My grandma was born in a rural village in Jiaodong.
It is a big village with very good feng shui, and Qianqing has paid off many famous people. My grandma's grandfather is a scholar, and a leading monument was erected on the grave after her death.
I still remember the first time I went back with my grandma when I was a child. There was an unknown river at the entrance of the village. The water was clear but never deep. In the rainy season, when the water rises, my grandmother's brother, my uncle, took me to the river to draw a net. Pull up from both sides of the river, and leave a bamboo dustpan in the middle of the river to block the dustpan.
There are no big fish in the river, but the river flows by, and those small fish that hit the net but can't get past run to the middle, and then fall into the dustpan. The river water slipped along the cracks in the dustpan.
This is an ancient and wise fishing method for my city doll. Although the small fishes are no more than finger lengths, they are deep-fried with peanuts squeezed from the village. People want to get the second one before they can swallow it.
Master Uncle was already an old man in sixties, but different from the casual and raunchy of the farmers, he always put on a clean old sweater after work, the mud on the shoes was also cleaned, and the hair was combed meticulously. Make a pot of tea or pour a pot of white wine, and spend the afternoon slowly with peanuts on the kangtou. Sometimes I bring my glasses and take out a book to read.
The picture comes from the Internet, not the protagonist in the text.
At this time, the grandmother and uncle usually embroider or accept the sole of the shoe. Although it was in the 90s and the commodity economy had developed rapidly, they still liked to do something by themselves.
Grandma and Uncle don't talk often. I only remember that they occasionally looked at each other and smiled, and then went to do something else separately. The two people sat on the kang like this, and lived together day by day.
Thinking about this after 20 years is really incredible. Modern people always feel that the money is not enough, the time is not enough, and the husband and wife know how to "raise the case with eyebrows", and they are busy with life every day. This is the imprint of the times on us. But at that time, the two old couples facing each other in the quiet time,This is my initial impression of the uncle and the uncle's grandmother.
When I first came to life, I began to think that it was the most beautiful love. When everyone is yearning for farming and studying, everyone envy each other, it should be the most beautiful love in the world. But from what my grandmother told me, it was actually quite a lot of twists and turns for this old couple to get together.
The following is the love story of my uncle's master and uncle's grandmother.
The gifted man and the treasurer
The uncle was born in the 1920s. He was enlightened in a private school when he was young. Later he entered the new education system and read high school. He was able to write good characters until he was in his 80s. Many people in the village asked him to write couplets with fruit snacks.
The uncle is the eldest son of the family, and his grandfather is a person with ink in his stomach, so he is very concerned about the cultivation of this eldest grandson. The uncle master is also upright, and he was very good when he was in a private school. Although his father died early, his uncles and uncles left their homes early. As a teenager, he took a small hoe to work during the day and read and calligraphy at night.
Later, his grandfather took the charge and sent him to a middle school in the county, but because the orphans and widows could not afford the expensive tuition and living expenses, they did not continue their studies until the high school.
That year, the uncle should be less than 20 years old. In order to subsidize the family, I decided to find a job. So in Yantai, which is more than a hundred kilometers away from home, now Yantai is near Dahaiyang Road in Zhifu District and found a netzhuang as a buddy.
The seaside of Zhifu District, Yantai in the 1930s
The so-called "Net Zhuangzi" is actually a shop that specializes in selling all kinds of fishing nets.
The boss is a local. He started from scratch when he was young and only had one daughter. The boss was getting older, and it was not popular for women to show up on the counter at that time, so he paid great attention to hiring a man. It is said that before the uncle, he has seen many buddies, but they are all unsightly.
The uncle is a bookish, kind-faced, and doesn't talk much, but he laughs first when he sees people. The whole body is gentle and elegant, and speaks appropriately. The “buddy” of the old high school student was indeed aggrieved, but the boss gave him a glance.Willing to pay more money every month and take care of food and housing.
The uncle became the man of the netzhuang. The boss trusted him for a long time, and even asked him to settle the accounts every day.
What kind of person is the daughter of the shopkeeper, because my grandma has never seen it, so she didn't tell me in detail. But I guess it should be a very classical beauty, perhaps with a pair of small feet, with the sweetness and elegance unique to Jiaodong women. Or maybe she is a young lady with graceful cheongsam and curly hair.
It can be imagined that it may be a bowl of noodles that was occasionally delivered to the counter for the back kitchen, or maybe it was a buddy who entered the inner hall and the shopkeeper. That inadvertent glance made the two people embracing the deer and throbbing. .
