t let me take advantage of me. Originally, my dad gave me two thousand dollars a month enough for living expenses, but my mom only asked me to ask for four thousand, and she said the other two thousand were for her. .
Actually, my dad’s monthly salary is only more than 6,000. He gives me 4,000. How much can I do with the remaining 2,000? I suddenly felt sorry for my dad.
07
After graduating from university, I did not return to the county seat. I went to work in the provincial capital. Soon after, I married a colleague who was very poor, but he gave me an endless sense of security and warm love.
I rarely go back. With the birth and growth of my children, I am very busy, and I go back to see my parents once a year. The parents are getting old and don't have the energy to divorce anymore.
My dad's body is getting weaker day by day, but my mom is still alive and well. Every time I went back, my dad complained to me, saying that my mom had taken the salary card, but my mom didn't cook for him at all.
I persuaded my mother to cook well. My dad’s pension is six to seven thousand a month. Why not buy vegetables and cook?
But my mother said, I just finished treating him this time, and his hardship is still to come.
08
One day, my dad called me and asked me to come back quickly. He was sick and hospitalized.
When I rushed to the hospital, there was only one nurse who was taking care of my dad. My mom even hired a nurse for my dad and went on a trip.
Before leaving, my mother also asked the nurse to buy three big buns in the cafeteria for three meals a day. Don't even buy porridge.
I bought various nutritional products for my dad,I also gave it to the nurses, and gave my dad's living expenses to the nurses. Ask him to help me buy nutritious meals for my dad.
On the way back to the provincial city, I shed tears quietly. Although my dad made a lot of mistakes when he was young, he is my dad after all, and his blood is thicker than water. Besides, he has always loved me. It's so bleak, I'm very sad.
I don’t comment on the matter between my parents. Dad did make a mistake, but my mother’s actions were also uncomfortable. In this life, she firmly controlled my dad’s salary and controlled the marriage, but I knew she had a good life. not good.
What should you do if you meet such parents? Welcome everyone to tell me in the comment area.
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