Mr. Kim is unhappy again.
Facing the loneliness and depression of middle-aged men, what else can I do besides showing sympathy for my old wife? Yayi analyzes the reason is ABCDE. However, man, you know, never admit the real reason. He insisted that it was a comprehensive reason, and then threw the pot to Yayi in frustration.
You know, it's no different from a kid's house-Mom, they don't play with me anymore. Mom, I'm the only one at the end of the game, and I'm boring...
Yes, I will treat him in his own way.
I used Mr. Jin to deal with me on weekdays, quoting the classics. Dear, everyone was asleep when he was in K\Xi\Ma\Niyuan, was he alone?
Mr. Jin does not say anything, on behalf of yes.
billion bold. Look at him when he was alone, what did the woman next to him do? Are you comforting? Have you cited the Scriptures? Did you massage him? Is it relieved for him... It seems that except for one to wash his feet with perfumed ointment,The other women cried after he suffered and died!
Mr. Jin's eyes widened, can you comfort me so much?
I said, yes. I am going to give you some money (just treat it as a balm). If you suffer and your memorial meeting, I will cry hard.
Really? Yayi, are you so cruel?
Yes, do nothing.
When my husband is depressed, directly reach out to solve the problem that irritates him? (Kill the person who angered her husband?) Yayi couldn't do this kind of thing.
Generally speaking, middle-aged men are lonely (hypocritical), want to hug, want to talk, bottleneck, middle-aged crisis, workplace ceiling, trouble...Wife listen Enough. You can listen with tears in front of a man. The higher the acting, the better, and the less nonsense the better.
Seeing Yayi’s ruthlessness, Mr. Jin sighed.Go and seek the antidote yourself. This is the wisdom of middle-aged women to rule by doing nothing. Then Yayi turned on the phone and saw a question from a sister:
, which is one of the characteristics of Chinese women in span. On this basis, walk with the wind and overcome obstacles.
When I got married, I always wanted to be the woman of the older brother. I always feel that when I am in love, I should be taken care of all the time, and it should be for the rest of my life. After having a baby, Yayi wanted to open up, and being a man's eldest sister is also quite good: from what a man must have to any man, on the surface, I have let go of a man, in fact, Yayi has let it go. Own.
- First of all, Yayi does not expect men to have any kind of head. Every unit has several shining husbands. Kindness, gentleness and balanced development of EQ career. Girls all want to be such a "big brother's woman", right? Yayi later discovered that the "big brother's woman" soon became a yellow-faced woman. Those women who have married "little brothers" are more and more moisturized and full of vibes. A man is such a creature: the more you count on him, he will let you down everywhere; if you don't count on him, he will surprise you everywhere. To be grateful for all things and be tolerant of all things to the man in his family is actually to help him grow. When he is lonely and weak, he can act like a little boy and give you a crush. And me? When you are free, listen to you, and when you are not free, find the antidote yourself.
- Next,Don't expect what your husband will do to you.
I often tell myself: Anyway, there have been no great people or elites in our family for several generations. The important task of cultivating elites will not fall on my men. I have only one goal: to prevent my daughter-in-law from pointing to my nose and scolding me in the future, that is enough.
Wife’s help to her husband must have a limit-this limit is, try not to treat him as an independent individual + my leader . When the leader of your unit comes and whispers to you, do you want to make a decision for him? Of course not, you just listen in silence, and then do your job well.
As a wife, like the most subordinate, she must know how to listen and not hear, do nothing, and transcend the unhappiness caused by all kinds of "excessive feelings", and make yourself pleasing to the eye and live a full life. Chivalrous and immortal.
Husbands and wives are complementary-if the husband is to save the soul, help the world, and the common people, the wife will first wonder how to understand the baby's homework. If my husband breaks down and becomes weak at every turn, I can only be grateful and praise! Then, work hard and live as a "big sister" who covers the family and fully supports her husband.
Think about my Mr. Jin always breaking down,There is nothing wrong with it. If Yayi does not marry or marries a perfect husband, in the relationship between the sexes, I will be an eternal little princess, and I will never understand what a true yoke is.
So back to this little sister's question- What if a girl marries a person with a much lower education level? Can a girl who graduated with a Ph.D. and a boy who have not finished junior high school get married?
There are also successful people who graduated from elementary school.
The key is, is he inferior? Is the character sunny? Do you have an attitude of acceptance when facing new things? How did he react to frustration and contempt of your family? Is he shy of starting a business from scratch? How does he react when he is depressed or irritated by others?
education, of course, can help you screen out many men. But Yayi feels that happiness after marriage is actually a variable. Marriage is sometimes a battle of one person and the cultivation of one person; but more often, it is the running-in of two people and the growth of two people.
If you are going to marry a brother who is worse than you in all aspects, you have to be prepared to be your elder brother.Really indomitable-give money as you say it, you can tolerate everything, do not be surprised, and endure to the end...
When you don’t know what this kind of marriage really means, look around. In the world of the Gentiles, who didn't come and go naked, leaving the land white and clean? Who is not at work again and gritted teeth? Who is not lonely and lonely but still alive? But our marriage is hopeful and glorious. The sufferings we carry in marriage can bear flowers.
Marriage is flat, the greater the hope, the greater the disappointment. With proper pessimism about marriage, it is easier to live a good life.
More and more young people are full of grievances in their marriages, because they default that marriage is two people together, happier than one.
In fact, marriages with happy superimposition are rare.
In marriage, it is easier to be happy if you have a "century-old store mentality" of losing 20 years before making a profit. You know that marriage is two sinners, and everyone is making do. The difference is everyone's tolerance for improvisation, and whether they have firm beliefs and a grasp of eternity to hedge against disappointment in marriage.
So,After some chatting, my female readers suddenly became enlightened.
I have always persuaded girls not to take their own way of salvation, because everyone has their own way of salvation.
When a man is lonely and weak, cry and look for your empathy. When you are in a good mood, you can put on a dress. If you are in a bad mood, leave him alone and observe him. Examine him.
man, do you want to be a corpse? Or do you continue to move forward with a heavy load after your emotions are released? Like Mr. Jin in my family, depressed and depressed, the housework is still to be done, and the responsibility is still to be borne. In fact, in the process of making an emotional public account, I met many readers of the same paragraph as Mr. Jin. They encouraged me and used their own experiences to help me understand Mr. Jin better. They shepherded me and made my life broader. As shown in the picture below:
The experience of so many readers getting out of Mr. depression and getting more and more relaxed has made me face Jin.
Are you unhappy? Are you feeling lonely? ——Yeah, I will hug you at most, beg for you, bless you, that’s all, that’s enough. you,What you have to face is the master of your life, the one who is responsible for you, cleans up the mess for you, and opens a new path for you, not me! not me! not me!
I, as your subordinate, have a lot of practical work to do, enjoy the life of birds and flowers, and shoulder the burden of educating future generations, so ah, I have to cherish my life and live well Woolen cloth.
When the husband is really in a bad mood, I would suggest that he be alone for a while, and separate the sadness and depression from the family.
However, when he figured it out, won, and walked out of the emotional hole, I must see him again with a smile on my face, not revealing the shortcomings, not pursuing them, just grateful with him. Click on a ‘watching’ and we will learn together.
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