The shopkeeper saw the signs and felt that the young man could be entrusted for life. Not only did he have no objection, but he also entrusted his daughter to inherit the family business.
In short, the uncle did not come back during the Chinese New Year.
At that time, the new ideas have slowly extended. "Free love" may be a new word, but it is not a strange word. The uncle and the treasurer's daughter should belong to this kind of natural love, but this kind of love is only in estrus, but only in courtesy. In that turbulent era, it was not easy to be able to protect a peaceful life in the chaos and to find a reliable person!
If nothing happens later, the uncle may stay in Yantai, get married and have children, inherit the business of the shopkeeper Netzhuang, and become a refined businessman. But this is not always the case.
The emergence of the "destined goddess", the two grandparents battled wits and courage
One day, a man from the village came to Yantai, and by the way, he gave the clothes and socks entrusted by the family to the uncle and master. That person saw his uncle's life well in the online shop, and learned about the close relationship between his uncle and the shopkeeper in small chats. After returning to the village, people naturally want to inform the uncle's house.
"The shopkeeper should have taken a fancy to your boss and intends to keep him with him as the old-age son-in-law.Please okay you guys. "
The words are full of envy.
Walking out of the village and staying in the city, that should be the dream of families who have been farmers for generations. Even our parents born in the 70s and 80s have their children It is a matter of honor and pride to be able to go to university in the city and find a job.
Unfortunately, not everyone is like this, at least the uncle’s grandfather is not like this.
Uncle is the eldest grandson of his grandfather and is inherited by blood. There is an indelible mission in this respect. What's more, there is still a widowed mother in the family, and the younger siblings are young. If he really does not return, what will the family members do?
Grandpa made a decisive decision: Tell his grandson a marriage.
The uncle at the time The master has four siblings, in addition to his grandmother, there are two younger brothers. But the two younger brothers are still young, and the grandmother, as the closest sister to the uncle's uncle, became the person in charge of the first stage of choosing a new daughter-in-law for the uncle's uncle. After the grandma’s level, the parents came to see it.
Grandma said that the girls of the right age in the surrounding villages all watched it. There are farmers who are in charge of farm work inside and outside, and there are also first-class embroidery workers who will do well with bedding.
I don’t think I’m the same as my uncle. I finally fell in love with a girl at a cow-raising house. When I first saw her, she combed her hair without messing up, and was feeding the cows with fodder. I saw someone, She just smiled and nodded, then lowered her head to continue to work. The girl’s eyes were clean and clear, and although she didn’t look like a supernatural kind, she was quite comfortable. With a smile and two pear vortexes, grandma couldn’t help it. Look at it a few more times.
Grandma went home and told her elders, it’s just this girl.
Grandma herself was just a girl of seventeen or eighteen years old that year. With a pair of eyes and her understanding of her brother, she So I decided on a new daughter-in-law, that is, my future uncle and grandmother.
When the elders come to see each other again, they are also satisfied at the first glance. The two families have agreed on the old principle, and the appointment is made, and the day is set.
The picture comes from the Internet and has nothing to do with the protagonist in the article.Said that the new wife has been decided, so that he must be home before the sixth day of June , because that day is a wedding.
Although the uncle has received a new-style education, in that era when the old and the new were replaced, the words of the parents' order of the matchmaker were still natural. In addition, the uncle has always been filial, and it won't work if he doesn't go back. This end is still worried about the girl who is in free love. The bride on the other end has almost lifted the door. After two difficulties, he decided to go back.
But when he went back, he thought, if he went back one day later than the wedding, he would say that the road was delayed. If you miss the good day, you can't get married, and the elders will probably only give up temporarily.
On the seventh day of June, the uncle finally returned home.
To his surprise, there are no weddings at home and everything is business as usual. Grandpa looked at him standing at the door with a cane and smiled: I know your kid will not come back on time. The wedding is on the ninth day of June, so let's get married at home with peace of mind.
Sure enough, the ginger is still old and spicy. The uncle master knew that he had been "calculated" by his grandfather, so he said that he was all in Yantai and had to go back to get it.
At that time, the conditions at home were not very good, so the bedding was soft and it didn't last for a long time. Dismantling the old bedding and replacing it with a red quilt is a happy quilt. But it took a few more days to come and go, he wanted to escape again.
Grandma is also the main attacker of this marriage. As a seventeen or eighteen-year-old girl, the dowry bedding is ready at home. Since my brother doesn't have one, I can't just wait for the bride's house to deliver the old quilt. So I told my mother to take out the set that I had prepared for the future.
With twists and turns, this wedding finally became.
The best love is to accompany you to listen to the years
Yantai in that cabin is forever, and the 19-year-old bride in this cabin is carried into the door by a little red donkey.
presumably before lifting the hijab,The uncle should be very worried. The people sitting on the bed with the red candles, I don’t know what they look like, what their temperament is, whether they will live in the future...
and lifted the hijab It must be a pleasant surprise afterwards. Because Shili Baxiang is afraid it will be difficult to find such a talented daughter's home.
The bride smiled shyly, and the bridegroom felt that his heart was suddenly full, no regrets.
still pictures, has nothing to do with the protagonist in the text
the two people stay together for a lifetime. Through the disaster years, through the turbulence, through the green years, through the bits and pieces of happiness or bitterness in life.
"Between the world of life, if the white horse crosses the gap, it will suddenly be over."
The first time I heard this sentence of Zhuangzi, I heard it from the uncle's words. This may be his perception of life.
My uncle and my uncle gave birth to three sons and a daughter, but unfortunately the daughter had cerebral inflammation at a young age, and was unable to treat it at that time, leaving her disabled for life. Not only can I not live normally, but I also need someone to take care of me when I eat and walk.
and his three sons got married and went to live in another yard. The uncle and the uncle's grandmother took care of this daughter together in the old yard with the architectural style of the late Qing Dynasty. Until one of them passed away, and then the other also passed away.
The life of the uncle and the uncle and grandma is not something that my junior has the opportunity to "snoop". Grandma also went to live with her grandfather after marrying, so she never knew.
But when I was eighteen, I went back to visit my uncle and the others for my grandma. From the words of my uncle, I learned that the quiet but firm love story began in the 1930s.
Banyu Mountain People
I had just grown up that year, but I had already experienced the first failed relationship.
It was a silly love, but it was clearly lost. When I was young, people's vision and heart were not opened, so I always felt that it was a painful thing. Maybe it’s because I read too much Qiong Yao ,I have always felt that if love is not vigorous and unswerving, it is a kind of "life-death" betrayal.
I don’t know if my grandma once told my uncle about this "tragic" experience on the phone. On this trip, my uncle sat on the kang head and pointed to a picture she wrote on the yellow wall. Say, you go to see the signature.
At this time, my uncle and grandmother have passed away for more than ten years. I stood on the kang and looked at the inscription of the calligraphy. After recognizing it for a long time, I was not sure and said: "Half Yushanren?"
The uncle nodded: the book is not white. Read, you can still recognize words.
The uncle took me to sit down, and dipped his finger with tea on the Kang table while writing and told me: "The word'ou' goes to people, it is'Yu'. And the word'Yi' goes to Baogai to be'Yu'. You When my uncle and grandma passed away, I became a widowed person, and there was a female protagonist in the family called "Yu". I removed the radicals of these two words and added a half word, which means that there are only half of the people left, half My home is now."
The word "shanren" does not need to be explained, and it is compared to "the villager of the mountain." My uncle has read private schools, and he is also famous and well-known. Now it’s okay to give yourself a name when you are old. It’s just that many people use words or places as names, such as "Mr. Zhoushan" or "Mr. Dongpo." Master uncle put the pain and longing of losing his beloved wife in it. This is commendable, and it shows how important the uncle grandma is in his life.
At that time, I was a little rebellious. Although I did not think that the love of the uncle was perfect, I gradually began to feel that perhaps the so-called love is not what I imagined.
If the uncle left home and returned to Yantai, he might win a richer and more exciting life. But who can guarantee that the person he met will definitely give him a period of gentler and happier years than the uncle and grandma gave him.
Abandon the glitz of my life, in exchange for a person who knows each other,This should be worth it.
Concluding remarks:
The bustling red dust, the materialistic world, there is no way to stop, which is the characteristic of people living in this era.
As a middle-aged person, I am busy with my children, and I am busy with children and the elderly. As long as I am awake, I dare not relax. Sometimes I still think about what I will do tomorrow in my dreams.
But the pursuit ahead, is it really the life of our dreams?
Or is it a blind pursuit, and ignoring the happiness around you, is it a loss that is not worth the gain?
Who can say clearly, at the moment of life, what is the most regrettable thing?
If you don't hesitate to take the people in front of you, cherish everything you have.
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